Getting Past Your Breakup is a proven roadmap for overcoming the painful end of any romantic relationship, even divorce. Through her workshops and popular blog, Susan Elliott has helped thousands of clients and readers transform their love lives. Now, she'll help you put your energy back where it belongs--on you. Her plan includes:The rules of disengagement: how and why to go "no contact" with your ex How to work through grief, move past fear, and take back your life The secret to breaking the pattern of failed relationships What to do when you can't stop thinking about your ex, texting, calling, checking social networking sites, or driving by the house
Complete with inspiring stories from real people and strategies to jump-start the moving-on process, Getting Past Your Breakup is the most effective plan for getting permanently past a breakup, getting your confidence back, and opening yourself to true love.
Ten years ago, Gary and Mona Shriver experienced the devastation caused by adultery, and in the course of trying to save themselves, they wrote this book. Raw, transparently honest, the Shrivers’ story alone is an inspiration, offering hope and practical strategies for healing. Now this updated and revised edition adds other real-life stories of betrayal and forgiveness, and new information defining adultery, including the destruction of emotional affairs. Some doubt if a marriage can truly heal after the ravages of infidelity. Unfaithful proves you can. It’s not easy . . . but it can be done. Is it worth it? Yes. And you hold the first step—and hope—in your hand.
In this insightful book, celebrated research psychologist and couples counselor John Gottman plumbs the mysteries of love and shares the results of his famous “Love Lab”: Where does love come from? Why does some love last, and why does some fade? And how can we keep it alive? Based on laboratory findings, this book shows readers how to identify signs, behaviors, and attitudes that indicate a fraying relationship and provides strategies for repairing what may seem lost or broken.
Divorce is difficult under the best of circumstances. When your spouse has borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), or is manipulative, divorcing can be especially complicated. While people with these tendencies may initially appear convincing and even charming to lawyers and judges, you know better—many of these “persuasive blamers” leverage false accusations, attempt to manipulate others, launch verbal and physical attacks, and do everything they can to get their way.
Splitting is your legal and psychological guide to safely navigating a high-conflict divorce from an unpredictable spouse. Written by Bill Eddy, a family lawyer, therapist, and divorce mediator, and Randi Kreger, coauthor of the BPD classic Stop Walking on Eggshells, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way.
Turn to this guide to help you:Predict what your spouse may do or say in court Take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking Choose a lawyer who understands your case Learn how e-mails and social networking can be used against you
Ten disappointing years of marriage. Seven painful years of divorce. One remarkable, true-life story of a love rescued by God.
After years of frustration, Cheryl’s longing for emotional fulfillment led to an affair and, finally, a divorce that left Jeff utterly devastated and seething with anger. Yet, incredibly, seven years later, Jeff and Cheryl once again stood at the altar, promising to “love, honor, and cherish” one another. A new and vibrant love had risen out of the ashes of this family’s pain.
I Do Again reveals the hidden secrets that slowly destroyed this marriage and the spiritual awakening that opened the way to healing. A riveting account of the power of prayer and redemption, this remarkable book offers renewed hope for even the most troubled marriages–and reveals why the rewards of restoration are well worth the wait.
From the Trade Paperback edition.
The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom is the funny and empowering story of the physical and spiritual self-discovery that results from Moore’s sexual awakening. Connecting with a fiery, daring side of her personality that has been subsumed by motherhood and marriage, Moore tries out everything from sex clubs and young gigolos to bondage and multi-partner sex—testing her limits, reclaiming her body, and taking control of her life along the way. More than the story of a woman’s breaking and remaking after divorce, The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom is a humorous, thoughtful exploration of what it means to be a mother and a sexual being, and a reminder that when life slams you down, a little fire won’t burn you—it will awaken you.
As a girl, Genevieve Martin spent the happiest summer of her life in Paris, learning the delicate art of locksmithing at her uncle’s side. But since then, living back in the States, she has become more private, more subdued. She has been an observer of life rather than an active participant, holding herself back from those around her, including her soon-to-be-ex-husband.
Paris never really left Genevieve, and, as her marriage crumbles, she finds herself faced with an incredible opportunity: return to the magical city of her youth to take over her late uncle’s shop. But as she absorbs all that Parisian culture has to offer, she realizes the city also holds secrets about her family that could change her forever, and that locked doors can protect you or imprison you, depending on which side of them you stand.
In this compelling, thought-provoking book, Judith Wallerstein explains that, while children do learn to cope with divorce, it in fact takes its greatest toll in adulthood, when the sons and daughters of divorced parents embark on romantic relationships of their own. Wallerstein sensitively illustrates how children of divorce often feel that their relationships are doomed, seek to avoid conflict, and fear commitment. Failure in their loving relationships often seems to them preordained, even when things are going smoothly. As Wallerstein checks in on the adults she first encountered as youngsters more than twenty-five years ago, she finds that their experiences mesh with those of the millions of other children of divorce, who will find themselves on every page.
With more than 100,000 copies in print, The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce spent three weeks on the New York Times, San Francisco Chronicle, and Denver Post bestseller lists. The book was also featured on two episodes of Oprah as well as on the front cover of Time and the New York Times Book Review.
This insightful and practical guide, written by a therapist with nearly a decade of experience counseling those considering divorce, will help you evaluate your marriage to determine whether you should stay or go. Without bias toward or against the option of divorce, Contemplating Divorce includes helpful tools to guide you to the right decision.
•Use the tests and relationship evaluations to assess your level of fulfillment in your marriage •Learn about the five types of needs happy marriages satisfy•Find out how to fix 'problem areas' in your relationship•Plan for the future, whether you decide to stay or move on
This is a much-needed book. The anxiety in making a life-changing decision is sometimes overwhelming. It is of immense help to have a coach like Susan Pease Gadoua!
-John Bradshaw, best-selling author of Homecoming and Creating Love
Better than therapy! Pease Gadoua allows the reader who is contemplating any great change to process the pros and cons in the confines of his or her own heart and mind, leaving no chance for those on the fence to skip out on the truth. A must-read for any transition.
-Joan Anderson, bestselling author of A Year by the Sea, An Unfinished Marriage, A Walk on the Beach, and The Second Journey
Making an appointment to see a divorce lawyer doesn't mean that the person I am advising necessarily needs or wants a divorce. With Pease Gadoua's wise, thorough, and accessible book, Contemplating Divorce, at last there is a resource I can give to confused and unhappy clients who think the marriage may be over but can't decide whether the embers are truly dead or not.
-Pauline H. Tesler, author of Collaborative Divorce and Collaborative Law
An exceptional and outstanding book for all those considering making the life-altering decision to divorce. Pease Gadoua offers profound personal insight and practical guidance that empowers adults to find clarity, overcome hurdles, and make the best choices for the future of their relationships. I wholeheartedly recommend Contemplating Divorce to men and women alike.
-Helene Taylor, Esq., president and founder of TheModernWomansDivorceGuide.com
This book is not written for women with a weak spirit. It isn’t going to tell you how to mitigate the pain you feel in the wake of a breakup, and it isn’t going to tell you that everything is going to be fine. And while it will tell you how to maximize your chances of getting your ex back, it isn’t going to pretend that there are any ‘tricks’ to make that outcome likely. However, it will do something much more important: it will give you a strong insight into your ex’s state of mind and male psychology in general. This will give you the foundation you need to navigate the breakup and – more importantly – propel yourself into honest and successful relationships with the men in your future.
PART I – UNDERSTANDING WHAT HAPPENED
Men Don’t Fall in Love the Same Way Women Do
The Analogy Between Sex and Commitment
Why This Always Happens to You
Changing Your Perspective
Why You Didn’t See It Coming
Men Don’t Have “Commitment Problems”
The Difference Between Liking You and Liking You Enough
Why Men “Fade Out”
You Weren’t Dating Him in the First Place
The Small Things Didn’t Matter Anyway
Why Your Ex (Who Dumped You) Is Still Contacting You
Your Ex and Guilt
Your Ex and Pride
Your Ex and Decisiveness
Interpreting His Emotions
What’s Going Through His Mind
PART II – HOW TO HANDLE THE BREAKUP
The Importance of Silence after a Breakup
No, You Can’t Be “Just Friends”
How to Know If You Should Cut Him Off
Why It’s Never Too Late
Why You Should Tell Him That You Are Cutting Him Off
What to Say
Managing Your Expectations
When You Should Fight to Save Your Relationship
Exceptions to the Rule
How to Know If You Should Dump Him First
When He Cheats
The Anatomy of Missing Him
PART III – FOLLOWING THROUGH WITH THE BREAKUP
Making Him Jealous Doesn’t Work
Seeing Him at Work
Being Connected with Your Ex on Social Media
Returning His Things and Getting Yours Back
What to Do When He Contacts You
When He Says He Wants Another Chance
Reason and Distraction
Stop Sleeping with Your Ex to Prove He Likes You
PART IV – MOVING ON AND REBUILDING
You Are Responsible for Your Own Romantic Happiness
Stop Letting Him Waste Your Time
Know Why You Want Him Back
Why Getting Him Back Won’t Help
Why Getting Dumped Is a Good Thing
The Importance of Emotional Honesty
Putting the Breakup in Perspective
When You Can Contact Him Again
Reframing the Future
A Final Word
She’s not looking for love…
A girl can have just one night of fun, right? After years in a spirit-breaking former marriage, Evie needed to get her groove back. Cutting loose in the big city with no strings attached—no matter how cute her one night stand guy might be. Besides, she’ll never see him again once she goes home to Wardham.
…He’s not thinking about forever.
Liam knows showing up on her doorstep might throw Evie for a loop. But Wardham’s his new home now, and he just can’t get the sexy single mother out of his mind. A second date isn’t to much to ask, is it? Or a third, and a fourth!
It’s not what they expected. But it might turn out to be just what they need.
Life has a funny way of throwing curveballs, though. Just when things are finally going right for Evie, two little lines on a pregnancy test change everything. Now she’s running scared, and Liam has to pull out all the stops to prove a family with her is everything he’s ever wanted.
The Wardham Series
Between Then and Now (prequel novella - Carrie & Ian)
What Once Was Perfect (Book #1 - Laney & Kyle)
Where Their Hearts Collide (Book #2 - Karen & Paul)
When They Weren't Looking (Book #3 - Evie & Liam)
Beyond Love and Hate (Novella #3.5 - Beth & Finn)
No Time Like Forever (Book #4 - Chase & Mari, coming October 21, 2014)
Keywords: small town romance, romance series, romance short stories, erotic romance, second chances, accidental pregnancy, reunion romance, first loves, ex-boyfriend, friends to lovers, Christmas, sensual, sexy, modern, baby, marriage, Pilates, engineer, millionaire, construction, carpenter, businessman, older woman, younger man, May/December romance, one-night stand, Canadian romance
It leaves you sad, lost, confused, angry, or just plain lonely. You may even feel like you cannot function without your other half. You begin the endless list of questions What am I supposed to do with myself? Why am I not good enough? Was I too overbearing? Did I not give up enough? Itâe(tm)s overwhelming and exhausting, and the only way to recover is to find the help to rebuild your strength and move on.
How to Heal After Heartbreak helps mend your heart and put your life back on track. You will learn the fundamentals of relationships and why yours did not work out. You will get to know what to expect from heartbreak âe" betrayal, competition, self-attack, and denial âe" and how to best handle it.
This book will work you through emotions and tell you how to avoid tantrums, threats, violence, and acts of revenge. Instead, you will learn to walk with grace as you choose the high road to emotional freedom. This comprehensive guide is bursting with tips and advice for coping and will walk you through the steps you need to get back on track and forget about what could have been.
Weâe(tm)ve spent dozens of hours interviewing psychologists and other experts to come up with proven methods of positive psychology to allow you to focus on what makes yourself, and your life, so amazing. Weâe(tm)ll help you bypass the depression and bitterness that so many people struggle with when facing a breakup.
With this helpful prescription to heal your heart, weâe(tm)ll bring the light back into your life, youâe(tm)ll learn the rules about your ex and moving on gracefully so that you can mend the pieces of your broken heart, and move on to a brighter and better you.
Atlantic Publishing is a small, independent publishing company based in Ocala, Florida. Founded over twenty years ago in the company presidentâe(tm)s garage, Atlantic Publishing has grown to become a renowned resource for non-fiction books. Today, over 450 titles are in print covering subjects such as small business, healthy living, management, finance, careers, and real estate. Atlantic Publishing prides itself on producing award winning, high-quality manuals that give readers up-to-date, pertinent information, real-world examples, and case studies with expert advise. Every book has resources, contact information, and web sites of the products or companies discussed.
Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) occurs when divorcing parents use children as pawns, trying to turn the child against the other parent. This book examines the impact of PAS on adults and offers strategies and hope for dealing with the long-term effects.
In The High-Conflict Custody Battle, a team of legal and psychology experts present a practical guidebook for people like you who are engaged in a high-conflict custody battle. If you are dealing with an overtly hostile, inflammatory, deceitful, or manipulative ex-spouse, you will learn how to find and work with an attorney and prepare for a custody evaluation. The book also provides helpful tips you can use to defend yourself against false accusations, and gives a realistic portrayal of what to expect during a legal fight.
Going through a divorce is hard, but going through a custody battle can feel like war. Don’t go in unprepared. With this book as your guide, you will be able to navigate this difficult process and learn powerful skills that will help you maintain a healthy relationship with your kids, fight unfair accusations, and uphold your rights as a parent.
Since its publication in 2000, It's My Life Now has been highly successful as a working manual for survivors who are starting their lives over after an abusive relationship. This valuable book combines direction on practical and emotional issues with worksheets and self-exploration exercises. Now, in the second edition, Dugan and Hock include updated information and resources while encompassing a wider range of individuals and the relationships in which abuse and violence occur. The new edition also provides a new emphasis on safety assessment, which has increasingly been shown to be a critical factor in recovery. In addition, this new edition includes current resources and information about organizations for victims along with revised and enhanced strategies to help survivors move forward on the path of recovery.
- Choosing a lawyer
- What to expect before and in court
- Blended families
- Domestic violence risk factors for women
- What makes a custody agreement good or bad
- Dealing with your emotions
- Parental kidnapping cases
- An appendix of recommended reading
It's a fact that parenting is hard enough in a family where two parents love and respect each other... After divorce, when the respect has diminished and the love has often turned to intense dislike, co-parenting can be nearly impossible, driving one or both parents to the brink of insanity. Joint Custody with a Jerk offers many proven communication techniques that help you deal with your difficult ex-husband or ex-wife. By outlining common problems and teaching tools to examine your own role in these sticky situations, this book conveys strategies for effective mediation that are easy to apply, sensible, timely and innovative.
This revised edition of a bestselling classic sheds light on how today's digital forms of communication can both hurt and help in custody conflicts, and offers updated information throughout that brings age-old issues into the present day.
Over the past decade, Donald Margulies has written some of the most insightful works in contemporary American drama. His body of work includes The Loman Family Picnic, Sight Unseen, The Model Apartment and Collected Stories, and with each succeeding work his audiences have grown. It is no surprise that his newest work is his most critically successful yet. As with all of Margulies’s work, he is a master of observing what might be considered the ordinary moments of life and its foibles with fresh ears. Dinner with Friends is a funny yet bittersweet examination of the married lives of two couples who have been extremely close for dozens of years. Although it seems to be treading on familiar ground, Dinner keeps changing its perspective to show how one couple’s breakup can have equally devastating effects on another’s stability.
"This is a smart and subtle play that understand there are no easy answers as people evolve and relationships settle into routine."—David Kaufman, Daily News
"Donald Margulies has drawn one of the most complex and convincing portraits of a marriage in recent memory."—Debra Jo Immergut, The Wall Street Journal
"Dinner with Friends is entertainment as succulent as it is sobering."—John Simon, New York Magazine
Donald Margulies lives with his wife and son in New Haven, CT. He is the author of numerous plays, including Collected Stories and Sight Unseen.
We enter our romantic relationships with great love, hope, and excitement--we've found the 'one', so we plan and forge our futures together. But sometimes, for many different reasons, relationships come undone; they don't work out. Commonly, we view this as a personal failure, rather than an opportunity. And instead of honoring what we once meant to each other, we hoard bitterness and anger, stewing in shame and resentment. Sometimes even lashing out in destructive and hurtful ways, despite the fact that we’re good people at heart. That's natural: we're almost biologically primed to respond this way.
Yet there is another path to the end of a relationship--one filled with mutual respect, kindness, and deep caring. Katherine Woodward Thomas's groundbreaking method, Conscious Uncoupling, provides the valuable skills and tools for you to travel this challenging terrain with these five thoughtful and thought-provoking steps:
Step 1: Find Emotional Freedom
Step 2: Reclaim Your Power and Your Life
Step 3: Break the Pattern, Heal Your Heart
Step 4: Become a Love Alchemist
Step 5: Create Your Happy Even After Life
This paradigm-shifting guide will steer you away from a bitter end and toward a new life that’s empowered and flourishing.
From the Hardcover edition.
In these pages, acclaimed author and psychotherapist Gregory Popcak shows you how to heal the hurt in your marriage and develop the crucial habits necessary to resolve conflicts, renew the love you once had, and discover the passion you always wanted.
Dr. Popcak’s clinical experience and recent research show that the difference between happy and unhappy marriages lays in the habits — both good and bad — that are practiced in the home. Here you’ll discover the simple steps needed to root out behavior that leaves you resentful and demoralized, and to begin practicing positive habits that facilitate mutual respect and cultivate admiration.
Even if you feel lonely and abandoned in your marriage, Dr. Popcak offers sensible ways you can work alone at resolving conflict, repairing damage, building rapport, and maintaining intimacy. Because of the graces given to husbands and wives, you have tremendous untapped power to be a catalyst for change even if your spouse isn’t participating.
By following the wise advice in this book, you’ll take the guesswork out of building a stable, healthy marriage. You’ll also learn:
- Eight marriage-friendly habits that couples in healthy relationships exhibit
- How to identify those areas of your marriage that require the most attention
- What to do when you feel your spouse is out to get you
- Simple ways to integrate prayer into the life of your marriage
- How to make God part of healing your marriage
- How your mind handles feelings and emotions and what you can do about it
- Tips for keeping your conversations focused on solutions instead of emotions
- How to see each your spouse’s faults as opportunities for you to grow in holiness.
“Dr. Greg offers practical wisdom rooted in a profound understanding of human nature and divine grace. Read it yourself and share it with couples who need it!”
Author, Fill These Hearts: God, Sex, & the Universal Longing
“I heartily recommend this book to all who hope that marriage can last forever. Dr. Popcak provides practical advice -- distilled from decades of counseling experience -- to help couples deepen their love for each other. But this book is more than a list of practical tips: it is permeated with faith in Christ and the realization that His cross is the pathway to our redemption and happiness on earth.”
—Rev. Francis J. Hoffman, JCD, Ex. Director of Relevant Radio, Author of Marriage Insurance: 12 Rules to Live By
Licensed marriage and family therapist Dr. Tara Fields has spent more than twenty-eight years working with couples, and she has discovered that there are five common conflict loops that couples fall into—and three steps to getting past having the same fights over and over again and onward to building a relationship where each partner feels heard, understood, respected, and loved. These steps include:Recognizing the conflict loop at play Exploring past and present fears Creating opportunities to get in touch with the deepest needs of both partners in order to find new gratitude, respect, and trust
Change comes with awareness. When you’re present in the moment, conflict with your partner can become an opportunity to work through unresolved issues and to learn more about each other; it can even become a way to grow closer. In The Love Fix, Fields shares her tested and proven tools to help build stronger relationships, including:Insight from real couples who have repaired their relationships Self-assessment quizzes to get to the root of the problem Practical 3-Minute Fixes you can start using immediately HEARTwork exercises to help you dig deeper in order to reconnect
It’s never too late to reignite your passion and to restore the love between you and your partner. Stop rehashing the same issues, figure out what you’re really fighting about, and start enjoying a happier, stronger relationship today.
"What do I do now?"
Now Laura offers practical answers about divorce that she has found through her own experience and through two decades of caring for those grieving the loss of a marriage. In the midst of pain and confusion, you might also be asking questions such as these:
How do I find where I belong when I no longer know my identity? If my spouse asks for forgiveness, should I go back? If I get an attorney, will my spouse think I'm giving up on our marriage forever? How do I figure out a budget on my own? What should I do when others criticize my ex-spouse in front of my kids? How do I reenter the workplace after years of staying home? How will I know when it's a good time to date again? Does God still care about me? Will I ever be happy again? With straightforward, sensitive answers to these questions and others, Petherbridge offers real-life help, spiritual insights, and new hope for the future.
Includes reflection and discussion questions after each chapter and guidelines for those who love someone who is getting a divorce.
DIVORCE POISON is a time-tested work that gives parents powerful strategies to preserve and rebuild loving relationships with their children-and provides practical advice from legal and mental-health professionals to help their clients and safeguard the welfare of children. Whether they are perpetrators of divorce poison, victims of it, or both, parents who heed Dr. Warshak's advice will enable their children to maintain love and respect for their parents-even if their parents no longer love and respect each other.
InLiving and Loving after Betrayal, therapist and relationship expert Steven Stosny offers effective tools for healing, based on his highly successful CompassionPower program. He founded the CompassionPower agency on the belief that we are more powerful when compassionate than when angry or aggressive, and that true strength comes from relating compassionately to others and remaining true to your deeper values. In this book, you’ll learn practical strategies for overcoming betrayal-induced trauma and the chronic resentment and depression that result, using this innovative compassion-empowerment approach.
Most books on betrayal only focus on the obvious issues, such as infidelity, abuse, or sex addiction. This book explores the effects of those kinds of betrayal, as well as less-talked-about types, such as emotional manipulation, dishonesty, deceit, and financial cheating. In addition, the book helps you regain a sense of trust in others so that you can eventually find another compassionate person to share your life with or, if you choose, to rebuild a relationship with your reformed betrayer.
Recovering from the betrayal of partner isn’t easy, but Living and Loving after Betrayaloffers potent ways to heal, grow, and love again.
As a stepparent with six children in a blended family, Barbara LeBey draws on her own family's hard-won success, as well as on extensive interviews and new research to show how to navigate the stresses, sticking points, pitfalls and perils most couples don't even anticipate. Starting with her first controversial secret--that the new marriage comes first, even before the demands of the children--LeBey debunks prevalent stepfamily myths and anticipates common traps. (Among them, money issues, warring stepsiblings, and destructive exes.) A strong advocate for children (including how to guard against fade-out parenting), she also suggests ways that in-laws, schools, and the legal system itself could provide better support for blended families. REmarried with Children is an expert, compassionate, down-to-earth book to turn to over and over again for advice, support and sanity.
Key topics include how to:
-Meet your children's and stepchildren's needs--without letting them undermine your new marriage
-Understand the new roles, new rules, and the new relationships for children and stepchildren of a blended family
-Deal with angry and/or manipulative exes--without adding fuel to the fire
-Handle key decisions about finances, religion, traditions, behavior and discipline
-Maintain healthy relationships with your children's grandparents--and other relatives--from a previous marriage
-Recognize warning signs of trouble ahead--and get the help you need
From the Hardcover edition.
Things may look bleak right now. Your world is a mix of shock, anger, hurt, and hopelessness. Many of the people around you don't understand the depth of your pain or the complexity of the challenges you face. You feel rejected, betrayed, and exhausted. You wonder if the pain will ever end. But recovery from separation and divorce is possible.
In this 365-day devotional, you will meet men and women who have come through the darkness of separation and divorce and who now walk in the bright hope of God's love and healing. You will be encouraged and inspired by some of today's most respected and well-known Christian leaders and psychologists, including Kay Arthur, Dr. Tim Clinton, H. Norman Wright, and Dr. Tony Evans. The daily readings and heartfelt prayers in DivorceCare affirm God's love for you. You'll discover that the divorce process can be a powerful catalyst for good in your life, transforming deep loss into meaningful growth with God.
"DivorceCare is the finest material . . . it will provide help, hope, and healing for your life and family." -- Dr. Dennis Rainey, President, FamilyLifeTM
"DivorceCare is a wonderful combination of wise advice and assurances that God still loves you." -- Dr. Tim Clinton, President, American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC)
"This devotional encourages, inspires, and brings hope to healing hearts. Daily you will be reminded that you are loved, cared for, and can face life with a renewed confidence that comes only from God." -- Dr. Linda Mintle, Author of Divorce Proofing Your Marriage and Breaking Free from Anger and Unforgiveness
From your first thought of divorce through the final paperwork, Your Divorce Advisor takes you step by step toward a divorce that dissolves the marriage but not your dignity, your sense of family, or your financial security. Whether you hire a lawyer or a mediator, or do it yourself, this practical, direct, and empowering guide offers you the wise counsel you need for both the legal and the emotional processes of ending your marriage.
Your Divorce Advisor shows you how to:
-Keep a healthy perspective that leads to a successful legal strategy and recognize when emotions threaten your case
-Protect your assets without destroying your family
-Detailed coverage of all your legal options and guidance through every legal step, including anticipating the emotional repercussions of your decisions
-More information on custody than any other divorce book, including age-appropriate custody schedules
-A sample divorce agreement explained one paragraph at a time
Your Divorce Advisor helps you set yourself and your family on a positive course toward a new life.
The breakup of a family can have an enduring impact on children. But as Dr. JoAnne Pedro-Carroll explains with clarity and compassion in this powerful book, parents can positively alter the immediate and long-term effects of divorce on their children. The key is proven, emotionally intelligent parenting strategies that promote children's emotional health, resilience, and ability to lead satisfying lives.
Over the past three decades, Pedro-Carroll has worked with families in transition, conducted research, and developed and directed award- winning, court-endorsed programs that have helped thousands of families navigate divorce and its aftermath. Now she shares practical, research- based advice that helps parents:
?gain a deeper understanding of what their children are experiencing
?develop emotionally intelligent parenting strategies with the critical combination of boundless love and appropriate limits on behavior
?reduce conflict with a former spouse and protect children from conflict's damaging effects
?learn what recent brain research reveals about stress and children's developing capabilities
Filled with the voices and drawings of children and the stories of families, Putting Children First delivers a positive vision for a future of hope and healing.
Challenging the stereotype that children of divorce are emotionally troubled, drug abusing, academically challenged, and otherwise failing, Dr. Ahrons reveals that most children can and do adapt, and that many even thrive in the face of family change. Although divorce is never easy for any family, she shows that it does not have to destroy children's lives or lead to a family breakdown. With the insight of these grown children and the advice of this gifted family therapist, divorcing parents will find helpful road maps identifying both the benefits and the harms to which postdivorce children are exposed and, ultimately, what they can do to maintain family bonds.
In response to this conflict, some children become aligned with one parent against the other – even a parent who has done nothing to warrant the hostile rejection of their formerly loving children. These “targeted” parents suffer from the loss of time with their children, the pain of watching their children become distant, even cruel, and the uncertainty of not knowing if and when their children will come back to them. These parents are on a painful journey with an uncertain outcome. Surviving Parental Alienation fills the tremendous need for concrete help for these parents.
Too often parental alienation stories that are shared by word of mouth, on the internet, or in books depict unending pain and frightening outcomes. Surviving Parental Alienation provides true stories and information about parents who have reconnected with their lost and stolen children, and offers better insight and understanding into what exactly parental alienation is and how to handle it.
Targeted parents are desperate to be understood and to find cause for hope, even as they search for answers. Surviving Parental Alienation is where they can start to find this hope.
When it's down on the page, you can examine your emotions with more rationality. A journal is a safe place to express your honest thoughts and emotions without the risk of judgment from others. As you follow these writing prompts, you'll find that inner part of your soul emerging to guide you and give you the answers you didn't think you had. You’ll begin to understand why your relationship didn't work out, as well as uncover some of the insecurities and blockages to your happiness, and how to find the gifts and lesson in your current state of pain and recovery.
Coping with a breakup or divorce is a challenging time and everyone heals at their own pace. This book gives you <b>30 journal prompts to get to the heart of the matter and help you speed up the recovery process</b>. Each one begins with an inspirational quote from great men and women of the past and present You can do the journal prompts consecutively, or you can pace them by taking breaks between the days if you find the work to be emotionally heavy.
A relationship consists of two people, which is why this book is divided into two sections: 15 prompts about your ex, and 15 that focuses on you.
By doing this work, you'll be taking the steps to:
♥Let go of your ex
♥Uncover what made you incompatible
♥Why you were attracted to him in the first place
♥Analyze your true beliefs about love
♥How to be more positive in love and in life
♥Find out what REALLY makes you happy in a romantic relationship
♥How to take care of yourself and fulfill your own happiness and be less needy
♥How to create a healthy, inter-dependent relationship the next time around
Whether it's letting go of a first love or healing from a nasty divorce, letting go of an ex is the first step in attracting your TRUE soulmate into your life. Buy the book and get started with this work today.
Do you know what assets or how much alimony or child support you are entitled to receive? Has your spouse threatened to leave you penniless? Have you spoken to an attorney and gotten sticker-shock? Do you earn too much money to qualify for free legal aid? Are you unable to decipher the scary-looking legal forms your spouse keeps sending you in the mail? This book was written to help the low- and moderate-income women the legal system has abandoned by walking a hypothetical self-represented woman step-by-step through the divorce process. Including:
1. How to prepare financially to stand on your own two feet;
2. What the court can, and cannot do for you;
3. 'Legwork' that can save you money on legal fees and help you get a better outcome;
4. How much child support and alimony you might be entitled to receive;
5. How to show a judge that your spouse is lying about his assets and income;
6. What property you are entitled to receive … and should ask for;
7. Ways vindictive ex-spouses can screw you over;
8. Real life dirty tricks, traps, and pitfalls highlighted so you can avoid them;
9. How to find a good attorney, save legal fees, or piece together legal services if you can't afford a full-service attorney;
10. Mediation … benefits and pitfalls;
11. How to dig up information your spouse doesn't want you to know (discovery) like an attorney does;
12. Common court forms and how to fill them out;
13. Separation Agreements dissected and clarified (including a sample boilerplate);
14. Sample discovery requests and motions;
15. Sample hearing scripts for common court hearings (including Temporary Orders and Trial);
16. Restraining orders … how to get one … how to keep one;
17. Custody disputes … 'fatal flaws' and how you can fix them.
Everything you NEVER wanted to know about divorce … but need to come up to speed … FAST!!! This is the only self-help legal book written by someone who was once in your shoes who later went back to school to become an attorney!
550 pages + bonus printable Separation Agreement forms
Legal Disclaimer: This book is not meant to constitute legal advice. Please consult with a local attorney before making any decisions which might affect your legal rights. The author is licensed to practice law in Massachusetts and uses Massachusetts examples in the text.
Kirkus Review: "Attorney Merrill leads women through the complicated process of divorce while warning against common mistakes, including how to document assets, estimate child support and alimony, and even, if necessary, obtain restraining orders. She discusses many topics related to asset division and child custody, including marital debt and visitation rights. The book is aimed at the broadest possible audience, but it also discusses variations in state laws. A solid, informative self-help divorce guide."
Cape Cod Times: "Here is a book that will be indispensable to a certain segment of the reading public. Attorney Anna Merrill has spent the past decade working with a variety of nonprofits ... I think one can say that she has seen up close the effect on women of bad relationships and divorce. Now that experience has been set down in a sizable reference work of text, worksheets, graphics and more that will help women fortify themselves for divorce and protect their interests."
Note: due to the extensive use of charts and tables, this book is only available in a .pdf format. Mid-sized e-reading devices can best read this book by turning your e-reader horizontally, but if you generally read on a Smart Phone, the text will become too small for you to read. In that case, we suggest you purchase the PRINT edition.
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