Based on the acclaimed sermon series by New York Times bestselling author Timothy Keller, this book shows everyone—Christians, skeptics, singles, longtime married couples, and those about to be engaged—the vision of what marriage should be according to the Bible.
Modern culture would have you believe that everyone has a soul mate; that romance is the most important part of a successful marriage; that your spouse is there to help you realize your potential; that marriage does not mean forever, but merely for now; and that starting over after a divorce is the best solution to seemingly intractable marriage issues. But these modern-day assumptions are wrong. Timothy Keller, with insights from Kathy, his wife of thirty-seven years, shows marriage to be a glorious relationship that is also misunderstood and mysterious. The Meaning of Marriage offers instruction on how to have a successful marriage, and is essential reading for anyone who wants to know God and love more deeply in this life.
Look out for Timothy Keller's latest book, God's Wisdom for Navigating Life, available from Viking in Fall 2017.
Why does my life have to be so painful?
What’s wrong with me?
It’s not going to get better.
It could all be over soon, and then I won’t hurt anymore.
Kristen Anderson thought she had the picture-perfect life until strokes of gray dimmed her outlook: three friends and her grandmother died within two years. Still reeling from these losses, she was raped by a friend she thought she could trust. She soon spiraled into a seemingly bottomless depression.
One January night, the seventeen-year-old decided she no longer wanted to deal with the emotional pain that smothered her. She lay down on a set of cold railroad tracks and waited for a freight train to send her to heaven…and peace.
But Kristen's story doesn’t end there.
In Life, In Spite of Me this remarkably joyful young woman shares the miracle of her survival, the agonizing aftermath of her failed suicide attempt, and the hope that has completely transformed her life, giving her a powerful purpose for living.
Her gripping story of finding joy against all odds provides a vivid and unforgettable reminder that life is a gift to be treasured.
Includes notes of encouragement Kristen wishes she had received when she was struggling most.
From the Hardcover edition.
You can’t put it into words, but something is happening to you. Your stomach churns, your heart aches, and the tension in your marriage is making you feel weary and a little crazy. The constant criticism, disrespect, cruelty, deceit, and gross indifference are eroding your confidence and breaking your spirit.
For any woman caught in an emotionally destructive marriage, Leslie Vernick offers a personalized path forward. Based on decades of counseling experience, her intensely practical, biblical advice will show you how to establish boundaries and break free from emotional abuse. Learn to:
· identify damaging behaviors
· gain the skills to respond wisely
· promote healthy change
· stay safe
· understand when, why, and even how to leave
· recognize that God sees and hates what is happening to you
Trying harder to be a perfect fantasy wife won’t help fix what’s wrong your marriage. Discover instead how you can initiate effective changes to stop the cycle of destruction and restore hope for the future.
“Women in an emotionally abusive marriage do not need another book on how to have a good marriage; those books rub salt in raw wounds. No, they desperately need this book so that they can diagnose just how bad their marriage is and then, with Leslie’s clear expertise, develop a plan that will either begin to turn their marriage around...or give them a wise route of escape.”
—Dee Brestin, author of Idol Lies and The Friendships of Women
From the Trade Paperback edition.
In Finally Free, Dr. Heath Lambert, a leader in the biblical counseling movement, lays out eight gospel-centered strategies for overcoming the deceitful lure of pornography. Each chapter clearly demonstrates how the gospel applies to this particular battle and how Jesus can move readers from a life of struggle to a life of purity.
If you or someone you care about is fighting this battle, there is good news: No matter how intense or long-standing the struggle, Jesus Christ can, will, and does set people free from the power of pornography.
The sexual addictions of pornography and masturbation are not just men’s issues. They’re women’s issues, too. Research shows that 25% of Christian women are addicted to pornography. But 70% of these women will never admit their struggle.
In Dirty Girls Come Clean, Crystal Renaud aims to change these statistics and help you gain freedom from sexual addiction.
Why This Book?
So often, ministries and tools for overcoming these sexual addictions are more accessible to men than they are to women. Even if these ministries and tools were accessible to women, they may not be as effective in giving freedom because women turn to pornography for different reasons than men do.
Women need a resource crafted specifically for them.
A Trusted Source
Crystal, founder of Dirty Girls Ministries and AACC certified counselor, comes clean first. Her story of addiction to pornography began when she was 10 years old and continued and intensified for eight years.
During this time of sexual addiction, Crystal deceived and withdrew. She came to know shame intimately, and she thought she was alone in her struggle.
After coming clean about her sexual addiction, Crystal also includes stories of other women who have come clean about theirs.
A Plan for Freedom
Crystal is determined to help women come clean and, by God’s grace and power, get free.
Addressing both the sexual addictions themselves as well as underlying issues that cause them, Crystal provides a plan for freedom using the acronym SCARS.S—Surrender: Trusting the HealerC—Confession: Out of the DarknessA—Accountability: Restoring Our Character R—Responsibility: Owning My Part of the Story S—Sharing: God Never Wastes an Experience
In addition to her plan for freedom from sexual addiction, Crystal provides other resources such as: personal inventories, the twelve steps of sexaholics anonymous, online accountability programs, other books, and links to recovery groups.
Join Crystal and many others who have claimed freedom from sexual addiction. Now is your time to come clean and be free.
“With the recent release of Crystal’s book Dirty Girls Come Clean women now have the tools they need to fight a battle that many assume only ensnares men.
I can only imagine what kind of hope and encouragement this book is going to offer women who have believed for years, decades, that they were the only ones struggling and there was no hope for them.”
-Book review by Marsha Fisher on porntopurity.com
An Excerpt from the First Chapter:
This book is for you, the woman who feels alone in addiction to pornography. I don’t believe in coincidences. This book is in your hands because God wants to speak some truth to you, and, for whatever reason, He’s chosen to use this book to do so.
The dark cloud of this addiction is far-reaching. Pornography addiction knows no path other than one of destruction, isolation, and suffocation. Pornography addiction knows no creed. Pornography addiction knows no gender.
We are all sexual beings. If not, you and I would not be living on this earth. So to believe that pornography can only be a man’s problem is not only false, but it is an ignorant lie that comes from the enemy.
The enemy, Satan, deceived Even in the garden of Eden by convincing her that if she ate the forbidden fruit, she would be like God. She in turn offered Adam the fruit, he took some, and as a result of their disobedience, they were expelled from the beautiful garden where they had enjoyed perfect fellowship with God. Satan’s goal was to destroy. And the enemy has been trying to destroy women ever since.
From the first bite of forbidden fruit to pornography addiction, the enemy will use whatever he can to deceive us and keep us ineffective for use in the kingdom of God.
May you find comfort in knowing that not only are you not alone in your struggle, but there is hope for breaking the stronghold of this addiction.
And that hope comes from Jesus.
I write this book from a Christian point of view because it is my personal belief that Jesus is the reason I stand free from pornography today. But as I said, pornography addiction knows no creed. Pornography affects everyone. So it is my hope that the steps provided throughout this book will be beneficial to all women, from all walks of life.
You were created for so much more than this life you’ve been living. Life is to be lived abundantly. It is time to come on out from behind the bushes.
Life is waiting.
Few challenges in life are as difficult as regaining a wife’s trust—and few are as ultimately worthwhile. Trust can be rebuilt in your marriage! With patient, loving, self-sacrificing effort, it’s possible that one day your wife will risk her heart with you again. And she may even have more respect and love for you than before.
In Worthy of Her Trust, Jason Martinkus relates how he repaired his own marriage after revelations of sexual addiction. Along with Stephen Arterburn, Jason offers exercises and tools rooted in counseling principles to help your marriage begin again. This comprehensive guide discusses:
· How to be truly and effectively transparent
· Combating the “he must not love me” myth and other untruths
· What to do about the Internet, office temptations, and travel
· Encouragement for wives who wonder if trust can ever be restored
· The “five-minute phone call” and other daily trust-building strategies
· What meaningful forgiveness and restitution look like
· The Amends Matrix—a concrete exercise to admit past wrongs and cast a vision for a faithful future
Including insights from Jason’s wife, Shelley, Worthy of Her Trust guides you through the process of rebuilding your relationship so it is stronger than ever.
Wrong thinking produces wrong emotions, wrong reactions, wrong behavior--and unhappiness! Learning to deal with your thoughts is the first step on the road to healthy thinking.
How to handle one's thoughts properly is what this book is all about! It explains the life-changing method the authors call Misbelief Therapy, and it can work for you--
In your home
In your own circumstances
In your own problems
In your own adverse environment
In your own thinking
Based on the Bible, this book has helped thousands of people for many years, and it can help you!
Telling Yourself the Truth can show you how to identify your own misbeliefs and replace them with the truth.
Also available: the corresponding Telling Yourself the Truth study guide.
Winner of the Gold Book Award (500,000 copies sold),
Winner of the Gold Medallion Award (ECPA), which recognizes excellence in evangelical Christian literature
Redemption is not a step-oriented recovery book; it’s story-oriented and Bible-anchored. It unfolds the back-story of redemption in Exodus to help Christians better understand how Christ redeems us from the slavery of abuse, addiction and assorted trouble and restores us to our created purpose, the worship of God. Readers will discover that the reward of freedom is more than victory over a habitual sin or release from shame; it is satisfaction and rest in God himself. Part of the Re:Lit series.
Looking away from despair towards hope can feel risky. What if God doesn't come through for you? What if you don't feel instantly better? Instead of offering simple platitudes or unrealistic "cure-all" formulas, Edward T. Welch addresses the complex nature of depression with compassion and insight, applying the rich treasures of the gospel, and giving fresh hope to those who struggle. Originally published as Depression: A Stubborn Darkness—Light for the Path, this new edition is updated with added content.
“I cannot overstate the importance, timeliness, and helpfulness of this book. Ed has given us the wisdom that only comes from a heart shaped by the gospel and a deep compassion for people, generated by the love of Jesus. This is a must read and a must share.”
Scotty Smith, Senior Pastor, Christ Community Church; author of The Reign of Grace and Objects of His Affection
“An all-too-rare combination of gospel understanding, biblical wisdom, personal empathy and long counseling experience shines through these pages. What is most needed is a course of divinely prescribed anti-depressants. Like a skilled spiritual pharmacist, Ed Welch fills that prescription for us.”
Sinclair B. Ferguson, Senior Minister, First Presbyterian Church, Columbia, S.C.; theologian; author of The Christian Life
"I have come to rely on Ed Welch and others at CCEF for guidance and insight in better understanding the issues of the soul that plague many people today. For those who want to address more than just the symptoms of depression, Ed's counsel is invaluable."
Bob Lepine, Co-Host, FamilyLife Today
tools and practical help for overcoming the demonic
how to handle the raging battle of temptation
techniques to keep yourself refreshed during the fight
characteristics of demonic entities and their strategies
how to break curses
the healing qualities of blessings
With a companion study guide also available, Goll's action-oriented approach walks readers step by step through the process of freeing both themselves and others from problems they cannot overcome. When believers claim their authority in Christ, hope and healing can be theirs.
--Dr. Mark L. Bailey
President, Dallas Theological Seminary
Bestselling author June Hunt's Biblical Counseling Handbook is now available as an ebook! This powerful resource is based on many years of careful research, thousands of counseling phone calls, and countless hundreds of pages of written resources produced by Hope for the Heart.
This handbook brings together the very best of June's extraordinary counseling ministry, which has offered Christ-centered hope and guidance to people around the world. The 50 chapters deal with the most pressing issues people face today, and offer practical solutions firmly based on Scripture. Among the topics are...
anger & adultery fear & phobias
alcohol & drug abuse guilt & grief
codependency & cults rejection & rape
depression & divorce self-worth & suicide
Readers will want to keep this life-changing resource handy alongside their Bibles.
Ingram and Johnson help readers identify whether they are spewers, leakers, or stuffers. Readers also learn the difference between good and bad anger, how to gain control of their anger, and how to direct it toward constructive ends. The authors cover solid biblical principles as well as the psychological aspects of our emotions, showing readers how they can actually be constructive tools used by God to transform lives and relationships. Counselors, pastors, and individual Christians will find this book a no-nonsense tool for handling destructive emotions in a healthy way. Now available in trade paper.
The book comprises thirty-three bite-size chapters---since it presumes readers are spending much of their time caring for (or bailing out) the alcoholic they love. Specific cases are described in particular, such as parents who live with teenaged alcoholics; children who have to care for elderly alcoholics; and what to do with that sometimes dry/sometimes even sober alcoholic who always seems to ultimately fall off the wagon
Making the book unique are the many stories of former patients, clients, and members of AA in their own words (anonymously, of course). These testimonies, which do not always end in a pot of gold, make not only for compelling (and sometimes heart-rending) reading, but also add a patina of authenticity to the book: if these people can learn to help the alcoholic they love, then perhaps you can too
Ultimately this is a book of acceptance, forgiveness, and love---all of which must begin with oneself. A bibliography completes the work
Mark R. McMinn, Ph.D., is professor of psychology at Wheaton College Graduate School in Wheaton, Illinois, where he directs and teaches in the Doctor of Psychology program. A diplomate in Clinical Psychology of the American Board of Professional Psychology, McMinn has thirteen years of postdoctoral experience in counseling, psychotherapy, and psychological testing. McMinn is the author of Making the Best of Stress: How Life's Hassles Can Form the Fruit of the Spirit; The Jekyll/Hyde Syndrome: Controlling Inner Conflict through Authentic Living; Cognitive Therapy Techniques in Christian Counseling; and Christians in the Crossfire (written with James D. Foster). He and his wife, Lisa, have three daughters.
Coming from a dysfunctional family can often make a person feel helpless—doomed to repeat the same mistakes and behaviors as their parents. June emphasizes that change is possible. Using the familiar Bible story of Joseph and his brothers, June reveals how God can use one family member yielded to Him to change the dynamics of an entire family. She also tells the remarkable true story of Catherine Brown Deeken, a woman who grew up in a shattered home with 2 alcoholics, but who now (through the grace of God) runs Rainbow Days, a ministry which supports over 65,000 children who are living in high-risk situations.
Compassionate in its approach, rich with scripture, and easy-to-understand, this ebook explains how to reverse the impact of unhealthy family relationships
• Includes a quick overview and key definitions. Answers— What is a dysfunctional family? What is a "functional" family? What are the dysfunctional family roles? How does being raised in a dysfunctional family affect future relationships?
• Reveals signs, symptoms, and common characteristics of a dysfunctional family. Explains the 8 dominant traits characterized by dysfunctional families, including chaos, control, denial, inconsistency, emotional indifference, instability, shame, and unpredictability.
• Explains how unresolved conflicts in the past often cause children to repeat the dysfunctional behavior of their parents. Includes a checklist to see if you—or someone you know—is showing signs of unresolved conflict.
• Provides dozens of step-by-steps suggestions and practical ways to replace "old mindsets and behaviors" from unhealthy family relationships with God's truth.
What Is a Dysfunctional Family?
• A dysfunctional family is one where improper and immature behavior of at least one parent damages the growth of individuality and healthy relational skills among family members.
• A dysfunctional family is one where family members are negatively affected emotionally, psychologically and spiritually.
• A dysfunctional family is one where everyone is negatively affected even when only one family member experiences a problem.
Dysfunctional Families Produce Dysfunctional Families
Dysfunction looks different in each family. Here are some of the ways dysfunction can creep into the family unit:
• Overly possessive or faultfinding parents
• Poor organization or overly rigid structure
• Inconsistent and indecisive parents
• Emotionally abandoned children (including emotional abuse)
• Overly rigid structure or lacking parental authority
How Do Kids Cope? 4 Dysfunctional Family Roles Children Adopt
When parents are unable to manage their lives, children learn to cope by playing specific roles in the family or "acting out" in damaging ways. Typically, the child will adopt one of four roles:
• The Responsible Child
The "hero" tries to fix the family problems and help create a positive family image through noteworthy achievement. This child receives positive attention but often develops perfectionistic, compulsive behaviors.
• The Rebellious Child
The "scapegoat" draws focus away from the family's problems and onto himself or herself with rebellious, uncontrollable behavior. This child consumes time and energy from the family members and often develops self-destructive life patterns.
• The Reclusive Child
The "lost child" hopes that by ignoring family problems, the difficulties will go away. This child avoids attention and is often lonely and withdrawn.
• The Reveling Child
The "clown" uses humor and antics to direct the focus away from family problems. This child is often highly active or hyperactive and usually seeks to be the center of attention.
A child may even display a combination of these traits or progress through different stages as they attempt to manage their emotional pain...just seeking to survive. To find out more about the coping devices children us, check out June Hunt's Dysfunctional Family.
How can I accept and let go of my dysfunctional past?
Life is a series of choices! Here's just a few choices you (and those you are helping) can make to begin breaking free from the influence of your past. I will...
• Give Christ first place in my heart.
Ask Jesus to be Lord of my life. Accept His forgiveness and love.
Be aware of His constant presence within me. Allow Him to lead in all I say and do.
• Give thought to my present dysfunctional characteristics.
Pray for God to reveal my weaknesses. Pray for wisdom to understand how to change. Pray that I will draw on Christ, who is my strength, to make changes. Pray for wise and discerning friends to enlighten and encourage me.
• Give myself boundaries.
Define who I am: "I am a child of God," and who I am not: "I am not a piece of property." Refuse to be manipulated or mistreated and learn to say, "No." Stop playing the victim: "As an adult, I am not powerless."
• Give up resentment
Consider the consequences of unforgiveness. Confess my own areas of unforgiveness. Contemplate the sins for which I have received forgiveness. Choose to forgive and keep on choosing to forgive.
"When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me." (1 Corinthians 13:11)
The dynamics of dysfunction are detrimental to the family. Discover how to cultivate your family now for the generations that follow as you establish and apply the principles of biblical truth in your own family.
Look for all 36 titles in the Hope For The Heart Biblical Counseling Library. These mini-books are for people who seek freedom from codependency, anger, conflict, verbal and emotional abuse, depression, or other problems.
When the Bible talks about the gift of a new heart, it doesn't mean a heart that is immediately perfected, but a heart that is capable of being changed. Jesus' work on the cross targets our hearts, our core desires and motivations, and when our hearts change, our behavior changes. It's amazing to watch people who once seemed stuck in a pattern of words, choices, and behaviors start living in a new way as Christ changes their hearts.
With great compassion Allender offers hope for victims of rape, date rape, incest, molestation, sexting, sexual bullying, unwanted advances, pornography, and more, exposing the raw wounds that are left behind and clearing the path toward wholeness and healing. Never minimizing victims' pain or offering pat spiritual answers that don't truly address the problem, he instead calls evil evil and lights the way to renewed joy.
Counselors, pastors, and friends of those who have suffered sexual harm will find in this book the deep spiritual guidance they need to effectively minister to the sexually broken around them. Victims themselves will find here a sympathetic friend to walk alongside them on the road to healing.
Shame controls far too many of us. Worthless, inferior, rejected, weak, humiliated, failure...it all adds up to wishing we could get away from others and hide. We know what shame feels like. The way out, however, is harder to find. Time doesn't help, neither does confession, because shame is just as often from what others do to you as it is from what you have done. But the Bible is about shame from start to finish, and, if we are willing, God's beautiful words break through.
Look at Jesus through the lens of shame and see how the marginalized and worthless are his favorites and become his people. God cares for the shamed. Through Jesus you are covered, adopted, cleansed, and healed.
Men Counseling Men is an exciting new resource on how to counsel men about the difficulties they face. Written by the school's faculty members, it is an accessible, practical volume that will equip both trained professionals and lay people to provide solidly biblical help for men who are struggling with a variety of major life issues.
Readers will learn how they can offer hope and encouragement in relation to...depressionparentingangerconflict resolutionphysical afflictionsexual puritymarital relationshipsrebuilding a marriage after adultery
God's Word possesses incredible power. This book will help men experience that power as they turn to the Lord for help.
A warm and compassionate tone and life-changing insights combine to make this bestseller an invaluable guide for readers faced with the need to forgive and an excellent resource for pastors, counselors, and other emotional caregivers.
There are all types of grief; from the normal expression you feel when something tragic and unexpected happens, such as the loss of a loved one, to chronic grief and repressed grief. This Christian book will help you determine what may have caused grief in your life and help you on the steps to recovery. Learn what ‚"grief work‚" is and how it can help you commit to working through difficult grief and the stress that goes along with it. The effects of not experiencing healthy grief work may result in becoming isolated, insulated, inverted, immortalized, and denying your grief altogether.
In the section titled, "Steps to Solution," June Hunt gives you practical advice on how to:
•Navigate through the Stages of Grief
•Resolve Grief Caused by True Guilt
•Move from Crisis to Contentment
•Let Go, Say Goodbye, and Find Peace
•Encourage Others to Overcome Loss
As you place your seasons of sorrow in God's hands, He promises to take you from sadness to strength, from pain to peace, and from darkness to the dawn of a new day. Experience God's peace for today and His hope for a vibrant, happy tomorrow.
Look for all 25 titles in the Hope For The Heart Biblical Counseling Library. These mini-books are for people who seek freedom from codependency, anger, conflict, verbal and emotional abuse, depression, or other problems.
Great as a stand-alone resource or partnered with the Getting Ready for Marriage: A Practical Road Map for Your Journey Together book and companion video package.
A pastor’s responsibilities are unique, demanding that he not only nurture his own spiritual life but also the lives of those in his care. What a challenge this can be!
Derek Prime and Alistair Begg provide practical advice for both the spiritual and practical aspects of pastoral ministry. They delve deep into topics such as prayer, devotional habits, preaching, studying, and specific ministry duties. The result is an essential tool for those in pastoral ministry.
Experts estimate that 1-in-3 women suffer from some form of violence from a husband, boyfriend, or relative. In too many homes around the world, the marriage bond has become bondage--shared lives have become shattered by abuse. Yet these secret assaults stay hidden from the outside world.
Any form of abuse is a flagrant violation of the marriage vows, To have and to hold from this day forward, "to love and to cherish, 'til death do us part." And although such abuse is too frequently behind closed doors, it is blatantly in the open before the eyes of the Lord.
Included in the mini-book Domestic Violence: Assault on a Woman's Worth are abuse checklists with a list of behaviors that you may have observed or experienced. God has a heart for those who are victims of domestic violence. He wants you to know that he hears your cries; he thinks you are worthy of love without violence, and he holds you in the palm of his hand. Learn the causes of violent behavior and the reasons many women won't leave abusive relationships.
In the section titled, "Steps to Solution," June Hunt gives many tools:
• How to answer a person who claims that violence is justified.
• How to know whether the abuser has really changed
• How to build healthy boundaries
• How to prepare a safety plan
• How to use the law in the United States
• And much more.
How to set healthy boundaries and have healthy relationships
You've heard plenty about getting hooked on drugs or alcohol or sitting at slot machines from sunup to sundown, but can you really become addicted to a person? The answer is yes--codependency is a relationship addiction. A codependent is anyone who is dependent on another person to the point of being controlled or manipulated by that person. Learn how to set healthy boundaries, and how to be released from relationship addiction by renewing your commitment to Christ first.
June Hunt starts this mini--book with stories of biblical people who ultimately compromised their relationship with God by being overly dependent on others, getting trapped in a codependent relationship.
Codependency will shed light on the spiritual implications of relationships that take precedence over your relationship with the Lord. Helpful checklists like ‚"the codependent relationship profile‚" will help you determine whether or not you are in a codependent relationship. Also learn what the five stages of childhood development are, and how you can keep your children from having an unhealthy dependence on you.
The last section titled ‚"Steps to Solution‚" gives Biblical advice on how to keep away from idolatrous, or codependent relationships, such as:
•Recovery steps to confronting codependency
•7 steps to independent relationships
•Help from an unhealthy relationship
•7 principles for finding the road to relationship freedom
•And much more.
Look for all 25 titles in the Hope For The Heart Biblical Counseling Library. These mini-books are for people who seek freedom from codependency, anger, conflict, verbal and emotional abuse, depression, or other problems.
Justin and Lindsey Holcomb present a clear definition of sexual assault and outline a biblical approach for moving from destruction to redemption. Rid of My Disgrace applies a theology of redemption to the grief, shame, and sense of defilement victims experience. This book is primarily written for them, but can also equip pastors, ministry staff, and others to respond compassionately to those who have been assaulted. Part of the Re:Lit series.
In How to Rise Above Abuse, June offers compassionate, practical guidance for the tough issues of verbal and emotional abuse, spouse abuse, childhood sexual abuse, rape recovery, victimization, and spiritual abuse.
Readers will learn the definitions, characteristics, and causes that, once understood, empower them to take steps toward lasting solutions. They'll find out how to...identify and deal with unresolved anger, grief, or painrely on Christ for strength when they have noneforgive their offender and help other victimsregain confidence, hope, and peace for the futureplace complete trust in God at all times
Only the Lord Jesus Christ can heal broken hearts. This book for counselors and counselees will show how those who are hurting can yield to His care.