At fifteen, Guinevere Walker and Jack Moylan are not yet galvanized for the future. In the roiling cauldron that is San Francisco of 1851 – a city devastated by suspicious fires, a dangerous brand of justice imposed by vigilantes from its formidable business community, and the cloud of slavery – the two face issues and questions that thrust them into adulthood and mold their very nature. Do they conform or rebel? Do they succumb to social conventions and restrictions? Or do they pursue their dreams in defiance of the pressures?
A Veil of Fog and Flames is a tale of young lives poised on a tightrope of right and wrong, their stories woven into the fabric of a city that forges rules as it pleases – and breaks them as easily.
Undeterred by the most dire warnings, in 1848 eleven-year-old Guinevere Walker embarks on a perilous journey to reunite with her widowed father. From her home in Boston she sails to Rio de Janeiro, around Cape Horn, to the rudimentary town of San Francisco -- ultimately arriving at the California mountain range called the Sierra Nevada, known for both its beauty and brutality.
As Guine and her father struggle to forge a new relationship, they confront the most massive human migration the world has ever known: the California Gold Rush. Hundreds of thousands of fortune hunters from around the globe flood into the burgeoning territory to “See the Elephant” – to experience a great adventure, dig for a golden fortune, face the harshest realities, and search for their own personal truths.
Embracing the Elephant is a powerful story about one child coming of age at precisely the moment a nation enters its own new age. It is a tale of fierce determination, resilience, discovery, and best of all: hope.
Embracing the Elephant is a coming of age story for both a girl and a nation, a book about the breathtaking highs and devastating lows that accompany – and in turn fuel – massive change. It is a raw and compelling novel for anyone facing, or embracing, a journey of their own.
In 1848, a treaty with Mexico makes California a U.S. possession and the United States finally spans the continent from the Atlantic to the Pacific. Technology is advancing at an astonishing rate, and relative nobodies are amassing speculative fortunes. The ink on the Mexican treaty is not yet dry when gold is discovered in the remote mountain range known as the Sierra Nevada – the Gold Rush is on and The West is under siege by fortune hunters and settlers of all stripes.
On the East coast, young Guinevere Walker begins her own westward trek to the wild territory of California -- not for gold, but for love of her estranged and distant father, still struggling with the death of Guine’s mother. Her journey is set against the backdrop of a country plagued by ineffective government officials, a growing disparity between the classes, anti-immigration sentiments, and harsh racial and religious divides.
With civility in short supply and wilderness in the hearts of men, Guine learns who to trust, how to adapt and ultimately that survival comes from within.
You can learn how to be a people magnet by becoming a better speaker. With effective communication, you too can have people pay attention to you and you will find that your powers of persuasion will be highly effective!
This book teaches you what the common pitfalls are for bad communication and how to overcome them so that you can be a highly effective people person as well.
"I'm prepared to kick a hole in the wall of the pain-ridden, unhappy maze you've gotten yourself into, and provide you clear access to action-oriented answers and instructions on what you must do to have what you want," says Dr. Phil. His aim is to expose and eliminate the saboteurs that cause senseless damage to already-fragile marriages, and, like an emotional root canal, to replace them with values he says provide positive results. If you follow Dr. Phil's strategy, he will lead you on a precise journey to uncover your heart and then share it with your partner as part of taking the "risk of intimacy."
Dr. Phil leads you to "reconnect with your core" in the first five steps of his seven-step strategy. By no means a quick fix, there are in-depth and rigorous questionnaires, surveys, tests, and profiles that require a "brutally candid" mindset, with such fill-in-the-blanks as "List five things that today would make you fall out of love with your partner." With this internal work accomplished, you'll then move on to reconnecting with your partner during a two-week, half-hour-a-day short course. As a "dyad," you and your loved one take turns giving monologues on topics such as "The most positive thing I took away from my mother and father's relationship was..."
Once the "reconnection" has been established, Dr. Phil says the work shifts to a management role, as relationships are always a work in progress. Dr. Phil humorously refers to his own marriage throughout the book, sharing his mishaps and victories in learning to accept and enjoy what he sees as fundamental but complementary differences between men and women. --John Youngs
Your main questions usually circles around what you have against what other guys have. Why is it so easy for other males to attract the opposite sex, but almost impossible when you do it? Even when you're trying your best, you realize that you're getting nowhere.
Well, that's what this book is going to do for you. It's going to give you a makeover that begins in your mind. By the end of the book, you're going to be different and you're going to feel different from how you were before. Best of all, you're going to like it and you wouldn't want to change back.
Our goal in this book is to teach you how to communicate effectively with others. Having the ability to use your words to influence or persuade another individual also falls into this category. Whichever your reason may be, this book will set the foundation skills that you will need to know to be a great conversationalist. After all, words are the most important aspect of proper communication. How can you communicate with others without the use of words?
Want to make an unforgettable first impression? Or learn how to speak in a way that makes you stand out in a crowd? Or find out what signs a love interest might give if they’re attracted to you?
You’ll learn all of these flirting secrets and more with The Flirting Bible, your definitive guide to using and reading body language and other social cues to find instant adventure, friendship, fun, and romance.
Nationally renowned relationship expert Fran Greene, former advice columnist for Match.com, will walk you through her thirteen tried-and-trusted techniques for becoming the most confident and attractive person in the room (no matter if you think you are or not!). You’ll learn how to:Make the perfect amount of eye contact to establish trust and intimacy Use the “flirtatious handshake” to make a memorable impression Listen in a way that makes you a people magnet Get conversations started and get noticed by using the props of flirting And so much more!
Say goodbye to intimidation and “hello!” to the mate of your dreams with The Flirting Bible—your secret weapon to becoming the most fabulous flirt in town.
This comprehensive book opens with clear definitions and descriptions of boundaries, a self-assessment survey and a history of our accumulated knowledge. Going deeper, it describes the 10 essential areas of human interaction wherein you can improve your relationships. These include age regression, giving and receiving (projection and projective identification), triangles, core recovery issues, basic dynamics, unfinished business and spirituality. It shows in countless practical ways how knowledge of each of these is most useful in your recovery and everyday life.
Why doesn't my man get me flowers?
Easy - because flowers don't do anything cool.
Will I scare him off if I call him first?
No way. Well, not unless he's actually terrified of his phone, in which case you likely have bigger problems.
Why can't he just talk to me about our relationship?
Yeah . . . and how come a gazelle never waits around to see if that lion is friendly?
Men sometimes seem impossible to understand. But it turns out they're about as easy to read as coloring books - if you know what you're looking for. Manslations answers all these questions and more in this hilarious - and honest - guide to what men say, who they are, and why they behave the way they do.
"When that guy told you - within thirty seconds of introducing himself at the bar - that he drives a hybrid because he cares about the environment, the manslation is that he was trying to work his way into your bikini areas."
Manslations reveals the golden rule that helps you figure out what never to worry about (and what to lose sleep over), plus the two key questions that will help unlock the meaning behind even the most confusing male actions. Capped off by a man-to-woman phrasebook, this is the only relationship guide you'll ever need.
You feel that you and your ex had a special relationship together and that the breakup happened from a careless mistake. You want to get back with your ex and you want to apologize to them. However, none of what you've done has worked. Maybe you've doing something wrong, or maybe you've not approaching the situation properly. You want your ex to come back to you, but you don't know the proper way to do it. You want to produce results, but all your attempts have been useless. So what are you left to do?
In this book, we will take a good look on the methods that you can take into getting your ex back into your life. Don't worry much about having to look for answers from different sources. This book will explain everything.
Stop being told no and start being told yes and this book will help. All of the secrets towards making women want you are in this book. Learn how to be attractive and to make yourself irresistible to women. From what to say and how to say it to how to make yourself the type of person that people are drawn towards, this book has it all. You can do it; all you need to do is read this book today!
After all these years, bestselling author Gary Smalley and his wife, Norma, continue to improve their marriage. Learn from Dr. Smalley’s latest research, employing biblical principles he and Norma have used in the last forty years of marriage, ministry, and counseling.
Your marriage can be a safe place to love and be loved!
Take the 4 Day Challenge today…
God can do more than you can ask or think (from Ephesians 3:20).Watch these videos to learn more about the lessons in each day of the book
Day 1 – Loving Words & Actions
Day 2 – Communication & Resolving Anger
Day 3 – Affection & Intimacy
Day 4 – Trials & Treasures
Wow! This may be the most practical, step-by-step manual for building a healthy marriage that we’ve ever seen! Gary and Norma have put the cookies on the bottom shelf for every couple who is looking for proven ways to lasting love. With a mountain of experience to stand on, this seasoned couple tells it like it is and their advice is sure to revolutionize your relationship.
Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott
Authors of Love Talk
Gary Smalley has challenged and inspired me for years. His practical approach to living out the words of Jesus in a marriage is simple yet powerful. You will love his interactive approach to strengthen your marriage.
Senior Pastor of LifeChurch.tv
The premise of this book is that good, well-intentioned men can, in times of stress and emotional conflict, act in destructive ways that don't reflect their true character. From a humanistic and empathetic perspective, this book explores the latest research about male psychological development to create a new, compassionate narrative for the struggles men face. Learn to recognize and label your internal states. Find out why displays of not-so-masculine emotions are so difficult to deal with, and why they can provoke episodes of problematic behavior. Explore the father-son relationship and the reality of male peer relations; see why these patterned interactions can reinforce bad behavior from generation to generation. Structured exercises and strategies help transfer the concepts of the book into daily experience.
David B. Wexler, Ph.D., is the founder and executive director of the Relationship Training Institute, an organization designed to help couples and especially men who are having problems in relationships.
His previous work includesThe Adolescent Self andThe PRISM Workbook.
Visit the author at his Web site: www.rtiprojects.com.
Practical and hands-on, with clear and concise instructions, Building Your Childs Self-Esteem shows parents how to identify healthy and low self-esteem behaviors in their children. Parents will also learn how to overcome and correct unproductive habits that limit their childs performance.
From developing a series of ideas for empowering children toward self-responsibility and awareness, parents will get the information needed to activate their childs potential for maximum success. Parents will learn how self-esteem manifests in children, how children with healthy and low self-esteem communicate, and how healthy and low self-esteem characteristics affect parenting skills.
Building Your Childs Self-Esteem provides guidance to help parents manifest and produce healthy, confident, courageous children.
This devotional resource is sized and designed to fast-track busy men to discovering the rich spiritual wisdom and tools they need for making a real difference-a godly difference-in all they do.
Now in its third edition, Messages has helped thousands of readers cultivate better relationships with friends, family members, coworkers, and partners. You'll discover new skills to help you communicate your ideas more effectively and become a better listener. Learn how to:
Read body languageDevelop skills for couples communicationNegotiate and resolve conflictsCommunicate with family membersHandle group interactionsTalk to childrenMaster public speakingPrepare for job interviews
Messages is a comprehensive handbook in a most important human skill-personal communication. Reading it made me feel like an enthusiastic partner in an achievable learning endeavor.
-Virginia Satir, author of Peoplemaking and The New Peoplemaking
"Why Good People Make Bad Choices" takes you on a journey of self-discovery by way of new insights about the human condition. The instinctual directives we follow are described as-the ego's agenda. Due to this agenda, we experience problematic feelings, maintain maladaptive thoughts, and engage in behaviors that we know are not in our best interest-indeed, we make bad choices. The solution is integrity. With this book you can learn how to: Create integrity, and recognize it in others. Create peace of mind. Resolve problematic feelings that may interfere with sustaining integrity. Create a self-image you can be proud of. Transform any unwanted behavior or thoughts into new valued behavior. Understand and manage anger, worry, guilt, bad habits, anxiety, and depression.
"Why Good People Make Bad Choices" is for the individual who wants to experience a more harmonious inner nature, or establish a new direction for their life.
"As you begin to consistently live out your belief system, one choice at a time, your trust in the outcome of integrity will be the incentive to continue. Positive results will prevail, and you will be evolving."
What People Are Saying About "Why Good People Make Bad Choices"
"I find this to be a very valuable framework for therapy, and for living a good life generally. It is a challenging book that can lead one to a new, more satisfying life."
-Robert Rich, PhD, author "Cancer: A Personal Challenge."
"Why Good People Make Bad Choices is an incredible tool to aid in the transcendence of the ego and to initiate the establishment of a personal belief system in order to live life with integrity."
-Richard A. Singer Jr., psychotherapist, author "Your Daily Walk with the Great Minds"
"Thought-provoking and well worth the time, this book should be read once throughout and then repeatedly and in small doses. It is bound to trigger a lot of introspection, something we sorely lack in modern life."
-Sam Vaknin, author "Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited"
More information at www.CharlesLawrenceAllen.com
From the New Horizons in Therapy Series
Series Editor: Robert Rich, Ph.D.
Published by Loving Healing Press (www.LovingHealing.com)
But when Alexandra Thorpe wins Travis for the weekend, she doesn't claim her prize. Why has the cool blond beauty staked thousands of dollars on Travis…and then just walked away? Travis is determined to pursue the lady who bought him, and exact his own price!
Narcissists suffer from a personality disorder that began in the early stages of childhood. They are stuck in an early development stage where there is tremendous self-interest, excessive self-absorption, and extreme entitlement. Their behavior is a consequence of early childhood abandonment and abuse. Rokelle Lerner specializes in working with narcissists and the people they impact. Her astounding results in improving the quality of life for those that live or work with narcissists has been recognized by therapists across the country. She explains why narcissists do the things they do and how you can protect yourself from their intimidation and manipulations. Lerner shows you how to:
* Spot a narcissist at work and in your personal life
* Set appropriate boundaries to avoid further conflict
* Avoid antagonizing a narcissist at work or at home
Narcissists are disarming, manipulative, and mesmerizing by nature. The Object of My Affection is in My Reflection will help you see through their charm so you can recharge your spirit, redefine your purpose, and regain your life.
Barnes uses illustrative client stories, multiple-choice quizzes, check lists and how-to lists to help you determine what to keep and what to throw out. Youll learn how to read key symptoms of junk food like Constipation: holding in resentments; Heartburn: cheating, jealousy and insecurity; Leftovers: when the love is gone but youre still addicted to the sex; and Binging and Purging: recognizing a commitment phobic. You might even be surprised to discover how you are sometimes junk-food.
This Relationship Recipe will detail:
* How to recognize and stop destructive dating habits.
* How to spot and avoid waving junk-food (red) flags.
* How to distinguish true love from true lust.
* How to tell if youre in a bad relationship and how to call it quits.
* How to be comfortable being alone.
* How to handle rejection gracefully.
* How to improve your primary long-term relationship: The one with yourself.
We are facing an epidemic of divorce in the church, and the dirty little secret is that these marriages are falling apart because we, as Christians, are woefully unprepared for the most taboo aspect of our relationshipsex. The Essential Elements of Sex outlines information crucial to the foundation of sexual intimacy and describes the nine essential elements necessary to build a strong, sustainable partnership.
Eryn-Faye Frans combines the authoritative research of some of the most renowned experts in the field with her own experience coaching thousands of individuals and couples across North America. In The Essential Elements of Sex, she provides a biblically based, scientifically established understanding of the issues men and women face in the bedroom. She debunks myths about sexual intimacy, provides answers to commonly asked questions, offers tips and how-tos, and suggests practical exercises that can improve communication, intimacy and appreciation for each other.
Was she some sort of a Biblical Superwoman? Not at allshe was a well-rounded woman who had a sense of priorities and still found time for herself. Although she lived three thousand years ago, the Proverbs 31 woman is a relevant role model for todays woman.
The Proverbs Principle is a blueprint for your way of life, based upon the role model of the Proverbs 31 woman. But it goes much further than the Biblical passages. It offers ways to live a more fulfilling life in todays busy world, and covers every aspect of a womans lifeher relationship with God...marriage and motherhood...family and personal finances...self-improvement...health, beauty and fashion...homemaking and decorating...charity... career...in thirty-one chapters!
Tahir Anwar, Imam, U.S.A.
"Sex is a normal function of life...so normal that every single human being owes its existence to it. However because of the insanity that has gripped the world in terms of porn this book acts as sane voice. Sex is sacred and we need to take back the sheets from the porn industry. Many young people are drawn to porn and what is learnt from its pages/screens is all wrong. Women are to be respected. And in the arena of love/sex between married people only true knowledge can bring joy. This book carrying such knowledge should be required reading by all young people as it discusses the topic of intimacy in a halal manner". Shamal Zamalludin, Producer of Islamic Documentaries and Brochures, WWW. ZAMALS.COM, Guyana
"If love is the answer, could you please rephrase the question?" --Lily Tomlin
No more two-week wonders. No more romantic cul-de-sacs. No more saying "Yes" when you mean "No." Don't even pretend you don't know what I'm talking
Your Inner Bitch, that integral, powerful part of you, is essential when you're falling in love, and even more essential when you're falling out of love. Looking for romance? Looking for a date? Looking for a relationship? Let your Inner Bitch be your guide.
"Remember, lust makes you stupid." --Nicole Hollander
This book will inspire you and motivate you to live in your authentic self. When you understand who you are and where you are, you are able to recognize the difference of your partner and cultivate the beauty that make your partner special and perfect for you. You will learn how to create a magnificent, loving, juicy, passionate relationship. It will teach you on how to keep the fire of passion alive and how to be open and having an amazing intimacy life with your partner.
S...Stop your own negative behavior
A...Assemble a support group
N...Nip excuses in the bud
I...Implement rules and boundaries
T....Trust your instincts
Y...Yield everything to God
Allison's new book will help women who have allowed others to overstep their boundaries, whether it's a spouse, an adult child, a boss, a parent, a neighbor or a friend. Setting Boundaries(r) For Women is designed to inspire, empower, and equip women with the tools to transform lives.
A single man playing the dating game for more than twenty years in Manhattan, Berkowitz has compiled an extensive list of dos and donts for males who are trying to meet that special someone. The Twenty-First-Century Guide to Bachelorhood discusses: The best place to meet members of the opposite sex How to prepare for a date What to do on a date The chronological anatomy of a relationship The common pitfalls of relationships What to avoid at the beginning of a relationship Questions women have about mens habits What guys think Learning about the opposite sex is an ongoing experiment, and this guide helps distill some of that important information in a sometimes humorous, but helpful, way.
This is the ultimate practical, giftable resource for couples, filled with 10,000 ideas for expressing affection. From the author of the phenomenally successful 1001 Ways to Be Romantic, "America's Romance Coach" Gregory J.P. Godek, 10,000 Ways to Say I Love You overflows with surprise ideas, back-to-basics classics that always work, and inspired twists on creative expression. Readers can express true affection with secret love notes, perpetual bouquets, secluded picnics, outrageous gifts...and 9,996 more ways to say "I love you." At one idea per day, this book will last couples 27.4 years!
This tenth anniversary edition offers fresh tips for today's world of texting and social networking, giving readers more reasons than ever to pick up this best-loved romantic collection.
With practical advice and conversation "cheat sheets," The Fine Art of Small Talk will help you learn to feel more comfortable in any type of social situation, from lunch with the boss to an association event to a cocktail party where you don't know a soul.
In contrast to the life he leads today, Rick Novic suffered since his sporty, nerdy boyhood with a secret, a desire he was in no way equipped to handle, but one that eventually burst through his denial, a few months before his wedding day. Just once, he felt, while he still could, he had to know how it felt to be a woman.
Like Alice in Wonderland, his curiosity led him to fall headlong down a rabbit hole, through desperate straits, mind-opening surprises, heart-rending changes, gritty sex, and boundless love. By the time he was back on his feet, he was a different person, living a lifestyle he hadnt known existed. Anyone who has struggled to figure out who they are and how they want to live will surely appreciate this informative and engaging life story.
Praise for Alice in Genderland
Few know the transgender scene like GIRL TALK magazines Alice Novic. This exciting new memoir by her male alter ego takes us along with him and the people he loves, as he encounters and explores each twist and turn around him and within him. As much Lewis and Clark as it is Lewis Carroll, Alice in Genderland blazes a new trail in the world of crossdressing.
Linda Jensen, contributing writer, Transgender Forum
Alice bravely explores the limits of gender, sexuality, and relationshipsa sexy, poignant, and often hilarious memoir of transgenderism.
Vernon A. Rosario, M.D., author of The Erotic Imagination, clinical faculty, UCLA Neuropsychiatric Institute
More provocative than soothing, Alice in Genderland is fascinating and well worth reading.
Vern L. Bullough, Ph.D., author of Crossdressing, Sex, and Gender, past president of the Society of the Scientific Study of Sex
Home Finances for Couples is a great help for a partner in a relationship, who wants to manage the family finances efficiently, move toward meeting the shared financial goals and live in financial peace with no money issues.
This book will explain the basics of home budgeting in a simple manner, as there are no complicated financial terms to be afraid of. Ideally, both partners in a relationship should read this, but even one is enough to make a difference.
Home Finances for Couples contains 10 main chapters along with interviews, practical exercises, links to the best American and Canadian personal finance bloggers, visual illustrations and graphs.
What Amazon customers are saying?
"This book will help to manage your money, and communicate about your money, in a very healthy and positive way - and that can save you a ton of frustration about money later on".
"I'd recommend this book to people who are planning to get married or recently got married"
"Very easy to read and straight to the point narrative"
Through candid, explicit interviews with more than 1,200 men, Myrna Lamb backs up her astrological insights into love matches, relationships, and sexual preferences. Respondents to the survey open up their private lives to reveal intimate secrets that correspond remarkably to each sign of the zodiac. These real-life confessions will make you laugh out loud and maybe blush . . .
The Astrology of Great Gay Sex is a book that entertains and enlightens, offering new perspectives on compatibility, desire, and the search for that special guy. The best part? It includes a copy of the sex survey for you and your partner to discover--and fulfill--your own fantasies.
With your partner or alone, ACT with Love will teach you how to:Let go of conflict, open up, and live fully in the presentUse mindfulness to increase intimacy, connection, and understandingResolve painful conflicts and reconcile long-standing differencesAct on your values to build a rich and meaningful relationship
Bearing ten solid chapters, “Get a Man, Keep a Man” is bound to become the book that single and married women alike won’t leave home (or plan for a date, for that matter) without. Shei takes you on a journey from start to finish in this instructional masterpiece. She takes the “First things First” approach and begins Chapter one with all the preliminaries and preparations needed for a successful relationship. This is an extremely encouraging and uplifting work that bears a powerful message as the author so tenaciously strolls her way point by point through the chapters without apology. Asking very daring questions such as “What if your man cheats?”, and “Is he the one?” will definitely prevent you from making the biggest mistake of your life, but most importantly gear you up for the life and marriage you’ve always dreamed about. This book is the answer to all the questions you would like to know regarding keeping him close and you have it first hand from the author’s experience. It’s a wonder the book is so profusely and profoundly written. Shei is currently enjoying an almost nine-year run of marriage to her husband and best friend Drathoven.
Ladies If you’re ready for the authenticity of love’s principals, purchase this book and have a one on one with Shei Atkins and she will tell you exactly how to “Get a Man. And Keep a Man”.
In The ADD Myth, ADHD coach Martha Burge proposes that what is commonly understood as ADHD is actually five intense personality traits: sensual, psychomotor, intellectual, creative, and emotional. Once properly understood, People with these intense personality traits can develop them into gifts.
The ADD Myth shows:The five intense personality traits: sensual, psychomotor, intellectual, creative, and emotionalWhy all personalities exist along a "neurodiversity" spectrumWhere intense people fit on the spectrumWhy the medical profession should seek alternative explanations for ADHDStories, practical steps, and daily practices for developing one's intense nature with the least amount of suffering.
Burge includes her own story of having both of her children diagnosed with ADHD, the serious reactions they had to drug treatment, and how she began her search for an alternative approach to help them. The ADD Myth will raise awareness of the underlying condition of intensity, and help people who previously thought of themselves as broken develop more fulfilling lives.
If so, youre not alone. These are all valid concerns that most of us have encountered at some point in our dating lives. Meeting Mr. Right isnt any easier now than it was ten years ago, despite the proliferation of social media, cell phones, and dating sites.
In this guide, Selrach Smith, a fellow veteran of the dating wars, shares his best advice, perspective, and support. He discusses everything you need to know to take optimistic and productive control of your dating life, no matter how or where you meet people. Youll learn some powerful tips and simple life lessons to take the confusion out of meeting new people and making a great first impression.
With these tools, you can learn how to avoid a world of headache and heartache. If youre looking for a way to take back some of the power, read on. Youre not aloneand you dont need to be alone. The power is in your hands now.
This book is scripturally based on what I believe God has shown me over our many years of marriage (45,) and our counseling experience. How His word is to be applied to the marriage relationship in the various areas husbands and wives find themselves, including the children, the extended families and our own personal and business lifestyle.
My hope is to give those struggling, hope! And some tools that can help them overcome whatever the circumstance (problem) is. The biggest tool of course is God, and how much we will allow Him to touch our heart. Hopefully, we will come to the realization we are to conform to His way and not Him to ours. I do believe the problem is not the marriage that needs to be worked on, but the husband and wife that must work out their individual issues (baggage prior to marriage) with counselors, through learned communication and other materials. Are you willing to change?