—Ken Wilber, author of Sex, Ecology, Spirituality; No Boundary; and Grace and Grit
"At last! A book that explains the heart and soul of a woman to men. As a woman, I've never felt so understood and validated. This book is a key to helping men and women take their relationships one step further. Finally, a clear and brilliant guide to unraveling the mystery of relationships."
—Marci Shimoff, co-author of the New York Times #1 bestseller Chicken Soup for the Woman's Soul
"The Way of the Superior Man lays out a challenge before all men to fulfill their true purpose and to be authentically masculine. It will guide you on your journey to a successful and spiritually complete way of life. I invite you to live in the moment, to love openly, and to step up to the plate with this book in your hand."
—Tony Robbins, author of Awaken the Giant Within and Unlimited Power
The Ultimate Spiritual Guide for Men
What is your true purpose in life? What do women really want? What makes a good lover? If you're a man reading this, you've undoubtedly asked yourself these questions—but you may not have had much luck answering them. Until now.
In The Way of the Superior Man, David Deida explores the most important issues in men's lives—from career and family to women and intimacy to love and spirituality and relationships—to offer a practical guidebook for living a masculine life of integrity, authenticity, and freedom. Join this bestselling author and internationally renowned expert on sexual spirituality for straightforward advice, empowering skills, body practices, and more to help you realize a life of fulfillment, immediately and without compromise.
"It is time to evolve beyond the macho jerk ideal, all spine and no heart," writes David Deida. "It is also time to evolve beyond the sensitive and caring wimp ideal, all heart and no spine." The Way of the Superior Man presents the ultimate challenge—and reward—for today's man: to discoverthe 'unity of heart and spine' through the full expression of consciousness and love in the infinite openness of the present moment.
Part One: A Man's Way
Part Two: Dealing With Women
Part Three: Working With Polarity and Energy
Part Four: What Women Really Want
Part Five: Your Dark Side
Part Six: Feminine Attractiveness
Part Seven: Body Practices
Part Eight: Men's and Women's Yoga of Intimacy
This book is a guide for a specific kind of newly evolving man. This man is unabashedly masculine-- he is purposeful, confident, and directed, living his chosen way of life with deep integrity and humor-- and he is sensitive, spontaneous, and spiritually alive, with a heart-commitment to discovering and living his deepest truth.
This newly evolving man is not a scared bully, posturing like some King Kong in charge of the universe. Nor is he a new age wimp, are spineless, smiley, and starry-eyed. He has embraced both his inner masculine and feminine, and he no longer holds onto either of them. He doesn't need to be right all the time, nor does he need to always be safe, cooperative, and sharing, like an androgynous Mr. Nice Guy. He simply lives from his deepest core, fearlessly living his gifts, feeling through the fleeting moment into the openness of existence, totally committed to magnifying love.
Provocative and direct, The Enlightened Sex Manual teaches you how to transform simple "skin friction" into the depths and embodiment of ecstasy; how to develop sexual abilities as gifts of heart rapture and bodily surrender; how to achieve the principal types of orgasm and all their varieties; and much more.
For men and women, singles and couples of every sexual orientation, The Enlightened Sex Manual provides a complete program for sustaining "whole-body recognition of love's light" in the wild play of sexuality.
In Dear Lover, David Deida explores every aspect of the feminine practice of spiritual intimacy, from sexuality and lovemaking to family and career to emotions, trust, and commitment. Written as a collection of letters from a man to his dear lover, here is this internationally acclaimed writer's invitation to practice love as a living art, as you discover:
Why your man is always your choice—and how to pick the man of deep integrity who will satisfy the needs of your body, heart, and spirit“Sexual essence” and the three stages of loving: how to understand your fluctuating capacity to experience divine connection with anotherKnowing when to end a relationship and how to deal with the “him-shaped void” your absent man leaves behindDaily exercises to help you and your partner move from separation to openness in two-bodies devotional trust
Ultimately, what every woman wants it to give and receive love fully. Whether you’re partnered or alone, Dear Lover reveals that “your love is the same love that years to open at everybody’s heart. You will attract and inspire a man as willing and able to open as you are. Constant yearning is the call to open and give yourself to all as love’s offering.”
I offer the following chapters to you as if you were my lover. Although you may be single or married, I offer these words to you as I would do my beloved. We may never meet, but I want to give you the opportunity to feel your heart through mine.
For years, I have taught workshops around the world, opening with women and men while they share their deepest heart’s desires. It seems we often come to know ourselves most deeply through the heart of someone who loves us, who is willing to open and see us as we truly are, who is willing to listen and feel our heart’s yearning.
To give and receive love fully—this is our heart’s true desire, yours and mine. The yearning you feel in your heart is the same yearning that everyone feels. By feeling your heart’s yearning through nine, I hope you will come to know yourself more deeply through the many hearts that have opened together in trust and allowed these words to emerge.
All hearts want to open to God, or the boundless flow of divine love. You may or may not be a religious person, and still your heart years to open without bounds, to be seen and to be offered without limits. This is what I mean by “open to God”—to open and feel everything and everyone’s heart as a divine expression of love.
Praise for Dear Lover
“In the area of sacred intimacy, David Deida is holding a lightning bolt. He sheds an astonishing light.”
—Marianne Williamson, Author of A Woman’s Worth
“As a woman, I’ve never felt so understood and validated. Finally, a clear and brilliant guide to unraveling the mystery of relationships.”
—Marci Shimoff, Co-author of the New York Times bestseller Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul
“I feel that Deida has reached a new level of poetic genius in his writing, and his understanding of feminine psychology astounds me.”
—Miranda Shaw, PhD. Author of Passionate Enlightenment: Women in Tantric Buddhism
“We all taste God, taste Goddess, taste pure spirit in those moments of sexual rapture, and wise men and women have always used that rapture to reveal Spirit’s innermost secrets. David Deida is such a wise one.”
—Ken Wilber, Author of Grace and Grit
Does enlightenment have a dark side? It does, explains David Deida, but instead of closing to what seems unloving, we can learn to open as what we would rather avoid.
In Instant Enlightenment, this maverick author and teacher offers a "rude awakening" through a collection of daring exercises and practices intended to provoke, challenge, and immediately reveal the ever-present "love that lives all things." Each pithy chapter encourages readers to blast the light of consciousness on the taboos we hide in shadow, from our ideas about sex and money to emotions and spirituality.
Instant Enlightenment will surprise and possibly offend you—but it will lead you "fast and suddenly" to the realization of the sacred entirety of your experience.
"Dive straight into this book. Open to any page and read for two minutes, and you'll see that you are instant enlightenment."—Ken Wilber, author of A Brief History of Everything
In Finding God Through Sex, this brilliant writer and internationally renowned expert on spiritual sexuality presents a revolutionary new way to love—one in which sex literally becomes an erotic act of devotional surrender, "making love, magnifying love, from the boundless depth of your heart through every inch of your body and in merger with your lover."
Through provocative vignettes that illuminate the many moods that color lovemaking, and direct instruction that speaks honestly to the masculine and feminine desires within each of us, Deida brings wisdom gained from 30 years' work with thousands of couples to illustrate the distinct yet complementary avenues men and women can skillfully travel toward untamed passion and sacred unity. What unfolds is an unparalleled road map to the place where we "love as the cosmos loves: One loving itself as an other, yet remembering itself as One."
Meet Mykonos, both scurrilous madman and the voice of truth. Wild Nights presents David Deida's remarkable account of his days with the unconventional teacher who revealed to him the deeper wisdom of the erotic path to the divine.
From our very first encounter to the "burden of bliss" that is his parting gift, Mykonos challenges our understanding of what makes a spiritual life. Brutally candid, he offers his teaching to anyone ready to listen, with an uncanny ability to see into the hearts and minds of his students better than they can their own.
Charged with provocative scenes of unbridled passion and play, Wild Nights explodes with spiritual insights into our choice to "open as love, or close and suffer"; yogic sexual techniques including circular breathing and expanding feeling beyond the self and into the heart of a lover; and why, for some, full sexual expression is a requirement of spiritual maturation.
For its honest depiction of the spiritual teacher and student relationship—and the questions it demands we ask about our own sexuality—Wild Nights proclaims David Deida a guiding light in the often cloudy realm of sex and spirit.
“It is time to evolve beyond the macho jerk ideal, all spine and no heart,” writes David Deida “It is also time to evolve beyond the sensitive and caring wimp ideal, all heart and no spine ” Including an all-new introduction by the author, The Way of the Superior Man invites a new generation of men to participate in the full expression of consciousness and love in the infinite openness of the present moment.
Dear G-Spot includes real letters from real people, both women and men, who have sought Zane's advice over the years -- the preacher's wife worrying about being judged, the virgin, the guy next door, the gay man next door, the woman with low self-esteem, and the other woman with a sex drive over the moon.
In her own uniquely can-did and humorous way, Zane answers all your questions -- even questions you never thought to ask -- about making whoopee.
"As such, it requires sharing a lot of things I'm not proud of—and a few things I feel like I should regret a whole lot more than I actually do. Because, unfortunately, I am not the hero in this tale. I am the villain."
So begins Neil Strauss's long-awaited follow-up to The Game, the funny and slyly instructive work of immersive journalism that jump-started the international "seduction community" and made Strauss a household name—revered or notorious—among single men and women alike.
In The Truth, Strauss takes on his greatest challenge yet: Relationships. And in this wild and highly entertaining ride, he explores the questions that men and women are asking themselves every day:Is it natural to be faithful to one person for life? Do alternatives to monogamy lead to better relationships and greater happiness? What draws us to the partners we choose? Can we keep passion and romance from fading over time?
His quest for answers takes him from Viagra-laden free-love orgies to sex addiction clinics, from cutting-edge science labs to modern-day harems, and, most terrifying of all, to his own mother.
What he discovered changed everything he knew about love, sex, relationships, and, ultimately, himself.
Searingly honest and compulsively readable, The Truth just may have the same effect on you.
If The Game taught you how to meet members of the opposite sex, The Truth will teach you how to keep them.
For every man who always wondered why some guys have all the luck, Mystery, considered by many to be the world's greatest pickup artist, finally reveals his secrets for finding and forming relationships with some of the world's most beautiful women. Mystery gained mainstream attention for his role in Neil Strauss's New York Times bestselling exposé, The Game. Now he has written the definitive handbook on the art of the pickup.
He developed his unique method over years of observing social dynamics and interacting with women in clubs to learn how to overcome the guard shield that many women use to deflect come-ons from "average frustrated chumps."
The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed shares tips such as:
*Give more attention to her less attractive friend at first, so your target will get jealous and try to win your attention.
*Always approach a target within 3 seconds of noticing her. If a woman senses your hesitation, her perception of your value will be lower.
*Don't be picky. Approach as many groups of people in a bar as you can and entertain them with fun conversation. As you move about the room, positive perception of you will grow. Now it's easy to meet anyone you want.
*Smile. Guys who don't get laid, don't smile.
In Diary of a Submissive, Sophie Morgan candidly explains what exactly an independent, 21st century woman gets out of relinquishing her power and personal freedom in a submissive relationship with a dominant man for their mutual sexual pleasure.
In the wake of Fifty Shades of Grey, here is a memoir that offers the real story of what is means to be a submissive and follows Sophie’s story as she progresses from her early erotic experiences through to experimenting with her newfound awakened sexuality. From the endorphin rush of her first spanking right through to being collared, she explains in frank and explicit fashion her sexual explorations. But it isn’t until she meets James, a real life ‘Christian Grey,’ that her boundaries and sexual fetishism are really pushed. As her relationship with James travels into darker and darker places, the question becomes: Where will it end? Can Sophie reconcile her sexuality with the rest of her life, and is it possible for the perfect man to be perfectly cruel?
Daring, controversial, and sensual, Diary of a Submissive is filled with a captivating warmth and astounding honesty such that no one— man or woman—will be able to put Sophie's story down. Once you read the book you will understand why Sophie Morgan is a pseudonym.
• Chemistry—describes the sparks, clashes, and underlying motivations of the couple’s mutual attraction
• Compatibility—depicts the relationship needs of each sign and explains how the pair best meshes
• Carnality—details the sexual dynamics of the bond, right on down to the nitty-gritty
With a profound understanding of astrology and human psychology, original insights drawn from ancient, literary, and pop archetypes, and a frankly intelligent, frequently funny delivery, Cosmic Coupling illuminates the dynamics of one’s (and others’) existing relationships and guides any singles seeking Mr. and/or Ms. Right, while giving the phrase “starry-eyed lovers” a whole, spicy new meaning.
From the Trade Paperback edition.
It’s nothing to be ashamed of. When it comes to performing oral sex, most people fall somewhere between fumbling and clueless. But now, in Blow Him Away you’ll find practical, easy-to-master techniques that will give you the confidence and skills you need to become an expert in the delicate art of fellatio.
Inside you’ll find:
• Exercises to whip your tongue, lips, and jaw into shape so you can perform with exquisite control.
• An anatomy class you need to pass.
• Sensual kisses to get you both ready for the main event.
• No-nonsense instructions for how to perform sensational oral sex, blow-by-blow.
• Advice on how to keep your mind from spoiling your head.
• Advanced techniques to wake up the neighbors.
• Positions that will make his knees melt.
Read Blow Him Away alone or with the companion edition, The Lowdown on Going Down, for knee-buckling oral sex—every time.
From the Trade Paperback edition.
Let Kaleb take you on a closely intimate and highly personalized sexual journey through ninety-two of his favorite gay sex positions. Whether you're new to the whole sex game or have hit a lot of home runs and are looking for a new challenge, Starting Positions has all bases covered.
The first volume of the Kaleb Sutra presents 14 erotic and sexually-charged short stories, written and illustrated to stimulate and push your limits in the bedroom, and beyond with 92 sports themed reasons to make any day of the week date night!
Excerpt Chapter 1 Baseball-
“Each time i slam into you, your breathe gets caught in your throat as if you’ve just been hit by a fastball…”
Starting Positions is far from the normal drab and boring descriptions of normal position books, the erotic stories compel you to jump in and start creating your own stories. Put the action back into your date night!! With useful hints and tips “sex notes” provided for each position, to allow each playmate – whether you’re in charge of that round, or just riding the wave – to get experience and enjoy each position – the way the Kaleb Sutra practiced, perfected and intended!
Whether you are a new couple, or have been married for 50 years, it can be difficult to maintain the level of fun and arousal in the bedroom that you would like. Too often, we approach sex as a serious matter, forgetting that it can be a wonderfully creative experience. We let the routine of our daily lives intrude upon the intimate time that we spend with our partner.
If we aren’t careful, sex can turn into a boring routine.
Fortunately, there is no need to engage in S&M or head to a swingers club so you can spice up your love life. By incorporating erotic role play into your sex lives, you can heighten and enhance your connection with your partner, whether physically, emotionally or mentally or all three!
If you have ever tried erotic role playing yourself, you know it's hard to come up with interesting ideas, and even harder to get your partner to play along. This is where "131 Sex Games & Erotic Role Plays for Couples" can really help.
The erotic role plays contained in this book will allow you to explore each other’s fantasies, fetishes and desires. They have been placed in thematic sections, so you can go immediately to a particular section, or just browse each section as you get to it.
So go ahead & try them out. Allow yourself to be whoever you want. You will enrich your sex life and take your relationship with your partner to a whole new level.
Witty, smart, and frankly provocative, Nina Hartley knows sex. As a sex performer, sexual adventurer, and sex educator, she's done the fieldwork and has taken extensive notes. Now, she's ready to share her research. Let's just say that she's had all the sex-the good, the bad, and the indifferent-so you won't necessarily have to!
Nina Hartley's Guide to Total Sex is for sexual pioneers and enthusiastic novices. Unabashedly erotic, the book covers a lot of territory, allowing readers to sample the whole smorgasbord or just nibble at what they see as the choicest bits. To start things off, Nina includes explicitly detailed chapters on foreplay, oral sex, masturbation, toys, and games. Sexual adventurers (and voyeurs) will find chapters on swinging, three-ways, anal sex, erotic domination, sensual submission, and much more.
Nina is a strong advocate of safe sex, physically and emotionally, and she helps readers establish personal ground rules. But as a sexual liberationist and a feminist, her core belief is that, between consenting adults, all sexual behaviors are a matter of personal choice. Whether you're trying to reignite the passion with a longtime spouse, or explore new terrain with a new lover, Nina offers a variety of ideas to achieve exhilarating, deeply satisfying, intimate, and profoundly liberating sex.
Hung tops stick it in like a glute inject and the bottoms don’t even flinch. What’s their secret? And what can you learn from them so you can have ecstatic butt sex without any pain? Some of the answers will shock you.
Learn porn star secrets to bottoming without pain and start making love with volcanic pleasure. Written by gay sex advice columnist Woody Miller and a team of urologists and colon-rectal specialists, this book combines porn industry secrets with innovative techniques from the latest gay male sex research.
How We Got The Porn Industry’s Secrets To Bottoming Without Pain.
We sent a team of researchers to interview a truckload of gay male erotica industry folk—cameramen, scouts, producers, directors and performers. The result is a fascinating, behind-the-scenes, no-holds-barred look into the industry and the secrets they use to get performers to bottom without pain or messy scenes. The main sections:
1: What You Can Learn From Porn Star Bottoms.
A fascinating view of bottoming in the porn industry—how gay erotica performers prepare for a shoot, how they can take huge tops without any pain (even if it’s their first time) and how they stay loose despite day-long shoots. If you ever had a question about how the porn industry works, this is the place to find answers—from how much money porn stars make to what percent are heterosexual (shocking!) to their favorite brand of douches.
2: Free Your Mind, Your Butt Will Follow.
How To Bottom Like A Porn Star: The Ultimate Guide To Gay Sex is part porn exposé, part how-to from the latest gay sex research. In this chapter, we’ll look at how “Anticipatory pain” and a perceived loss of masculinity can put your butt in a headlock. We’ll show you how to resolve the emotional blocks that stop you from trying or enjoying anal sex with other gay men.
3: Why It Feels Like You’re Being Impaled By A Fence Post.
From our urologist and colon-rectal experts who specialize in gay male sex: It isn’t just your sphincter causing all that pain; it’s your “S-curve” as well as involuntary puborectal contractions. Learn your anatomical structure so you can make the tips in this book work better.
4: How Porn Star Bottoms Relax Their Sphincters.
Not all do it, or need to, but the gay men in the sex industry that do swear by it. Find out whether you should use their controversial method.
5: The Porn Star Method Of Eliminating Pain.
Find out the shocking things gay male erotica stars do to eliminate pain. Some cannot be recommended, but others can and we’ve combined them with a technique that blends systematic desensitization, pattern breathing, progressive muscle relaxation and sexual imagery to completely eliminate pain and heighten pleasure.
6: How Porn Star Bottoms Handle The Ick Factor.
Find out their secrets to getting your butt cleaner than a Brady Bunch rerun.
7: A Device That’s Better Than A Douche Or An Enema.
Enemas and douches are a bad idea (despite the porn industry’s reliance on them). Find out why and what product doctors recommend that will get you as clean as a douche without any of the harmful side effects.
8: How To Bottom Without Pain For The First Time.
Here you’ll learn how to combine the best position with the best angle of entry. Missionary? Doggie-style? Straight in? Angled up? When it comes to gay sex, it matters.
9: A Guided Tour Of A Pain-Free Bottoming Session Between Adam And Steve.
A beginner’s real-time, step-by-step guide to bottoming—porn style!-- that will light you up like an all-night liquor store.
Learn How To Bottom Like A Porn Star With The Ultimate Guide To Gay Sex!
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No one knows sex better than all time favorite, awardwinning porn star Mr. Marcus, so who else to turn to when you want to turn up the heat in your bedroom? Humorous, arousing and candid, Mr. Marcus offers a practical approach to achieving a great sex life, by showing you how to feel more confident about yourself, how to achieve greater intimacy with your partner, how to get creative in the bedroom, but also how to keep it creative—in and out of the bedroom. Each chapter contains insider anecdotes from Mr. Marcus' own experiences (on and off screen) to further illuminate his lessons. Some of the chapters you'll find inside are:
• Someone for Everyone
• What Men Want
• What Women Want
• The Joy of Oral Sex
• The Freak Factor
• and much more!
Practical, playful and erotic, The Porn Star's Guide to Great Sex is real advice for real people as Mr. Marcus shows you how to achieve greater sexual satisfaction and how to tap into your own potential for the great sex life that you deserve.
Would you dare do it in a museum? In the office? Have you tried beads? Or spanking? How many Kama Sutra positions do you know?
Dispense with your reservations—you now have in your hands a unique sex manual! Pointed, imaginative, fun, and above all else easy to use, this is a sexual recipe book that you can consult whenever the urge arises.
201 Sex Games is full of new sexual positions, hot games, bold ideas, steamy scenarios, costumes, kinky experiments, and everything else you need to give yourself (and your partner) the most intense and unforgettable sexual experiences. Written for both men and women, in its pages you will find three categories: foreplay, action, and surprise. You can combine games, jump pages, mix experiences, even improvise and improve, if you so desire. The only limit is your imagination and your drive to change and improve the direction of your relationships.
Allow yourself to be surprised and open the pages of this book that includes:
Erotic games for him and her
Scenarios, costumes, and sexual role play to never again be bored
The newest sex toys on the market
The most intense, unknown, and different sexual experiences to surprise your lover over and over again . . .
• techniques and creative ideas for bondage, spanking, flogging, sensation play, rough sex and more
• lessons on how to eroticize power, cultivate deeper connections and incorporate kink into your sex life
• role-playing fantasies from the popular to the taboo
It does not matter if your sub has thirty years of experience in submission or just read 50 Shades of Grey and decided to try it herself. She will need to be trained for the best relationship to emerge.
"Dom's Guide to Submissive Training" was specifically written for doms/masters. It is designed to provide you with a step-by-step blueprint on how to train your new sub. It goes from preparation all the way down to the closing ceremony including advanced techniques & tips.
Training can be one of the most exciting, challenging and fun parts of the relationship. A well-trained sub will not only serve you in the capacity you deserve, but will have built up the two most important elements in any BDSM relationship – trust and consistency. Following the instructions in this guide will allow you to show yourself as a worthy master, who is in control, experienced and able to guide you both to the best possible life.
"Submissive Training: 23 Things You Must Know About How To Be A Submissive" is designed to help you know what to expect when you go through training with a new Dom. Every couple is unique and every Dom may have different ways of teaching you the systems of service he prefers. However, these are the basics all trained subs and slaves learn and employ in daily life.
Rushing into a relationship or service contract with a Dom without training puts the future of your time together at risk. All of the arguments, resistance, misunderstandings and hurt feelings that go with a new submissive’s experiences can be eradicated by a period designated for learning, listening, trial and error.
Even if you have been with a previous Dom you will need to go through an abbreviated training time to ensure your patterns and understandings match one another. Training is a way to “get in the same rhythm” and find the perfect groove.
If you are a Dom, this guide is the perfect gift to give to your new sub. If you are a sub, this guide will teach you how to go through your submissive training. As you go through these things on the journey to become the woman you were made to be, you will be tested but you will also be proud, joyful and, perhaps for the first time in your life, you will be at peace.
Complete with sex notes & difficulty/penetration levels to put you in the driver's seat with all the new tricks you're going to have up your sleeve, come date night!
‘Pleasures are as necessary for the well-being of the body as food.' Kama Sutra
‘The Modern Kama Sutra’ opens up a new and exotic world of sexual pleasure that will change your sex life for ever.
Inspired by the ancient text of the Kama Sutra, this fully illustrated book offers over 40 easy-to-follow explicit positions (try positions such as 'Splitting the Bamboo', ' The Congress of the Cow', 'Yab Yum' and the 'Canopy of Stars'), step-by step instructions and practical tips and 200 stunning colour photographs that guarantee to enhance your erotic pleasure and improve your sexual technique.
‘The Modern Kama Sutra’ is for the modern couple, catering for both experienced lovers and for those wanting to experiment. You will learn how to heighten your awareness of your own and your partner’s bodies, and achieve an emotional intimacy and sexual intensity never before experienced.
• Why not try fast sex sequences for instant pleasure – use all kinds of locations, from the kitchen table and bathroom shower to the living room sofa and even the office floor!
• Learn how massage and intimate touching can enhance your sexual desire. Discover how to indulge the body and the senses with separate chapters on seduction, foreplay and oral sex.
In "Dom's Guide to Submissive Training Vol. 2," I listed 25 things you must know about your new sub if you want to create a satisfying relationship with a devoted submissive. It's not enough to just ask “What do you like?” or “Would you like to be my sub?” You need to know things about your sub that are deeper, more practical and helpful.
Without the knowledge of these 25 things, you may be able to create momentarily excitement but it will surly turn into a frustrating short-term relationship headed for drama, disaster and end.
Following this guide allows your sub to communicate freely and provides a mechanism for her to reveal her true self – even if she doesn’t have the words to do so. There are a million things subs want their Doms to know. These questions will help your sub tell you.
This book is written for Doms/Masters in training. It is written for you, the average guy or gal, who doesn’t already have a closet full of leather and whips, and who really has little idea about what BDSM is besides what they’ve heard about it.
What you are going to find out, is that the Dom/Master actually has the more complicated role. The master has the task of giving pleasure and discipline to the slave or sub. A great deal of what you do as a Dom will be for the benefit of a sub. You must derive pleasure from giving, have a great desire to please a partner, and not simply take what you want.
Still interested? Good. Now that we know you’re a REAL master in training, one that will respect the rules, respect the slave you have power over, and follow protocol, you can begin your Dom training. Only then can you truly earn the utmost respect and admiration from your sub.
In Volume 1 of this series we are going to discuss:
- How to think and act like a Dom
- What the slave expects from you
- What not to do and what instincts you do NOT want to follow
- Your motivation and your goals
- How to find out a sub’s taboo
- How to negotiate, find agreement and ensure that game play is always safe
- How to make a slave yearn for you and desire to be controlled by you
- And much more...
For many women intercourse isn’t enough to get them from “oh” to “oh-YES!”. Getting a woman to orgasm has more to do with movement of your lips than what you do with your hips. This ultimate oral sex guide teaches you all of the mouth moves you need to go down on a woman skillfully.
Oral Sex She’ll Never Forget gives 50 unique cunnilingus experiences from start to finish. You’ll learn how to combine positions, mouth moves, hand strokes, sex toys, seduction and setting to create the most exciting oral sex experience for her. Surprise your lover with something new and exciting.
Whether she’s in the mood for something playful or a little naughty sexy photography and detailed illustrations that show you exactly how to hit her hot spots and have her beg for more.
Cunnilingus isn’t just about mouth to genital contact. It’s an experience that should engage all the senses and thrill her body from head to toe. Oral Sex She’ll Never Forget teaches you mindblowing mouth moves as well as unique positions, little known female erotic zones, and hot foreplay to get her in the mood.
Oral Sex She’ll Never Forget offers detailed scenarios for every type of cunnilingus experience from romantic to kinky and basic to advanced. Whether you’re looking for new techniques or sure-fire ways to give her an orgasm (or two…or three) this bedside guide is all you need to give her incredible oral sex.
Learn how to navigate the twists and turns of female sexuality, with special guidance from thirteen guest sex educators including Nina Hartley, Sex Nerd Sandra, Jiz Lee, Tristan Taormino, Julia Serano, Reid Mihalko and more!
Girl Sex 101 will teach you...
*The bits and pieces that make up female sexual anatomy
*Simple ways to communicate in the heat of the moment
*How to build a Road Map of your partner s pleasure
*Essential moves for cunnilingus, strap-ons, hand sex and more!
*Positions to avoid fatigue and generate the power you need to rock your girl's world!
You'll gain confidence to please your girl, no matter what your hands-on experience. Buckle your seat belt and get ready to ride!
We’re also going to discuss how to train your sub accordingly and with a purpose. This is important and is an often-neglected part of the BDSM community. The highly sensationalized, “purely sexual” relationships you read about or see depicted in TV or movies is not the only type of relationship forged. Some relationships really are all about personal missions, self-improvement and getting in touch with suppressed inner feelings.
We will cover this as well as the most important part of BDSM dominance—having a plan. You will learn how to be an excellent Dom and it all starts with a few simple steps.
Note: If you have not read Volume 1 in this series (Dom's Guide To BDSM Vol. 1: 49 Must-Know Tips On How To Be The Perfect Dom/Master Your submissive Will Truly Respect & Admire), it is highly recommended that you do so before taking on this book.
At last! Answers to the questions you're too embarrassed to ask--but always wanted to know!
Why does it hurt down there? Is it really safe to do that? What does it mean when something looks like this--and how do I make it go away?
Chances are you never learned anything about gay intimacy from your parents, your school, or your family physician. Here, at last, is reliable, comprehensive information on a wide spectrum of gay medical concerns, written by an eminent surgeon and recognized authority on gay health issues.
With up-to-date facts, interviews, and case studies from the author's practice, The Ins and Outs of Gay Sex goes far beyond HIV concerns, combining a complete education about the safe and pleasurable practices of male-male sexuality with a comprehensive medical volume.
Here are the facts about what you need to know to keep your sex life hot and healthy, including:
The rules of safe anorectal stimulation.
Symptoms to send you running to the doctor.
Foreplay, sex toys, and other accessories.
Viral and nonviral STDs-don't wake up with an unpleasant surprise!
Treatments for impotence and other sexual dysfunctions.
Diseases that can be spread without penetration.
Drugs...relationships...doctors (how to find the right one for you), and much more.
From the Trade Paperback edition.
Because fetish culture, like all cultures, grows and changes with the people who practice it, there are distinct roles and categories that developed to help women define their preferences and find like-minded people and playmates.
Women in BDSM relationships no longer have to start with the basic tenets of submission to wrap that skin around their differences. Now you can look into the whole spectrum of submissive behavior and find the place you feel most fulfilled and comfortable. From women who enjoy the occasional bondage session handcuffed to their headboard to the girls who want to be fed out of a bowl and locked in a crate at night – there is a place for everyone.
In this Submissive Training guide we will look at twelve subcultures of submission (including the New Misogyny), explaining the overall principles and practices of each one and illustrating the pros and cons inherent in each style of sexual diversity.
All people are different and you may not find one that covers everything you like, or don’t like – but chances are you’ll see something in one of these subcultures that makes you say, “That’s what I want.”
That’s what this book is going to teach you: How to be a better sub, and have a happy & healthy BDSM lifestyle.
Here are just some of the things you will discover in volume 1 of "Submissive's Guide To BDSM":
- Why you want to experience punishment...
- The science of pain & pleasure...
- Type of Doms to beware of...
- How to pick the right Dom just for you...
- How to protect yourself from wannabe Doms and predators...
- The right way to explore taboo fantasies in BDSM...
- Type of limits and when & how to use them...
- How to communicate with your Dom...
- Common mistakes new subs make...
- How to "train" your Master...
- How to "fire" your Dom if it's not working out...
- And much more...
"This is the must-read book for any woman interested in discovering the secrets of her G-spot. Tristan will teach you how to find and play with the spot for your ultimate pleasure." - Jordan LaRousse and Samantha Sade, authors of Penis Genius and Clitology
Experience the ultimate orgasm!
Proper stimulation of the G-spot can yield incredible orgasms and the unique and powerful experience of female ejaculation. However, unlike the clitoris, which is easily visible, the G-spot can be tricky to locate and takes skill to work it in just the right way. The Secrets of G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation demystifies this controversial erogenous zone with the latest techniques, positions, and toys for harnessing the power of the G-spot for incredible pleasure.
Leading sex educator Tristan Taormino presents the best positions, couple-play techniques, and solo exercises for maximizing G-spot stimulation, achieving female ejaculation, and having intense, full-body orgasms.
Step-by-step instructions for both men and women show how to give and receive mind-blowing sensations, create bed-shaking climaxes, and experience one of the wonders of female sexual pleasure—female ejaculation.
The discipline to hold your tongue, retrieve your paddle, or wait around endlessly while knot after knot is being tied as part of a bondage ritual drains your energy. Submission stretches, taxes, pushes, and exposes your body and soul to the whim and desire of another. Submissive women need support, care and nurture to continue on this journey in a healthy fashion.
"Care and Nurture for the Submissive" offers tips, understandings, and pathways to tend the fragile and beautiful souls of submissive women. Self-care is not selfish; it is essential. Only when you are taking care of yourself as a healthy, whole being can you give that self to another with a full heart and free joy.
-Susan Forward, author of Emotional Blackmail Praise for the emotionally abusive relationship
"In this book, Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offers step-by-step strategies to stop emotional abuse. . . helping both victims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful and traumatic type of abuse. This book is a guide both for individuals and for couples stuck in the tragic patterns of emotional abuse."
-Marti Loring, Ph.D., author of Emotional Abuse
and coeditor of The Journal of Emotional Abuse
"This groundbreaking book succeeds in helping people stop emotional abuse by focusing on both the abuser and the abused and showing each party what emotional abuse is, how it affects the relationship, and how to stop it. Its unique focus on the dynamic relationship makes it more likely that each person will grasp the tools for change and really use them."
-Randi Kreger, author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook
and owner of BPDCentral.com
The number of people who become involved with partners who abuse them emotionally and/or who are emotionally abusive themselves is phenomenal, and yet emotional abuse is the least understood form of abuse. In this breakthrough book, Beverly Engel, one of the world's leading experts on the subject, shows us what it is and what to do about it.
Whether you suspect you are being emotionally abused, fear that you might be emotionally abusing your partner, or think that both you and your partner are emotionally abusing each other, this book is for you. The Emotionally Abusive Relationship will tell you how to identify emotional abuse and how to find the roots of your behavior. Combining dramatic personal stories with action steps to heal, Engel provides prescriptive strategies that will allow you and your partner to work together to stop bringing out the worst in each other and stop the abuse.
By teaching those who are being emotionally abused how to help themselves and those who are being emotionally abusive how to stop abusing, The Emotionally Abusive Relationship offers the expert guidance and support you need.
Do you have any idea how to stimulate his P-spot? (He might not even know he has one!)
Would you like to have a better lust life?
Then The Best You’ll Ever Have is must-have bed-side reading. Shannon Mullen has spent years learning about every last nerve in the female body—and every sex toy under the sun. She interviewed sex educators, doctors, and therapists. Then, armed with her favorite sex toys, or Sexories, she started talking to groups of women who gathered in living rooms all over the country. In these intimate Sex-Ed Salons, she shared the fruits of her extensive research with women, who opened up to her with their biggest questions, misconceptions, and fears (and revealed some fun and dirty stories along the way!).
In The Best You’ll Ever Have, you’ll find a deliciously confessional, frank, and funny guide that will help you learn:
• How to feel sexually stimulated from head to toe
• How to incorporate Sexories into a sensational sex life
• How to tell your partner exactly what turns you on in bed
• How to achieve knock-your-socks-off orgasms whenever you want them
• How to spice things up with your partner so he can have knock-your-socks-off sex, too!
Full of practical advice, illuminating tidbits of knowledge about our bodies, inspiration for anyone who has ever been confused about sex, and honest talk from real women who are all searching for a fabulous time in bed, The Best You’ll Ever Have will help anyone turn on their lust life!
From the Hardcover edition.
Get the toe-curling sex you’ve been dreaming of! The only thing that makes a good thing better is more of it. Marathon Sex gives you scenarios for prolonged lovemaking sessions that deliver incredible techniques and positions that make sex last longer and build to incredible orgasms. From seduction to foreplay to positions one, two, and three, each of these multi-hour scenarios provide a sex date hot enough to put the sizzle back into any relationship.
- She Comes Again...and Again...and Again: Blow her mind with multiple intercourse and oral techniques that hit all of her hot spots.
- It’s a Tie: Use sensate focus and the coital alignment technique have simultaneous orgasms.
- Sexalicious: Spice things up with savory sex techniques that will make your kitchen the second sexiest room in the house.
- Going (and Coming) Out on the Town: Build sensation and excitement all night long with your hottest pub crawl ever.
Every scenario gives you hours of moves and lets you explore a different side of sex and intimacy from playful to kinky. Marathon Sex gives you inspiration, techniques, and positions from start to finish line.
Based on the latest research on sexual health, behavioral psychology, fitness, and nutrition, The Men's Health and Women's Health Big Book of Sex is brimming with useful tips, exercise photos, practical sidebars, and more. The book also features the Better-Sex Workout, the Better-Sex Diet, a Trouble-Shooter's Guide to Sexual Health, and Q&A columns from the Men's Health "Girl Next Door" and Women's Health "Guy Next Door" and leading sexual health experts.
Host of the wildly popular "Sex Is Fun" podcast, Kidder Kapers brings unique approaches to the topic of lovemaking. In his first book, Kaper reinvents the sex manual, using whimsical cartoon characters and stylishly illustrated pages to deliver his singular sexpertise.
Sex Is Fun! is for anyone looking for creative ways to spice up their sex lives and for couples seeking long-term solutions for keeping their relationship exciting. Both entertaining and informative, it offers a fresh take on sex toys, talking dirty, sizzling foreplay, erotic massage, inventive positions, role-playing, and other tips for a mind-blowing experience.
With clever illustrations and humorous dialogue, Kaper's titillating tour surpasses other books in the category, taking the intimidation out of sex play and offering workbook-style activities and games, such as the candid Sexual Interest Inventory and the What Scares You? questionnaire. Read solo or with a partner, these thirty-six chapters will help couples enhance communication, explore new territory, and reach higher levels of pleasure and fulfillment.
Read Kidder Kaper's posts on the Penguin Blog.
“The secret lies not in comeliness or technique but in the fearlessness to reveal your truest female self,” writes Olivia St. Claire as she refines the art of driving him wild—this time focusing on advanced lovemaking techniques with the hottest tips ever. Olivia helps you identify your passion triggers, safely guides you to the edge of your sexual boundaries, and lets you in on everything you ever wanted to know about truly passionate lovemaking.
Frankly erotic, playfully sexy, and intelligently written, 302 Advanced Techniques for Driving a Man Wild in Bed is simple enough to consult at a moment’s notice, but sophisticated enough to leave him breathless at your newfound prowess. The inviting layout, the numbered tips, and the guidelines for the most erotic sex possible make it easy and fun for a willing couple to embark upon an amorous adventure—whenever and wherever the spirit moves them.
Users of this dazzling selection of sexual techniques will bring any man to his knees.
“Let’s have anal.”
Anal sex is a sensual and high-powered addition to your sexual repertoire. This form of sexuality is one of the most intimate personal connections a couple can have. Considered taboo by some modern societies, it is often elusive, and misunderstood.
"Better Anal Sex" is a guide that helps demystify the process and provide some history, biology and tips on how to have a great experience with the “forbidden frolic.” It will show you how much power, pleasure and potential lies in anal sex.
Following these tips and techniques, there is no reason you can’t have that ultimate pleasure in your sexual repertoire as well.
Sex educator Violet Blue tells you all you need to know to give and receive exquisite oral pleasure:
* For all women—heterosexual, lesbian, bisexual—and men who desire hot oral encounters
* How to introduce cunnilingus into your sexual repertoire
* How to negotiate oral sex with a reluctant partner
* Clear, illustrated guide to women's anatomy
* Helpful tips on preparation and hygiene—including shaving and waxing
* Building trust and talking about your desires
* Advanced positions and techniques
* Toys, games, fantasy and power play
* Complete guide to helpful resources—videos, books, and websites
* Plus, explicit stories of women enjoying cunnilingus by best-selling erotica author Alison Tyler
No matter what age we are or how much experience we have, we all want to be great lovers. Most of the sex guides for women, however, have been prudish, esoteric, or incomplete. The ultimate sexual instruction book for women, How to Be a Great Lover gives you the down and dirty details that you really want to know on exactly what men like and why, and shares the proven erotic techniques that make for incredible sex you'll both enjoy.
Acclaimed sex expert Lou Paget draws on the real-life experience of the hundreds of men and women who have attended her workshops and presents their secrets and tricks in an elegant, no-nonsense style. Lou has found that in the bedroom (or closet, or kitchen), knowledge equals confidence, and confidence will make you feel empowered, heighten the intimacy of your relationship, and enable you and your partner to enjoy yourselves in a variety of intense, new ways. Whether you are starting a new relationship, have run out of creative ideas, or want to light his fire all over again, How to Be a Great Lover has enough spicy tips and surprises to excite both of you and leave him begging for more.
From kissing techniques, ways to create the right atmosphere, and a lesson on safe sex--including the "Italian Method" of putting a condom on a man with your mouth--to twenty different manual techniques and the secrets of great oral sex, Lou covers all the basics and more. She offers innovative positions for intercourse, tantalizing moves you can do with a pearl necklace, and a beginner's guide to anal stimulation, as well as a catalogue of sex toys and how to use them. With more than ninety step-by-step illustrations that will show you how to drive him wild, How to Be a Great Lover provides proven, sure-fire techniques that will make you a master of the bedroom.
FIFTY SHADES OF PASSION is a playbook for you and your lover to finally realize your secret sexual fantasies together. Perhaps you were intrigued by the kinky scenes between Christian and Anastasia when reading the Fifty Shades trilogy. Maybe you have always been curious about the world of kink and BDSM, but have been too shy to explore up until now. Fifty Shades of Passion is for anybody who is ready to find adventure in the bedroom, whether you want to use blindfolds and handcuffs to tantalize your lover for the very first time, or you're ready to learn how to use advanced bondage tools or create your own sadomasochistic scenes.
Whether you're new to kink, curious about BDSM, or serious about taking your play to the next level, it won't be long before you and your partner are enjoying the most mind-blowing sex you've ever had.