For every man who always wondered why some guys have all the luck, Mystery, considered by many to be the world's greatest pickup artist, finally reveals his secrets for finding and forming relationships with some of the world's most beautiful women. Mystery gained mainstream attention for his role in Neil Strauss's New York Times bestselling exposé, The Game. Now he has written the definitive handbook on the art of the pickup.
He developed his unique method over years of observing social dynamics and interacting with women in clubs to learn how to overcome the guard shield that many women use to deflect come-ons from "average frustrated chumps."
The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed shares tips such as:
*Give more attention to her less attractive friend at first, so your target will get jealous and try to win your attention.
*Always approach a target within 3 seconds of noticing her. If a woman senses your hesitation, her perception of your value will be lower.
*Don't be picky. Approach as many groups of people in a bar as you can and entertain them with fun conversation. As you move about the room, positive perception of you will grow. Now it's easy to meet anyone you want.
*Smile. Guys who don't get laid, don't smile.
From the television to the Internet, print media to videos, men are constantly faced with the assault of sensual images. It is impossible to avoid such temptations...but, thankfully, not impossible to rise above them.
Shattering the perception that men are unable to control their thought lives and roving eyes, Every Man's Battle shares the stories of dozens who have escaped the trap of sexual immorality and presents a practical, detailed plan for any man who desires sexual purity-perfect for men who have fallen in the past, those who want to remain strong today, and all who want to overcome temptation in the future.
Includes a special section for women, designed to help them understand and support the men they love.
From the Trade Paperback edition.
Because relationship expert Weiner Davis is convinced that feeling sexy is a two-person job, she looks at the problem of -- and the solution to -- low sexual desire from a couple's perspective. Whether you're someone whose passion has faded or someone who's been hungering for touch, you'll learn life-altering lessons about bridging the desire gap and restoring intimacy and friendship to your marriage. And because Weiner Davis knows that one spouse is often more motivated than the other to work on a relationship, she offers creative ways to inspire your partner to change.
Separate chapters address the spouse who's hot, the one who's not, and then both together. If you're the spouse with a lagging libido, you're far from alone. And if you're a man, you'll be surprised to learn that staggering numbers of men, even men whose sexual machinery works just fine, "get headaches" too!
If you're the low-desire spouse, you'll learn about the physiological and psychological factors, including unresolved relationship issues, that may contribute to the chill in your bedroom. You'll learn the truth about sexual desire: that for millions of men or women it doesn't just happen; you have to make it happen. Finally, you'll find specific, pragmatic, and often provocative solutions to help you discover the siren or seducer within.
If you're the more highly sexed partner, you'll breathe a sigh of relief. At last someone understands your feelings about the void in your marriage. Discover why your pleas for touch have fallen upon deaf ears and why your approach to the lull in your sexual relationship could be a sexual turnoff. Most important, you'll find tools you can use to reach out in ways that will make your spouse more responsive. Finally, if your partner is willing, you will learn how to keep the flame of desire burning together.
Full of moving firsthand accounts from couples who have struggled with the erosion of sexual desire and rebuilt their passionate connection, The Sex-Starved Marriage will give you and your spouse the inspiration, encouragement, and answers you need to find your way out of a sex-starved marriage.
As a longtime pastor of a big-city church, A.R. Bernard has witnessed couples in every stage of life. He’s been with them as they experienced dizzying joys, unspeakable tragedies, and everything in between.
As men and women have come to Bernard for spiritual counseling and advice, he’s learned patterns of behavior that are repeated time and again. After almost four decades of preaching, teaching, and counseling, he’s seen that while every situation is unique, people’s behaviors and consequences are amazingly consistent. With this in mind, Bernard has developed a simple system for understanding how couples relate to each other.
Maturity, decisiveness, consistency, and strength—these are the four things women want and need most from a man. In his book, Bernard teaches readers how to identify and cultivate these traits toward a happy and long-lasting relationship—one built to weather any storm.
Matt Chandler helps navigate these issues for both singles and marrieds by revealing the process Solomon himself followed: Attraction, Courtship, Marriage ... even Arguing. The Mingling of Souls will forever change how you view and approach love.
The only way women can survive the intense struggle for sexual integrity is by guarding not just your body, but your mind and heart as well. Every Woman’s Battle can help you learn to do that. Using real-life stories and examples from her own struggle, Shannon Ethridge helps women like you–whether married, engaged, or planning to marry someday.
Christopher Yuan, the son of Chinese immigrants, discovered at an early age that he was different. He was attracted to other boys. As he grew into adulthood, his mother, Angela, hoped to control the situation. Instead, she found that her son and her life were spiraling out of control—and her own personal demons were determined to defeat her.
Years of heartbreak, confusion, and prayer followed before the Yuans found a place of complete surrender, which is God’s desire for all families. Their amazing story, told from the perspectives of both mother and son, offers hope for anyone affected by homosexuality.
God calls all who are lost to come home to him. Casting a compelling vision for holy sexuality, Out of a Far Country speaks to prodigals, parents of prodigals, and those wanting to minister to the gay community.
“But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and felt compassion, and ran and embraced him and kissed him.” - Luke 15:20
Includes a discussion guide for personal reflection and group use.
From the Trade Paperback edition.
The only way women can survive the intense struggle for sexual integrity is by guarding not just your body, but your mind and heart as well. Every Woman’s Battle can help you learn to do that. Using real-life stories and examples from her own struggle, Shannon Ethridge helps women like you–whether married, engaged, or planning to marry someday.
In the summer of 2014, the Rotherham sex abuse scandal sent shockwaves through the nation. A report revealed that, since the 1990s, up to 1,400 young girls in the town had been regularly abused by sex gangs, predominantly comprised of Pakistani men. As the media descended on the small Yorkshire town, Sarah Wilson watched with horror and relief as her voice was finally heard after years of abuse.
Sarah was just eleven years old when she was befriended by a group of older men. Bullied at school, naive and vulnerable, the gifts and attention they lavished on her were what she craved, she just wanted to belong. But soon she was hooked on alcohol and drugs, and then they owned her. She was just twelve years old when she was bundled into a car by a man in his thirties and forced to have sex with him. Soon, the gang were driving her to places where she was raped by scores of men.
Falling through the system, from social services to school, no-one was able to help her. She ‘escaped’ when she became too old for the men at nearly sixteen.
Finally a victim of the Rotherham scandal tells her story in the hope that other young girls will not fall prey to the same evil that she endured.
Delivering the first frank and thorough investigation of life “on the down low” (the DL), J. L. King exposes a closeted culture of sex between black men who lead “straight” lives. King explores his own past as a DL man, and the path that led him to let go of the lies and bring forth a message that can promote emotional healing and open discussions about relationships, sex, sexuality, and health in the black community.
Providing a long-overdue wake-up call, J. L. King bravely puts the spotlight on a topic that has until now remained dangerously taboo. Drawn from hundreds of interviews, statistics, and the author’s firsthand knowledge of DL behavior, On the Down Low reveals the warning signs African American women need to know. King also discusses the potential health consequences of having unprotected sex, as African American women represent an alarming 64 percent of new HIV infections. Volatile yet vital, On the Down Low is sure to be one of the most talked-about books of the year.
“A survey by the Centers for Disease Control in Atlanta found that nearly a quarter of black HIV-positive men who had sex with men consider themselves heterosexual.”
Sophie Morgan is a submissive. An ordinary, successful young woman who in private surrenders her body and mind to a dominant man. Some of these relationships have been loving, others casual, one just cruel. But what happens when she meets the dominant man of her dreams? When they move in together? When life, love and play collide?
In Adam, Sophie has found a man to respect and cherish her, as well as a lover who'll take her to the very limits of pain and pleasure. But how do you decide whose cooking dinner when later one of you will be whipping the other? Can you be curled up together watching TV one night and the next indulging in a serious punishment session?
In this follow-up to the number-one bestseller, The Diary of a Submissive, Sophie tells us what she did next, how she struggled to combine an ordinary relationship with her sexual needs. It's a controversial, honest and erotic story of trying to find her kinkily romantic happy-ever-after. No Ordinary Love Story is Sophie Morgan's real-life Fifty Shades of Grey.
Sophie Morgan is the author number-one best-selling The Diary of a Submissive, and is a journalist in her thirties.
Whether they conducted their research in life or in the lab, experts Tucker Max and Dr. Geoffrey Miller have spent the last 20+ years learning what women really want from their men, why they want it, and how men can deliver those qualities.
The short answer: become the best version of yourself possible, then show it off. It sounds simple, but it's not. If it were, Tinder would just be the stuff you use to start a fire. Becoming your best self requires honesty, self-awareness, hard work and a little help.
Through their website and podcasts, Max and Miller have already helped over one million guys take their first steps toward Ms. Right. They have collected all of their findings in Mate, an evidence-driven, seriously funny playbook that will teach you to become a more sexually attractive and romantically successful man, the right way:
- No "seduction techniques"
- No moralizing
- No bullshit
Just honest, straightforward talk about the most ethical, effective way to pursue the win-win relationships you want with the women who are best for you.
Much of what they've discovered will surprise you, some of it will not, but all of it is important and often misunderstood. So listen up, and stop being stupid!
In the underbelly of Las Vegas, a cesspool of warring biker gangs and seedy strip clubs, gawky, brace-faced Jenna Massoli was transformed into the bombshell Jenna Jameson. Today, Jenna is the biggest star in the history of adult movies, consistently ranked as one of the most beautiful women alive. But behind the glamour and the meteoric rise to fame was a path paved with tragedy and heartbreak. As a teenager—drawn into a dark and chaotic world where rape, abuse, and murder were commonplace—Jenna began her rapid downward spiral of addiction and degradation . . . while at the same time becoming the porn world's biggest crossover success story.
IN REAL LIFE: Love, Lies & Identity in the Digital Age
As the host of the wildly popular TV series Catfish which investigates online relationships to determine whether they are based on truth or fiction (spoiler: it's almost always fiction).
Nev has become the Dr. Drew of online relationships. His clout in this area springs from his own experience with a deceptive online romance, about which he made a critically acclaimed 2010 documentary (also called Catfish). In that film Nev coined the term "catfish" to refer to someone who creates a false online persona to reel someone into a romantic relationship. The meme spread rapidly.
Now Nev brings his expertise to the page, sharing insider secrets about:
-what motivates catfish
-why people fall for catfish
-how you can avoid being deceived
-rules for dating -- both online and off
-how to connect authentically with others over the internet
-how to turn an online relationship into a real-life relationship
...and much, much more.
Peppered throughout with Nev's personal stories, this book delves deeply into the complexities of online identity. Nev shows us how our digital lives are affecting our real lives, and provides essential advice about how we should all be living and loving in the era of social media.
Ian Kerner offers a radical new philosophy for pleasuring women in She Comes First—an essential guidebook to oral sex from the author of Be Honest—You’re Not That Into Him Either. The New York Times praises Kerner’s “cool sense of humor and an obsessive desire to inform,” as he “encourages men through an act that many find mystifying.” An indispensable aid to a healthier, more fulfilling sex life for her and him, She Comes First offers techniques and philosophy that have already earned raves from the likes of bestselling author and Loveline co-host Dr. Drew Pinsky as well as Playgirl magazine, which cheers, “Hallelujah!”
How to Talk to the Ladies: Make a Connection and Start Dating! will help you overcome any problems you may have in talking to women and start dating better. Providing tips on how to start conversations with women as well as how to ask them out, this guide is a must for any man who needs help with the opposite sex.
If you're in your thirties or forties, your body is changing, and so are your moods, sleep, health, and weight. Tired of being at the mercy of your hormones? Armed with the knowledge in this book, you don't have to be. Perimenopause can be enjoyable if you know what to do. I'm Too Young for This! details how you can get your body and mind back on track, safely and without drugs, including:
- How our bodies transition hormonally—from puberty through perimenopause.
- The common complaints of perimenopause—and hidden factors that may keep you symptomatic.
- What are the minor and major hormones, and the important role they play in feeling good and staying vibrant and healthy.
- What to eat—including Perimenopausal Power Foods—as well as other lifestyle shifts that are critical to your successful transition.
- Cutting-edge research that proves the safety and efficacy of bioidentical hormone replacement (BHRT).
- The Symptom Solver: a state-of-the-art guide to immediate relief for your hormonal complaints. Plus, how to find the right doctor as well as get your most frequently asked questions answered by expert hormone specialists.
Your life is about to change for the better. You can feel great, be vibrant, healthy, thin, and sexy! This book shows you how.
In this abridged version of the New York Times bestseller The 5 Love Languages®, relationships expert Dr. Gary Chapman offers a trimmed-down explanation of his transformational approach to love.
People express and receive love in 5 different ways, called love languages: quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. The sooner you discover your language and that of your loved one, the sooner you can take your relationship to new heights. And with this summary version of the award-winning book, you don't have to read long to find out.
With disarming wit, clear explanations, and inspiring storytelling, Dr. Chapman only needs a moment of your time to transform your love life.
Let Kaleb take you on a closely intimate and highly personalized sexual journey through ninety-two of his favorite gay sex positions. Whether you're new to the whole sex game or have hit a lot of home runs and are looking for a new challenge, Starting Positions has all bases covered.
The first volume of the Kaleb Sutra presents 14 erotic and sexually-charged short stories, written and illustrated to stimulate and push your limits in the bedroom, and beyond with 92 sports themed reasons to make any day of the week date night!
Excerpt Chapter 1 Baseball-
“Each time i slam into you, your breathe gets caught in your throat as if you’ve just been hit by a fastball…”
Starting Positions is far from the normal drab and boring descriptions of normal position books, the erotic stories compel you to jump in and start creating your own stories. Put the action back into your date night!! With useful hints and tips “sex notes” provided for each position, to allow each playmate – whether you’re in charge of that round, or just riding the wave – to get experience and enjoy each position – the way the Kaleb Sutra practiced, perfected and intended!
While on holiday with her mother at a popular Mediterranean coastal resort, Megan fell in love. Just 14 years old, naïve and vulnerable, she had no reason to suspect that the man who said he loved her would commit the ultimate betrayal of her trust.
When her mother returned to England, Megan stayed with Jak, who said he would find her a job as a waitress and promised they would be together forever. But when Megan travelled to the city with Jak, his attitude quickly changed and instead of finding her work as a waitress, he allowed her to be raped and then sold her to a human trafficker.
Abandoned by Jak but still unable to accept that everything he’d told her had been a lie, Megan was coerced by threats and violence into working as a prostitute in private homes and brothels. Then the trafficker threatened her mother’s life and it was Megan’s turn to lie: sending her mother the staged photographs that had been taken of her apparently working as a waitress in a cafe, she told her she was happy.
Too frightened and bewildered to trust or reach out to anyone, Megan remained locked in a world of brutality and abuse for six years. In the end, there only seemed to be one way out.
Megan’s powerful story reveals the devastating realities of human trafficking and the fear that imprisons its victims more effectively than any cage could ever do.
An essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works—based on groundbreaking research and brain science—that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy.
Researchers have spent the last decade trying to develop a “pink pill” for women to function like Viagra does for men. So where is it? Well, for reasons this book makes crystal clear, that pill will never be the answer—but as a result of the research that’s gone into it, scientists in the last few years have learned more about how women’s sexuality works than we ever thought possible, and Come as You Are explains it all.
The first lesson in this essential, transformative book by Dr. Emily Nagoski is that every woman has her own unique sexuality, like a fingerprint, and that women vary more than men in our anatomy, our sexual response mechanisms, and the way our bodies respond to the sexual world. So we never need to judge ourselves based on others’ experiences. Because women vary, and that’s normal.
Second lesson: sex happens in a context. And all the complications of everyday life influence the context surrounding a woman’s arousal, desire, and orgasm.
Cutting-edge research across multiple disciplines tells us that the most important factor for women in creating and sustaining a fulfilling sex life, is not what you do in bed or how you do it, but how you feel about it. Which means that stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it. Once you understand these factors, and how to influence them, you can create for yourself better sex and more profound pleasure than you ever thought possible.
And Emily Nagoski can prove it.
Whether you are a new couple, or have been married for 50 years, it can be difficult to maintain the level of fun and arousal in the bedroom that you would like. Too often, we approach sex as a serious matter, forgetting that it can be a wonderfully creative experience. We let the routine of our daily lives intrude upon the intimate time that we spend with our partner.
If we aren’t careful, sex can turn into a boring routine.
Fortunately, there is no need to engage in S&M or head to a swingers club so you can spice up your love life. By incorporating erotic role play into your sex lives, you can heighten and enhance your connection with your partner, whether physically, emotionally or mentally or all three!
If you have ever tried erotic role playing yourself, you know it's hard to come up with interesting ideas, and even harder to get your partner to play along. This is where "131 Sex Games & Erotic Role Plays for Couples" can really help.
The erotic role plays contained in this book will allow you to explore each other’s fantasies, fetishes and desires. They have been placed in thematic sections, so you can go immediately to a particular section, or just browse each section as you get to it.
So go ahead & try them out. Allow yourself to be whoever you want. You will enrich your sex life and take your relationship with your partner to a whole new level.
Witty, smart, and frankly provocative, Nina Hartley knows sex. As a sex performer, sexual adventurer, and sex educator, she's done the fieldwork and has taken extensive notes. Now, she's ready to share her research. Let's just say that she's had all the sex-the good, the bad, and the indifferent-so you won't necessarily have to!
Nina Hartley's Guide to Total Sex is for sexual pioneers and enthusiastic novices. Unabashedly erotic, the book covers a lot of territory, allowing readers to sample the whole smorgasbord or just nibble at what they see as the choicest bits. To start things off, Nina includes explicitly detailed chapters on foreplay, oral sex, masturbation, toys, and games. Sexual adventurers (and voyeurs) will find chapters on swinging, three-ways, anal sex, erotic domination, sensual submission, and much more.
Nina is a strong advocate of safe sex, physically and emotionally, and she helps readers establish personal ground rules. But as a sexual liberationist and a feminist, her core belief is that, between consenting adults, all sexual behaviors are a matter of personal choice. Whether you're trying to reignite the passion with a longtime spouse, or explore new terrain with a new lover, Nina offers a variety of ideas to achieve exhilarating, deeply satisfying, intimate, and profoundly liberating sex.
Declan Lewis grew up on the streets until taken under the wing of a man with a soft spot for a child he never had. The man taught Declan all he knew, only…all he knew was being a hired killer for the Dantes family. When Declan crosses paths with a girl so unlike himself, he can't help but be attracted to his polar opposite. However, bringing her into his life means bringing her into his world, a mistake that might prove fatal. He wants to be the man she deserves, but to give her what she needs, he'll have to change. And is change really possible for a killer?
keywords: mob, hitman, contemporary romance, new adult, suspense, crime
Hung tops stick it in like a glute inject and the bottoms don’t even flinch. What’s their secret? And what can you learn from them so you can have ecstatic butt sex without any pain? Some of the answers will shock you.
Learn porn star secrets to bottoming without pain and start making love with volcanic pleasure. Written by gay sex advice columnist Woody Miller and a team of urologists and colon-rectal specialists, this book combines porn industry secrets with innovative techniques from the latest gay male sex research.
How We Got The Porn Industry’s Secrets To Bottoming Without Pain.
We sent a team of researchers to interview a truckload of gay male erotica industry folk—cameramen, scouts, producers, directors and performers. The result is a fascinating, behind-the-scenes, no-holds-barred look into the industry and the secrets they use to get performers to bottom without pain or messy scenes. The main sections:
1: What You Can Learn From Porn Star Bottoms.
A fascinating view of bottoming in the porn industry—how gay erotica performers prepare for a shoot, how they can take huge tops without any pain (even if it’s their first time) and how they stay loose despite day-long shoots. If you ever had a question about how the porn industry works, this is the place to find answers—from how much money porn stars make to what percent are heterosexual (shocking!) to their favorite brand of douches.
2: Free Your Mind, Your Butt Will Follow.
How To Bottom Like A Porn Star: The Ultimate Guide To Gay Sex is part porn exposé, part how-to from the latest gay sex research. In this chapter, we’ll look at how “Anticipatory pain” and a perceived loss of masculinity can put your butt in a headlock. We’ll show you how to resolve the emotional blocks that stop you from trying or enjoying anal sex with other gay men.
3: Why It Feels Like You’re Being Impaled By A Fence Post.
From our urologist and colon-rectal experts who specialize in gay male sex: It isn’t just your sphincter causing all that pain; it’s your “S-curve” as well as involuntary puborectal contractions. Learn your anatomical structure so you can make the tips in this book work better.
4: How Porn Star Bottoms Relax Their Sphincters.
Not all do it, or need to, but the gay men in the sex industry that do swear by it. Find out whether you should use their controversial method.
5: The Porn Star Method Of Eliminating Pain.
Find out the shocking things gay male erotica stars do to eliminate pain. Some cannot be recommended, but others can and we’ve combined them with a technique that blends systematic desensitization, pattern breathing, progressive muscle relaxation and sexual imagery to completely eliminate pain and heighten pleasure.
6: How Porn Star Bottoms Handle The Ick Factor.
Find out their secrets to getting your butt cleaner than a Brady Bunch rerun.
7: A Device That’s Better Than A Douche Or An Enema.
Enemas and douches are a bad idea (despite the porn industry’s reliance on them). Find out why and what product doctors recommend that will get you as clean as a douche without any of the harmful side effects.
8: How To Bottom Without Pain For The First Time.
Here you’ll learn how to combine the best position with the best angle of entry. Missionary? Doggie-style? Straight in? Angled up? When it comes to gay sex, it matters.
9: A Guided Tour Of A Pain-Free Bottoming Session Between Adam And Steve.
A beginner’s real-time, step-by-step guide to bottoming—porn style!-- that will light you up like an all-night liquor store.
Learn How To Bottom Like A Porn Star With The Ultimate Guide To Gay Sex!
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“Discover The Simple and Proven Techniques and Strategies That Will Make You Absolutely Irresistible to Beautiful Women…No Matter What You Look like or How Much Money You Have!”
Gain an Unfair Advantage Over the “competition” in the Game of Dating!
If you are a guy that has had no luck with women all your life, or have absolutely no idea about what you’re doing when it comes to asking a girl out or even going on a date with her…This letter is for you.
Because you are about to learn exactly what women find absolutely irresistible in a man and what you can easily do to stay on the mind of virtually every girl you meet!
- No need to go to the gym and get a six pack
- No need to give her beautiful flowers
- No need to take her to expensive restaurants
- No need to write her any poetry
I am NOT about to tell you to spend a ton of money on every girl you meet, write her poetry or even change yourself in any way! No, no, no. This guide is not about change, it’s about the simple and proven techniques and strategies that will make you attractive to women…
Dating is a game but 95% of the men out there have no idea how to play it. It’s true, dating is a numbers game and most guys’ chances of success are slim. Don’t get me wrong, everyone gets rejected…even the most attractive, hottest, richest most charming guys hear a “no” once in a while.
But that’s what dating is all about, it’s a numbers game, a game of chance and…
…You Are About To Increase Your Chances Of Sweeping A Beautiful Woman Off Her Feet Ten Fold!
How do I know? Because this used to be my life’s story…
It’s funny when I think back to just a few months ago. I remember having no idea, no clue what so ever about what I was doing when trying to meet women. I was truly clueless, and like most men I had no idea why I was constantly getting rejected.
But instead of giving up, which was not even an option, I started to learn. I started reading everything on the subject of dating and attracting women I could get my hands on. I’ve spent thousands of dollars on dating courses and tips and got rejected a 100 times over just so I can learn about what I’m doing wrong.
And after all that reading, listening to audio tapes and experience I have finally discovered the true methods and techniques to being successful in the dating game!
Give Me Just A Few Minutes Of Your Time, And I Will Show You Exactly How You Too Can Have Beautiful Women Asking You For Your Phone Number!
Like I said, dating is a numbers game and you are about to turn the odds in your favor! This can easily be accomplished by actually knowing what women look for in a man, what they are attracted to and carrying yourself the right way around girls.
Because lets face it, dating is a very important game in your life…you might as well know how to play it!
Here is just a small taste of what you are about to discover:
- Why online dating is one of the easiest ways to meet beautiful women if you are shy and afraid of face to face rejection (more and more women are choosing the safe environment of online dating sites as a way to meet men).
- The qualities every woman no matter the race or age looks for and find absolutely irresistible in men. These qualities are not something you’re born with, in fact they are extremely easy to get!
- The absolute most important rules of the art of attraction. If you don't understand this, you are never going to be successful with women, no matter what you look like or how much money you have.
- How to easily get rid of your fear of approaching and meeting women! This is something a lot of us guys have a problem with, and yet it is so easy to overcome.
- How to become a first date professional. You’ll need to learn this if you are planning on using this guide properly…because you will be going on a lot of first dates!
- Everything you need to know about using online dating sites the right way! From the first contact all the way to getting her to want to meet up with you.
- A guaranteed way to get her begging you for a second date. You wont believe how powerful yet simple this technique is!
- How To Honestly Date Multiple Women At The Same Time With No One Getting Hurt In The Process (if you are looking to have fun but at the same time don’t want to hurt anyone this is something you absolutely must know).
- Why most women would rather have a “bad boy” instead of a nice caring guy that’s always there for her. And how you can be that “bad boy” without actually being bad.
- Why catering to her every need from the moment you meet her will absolutely kill your chances of being anything more than her “talking friend”.
- Why compliments will not always get you past the pick up line, and how to really get a woman’s attention when approaching her.
- Why what you think girls want and what you have always been told girls want (even by other women) is one of the biggest reasons most men’s chances of sweeping a beautiful woman of her feet are next to nothing.
- The 7 or so things a woman is really looking for when she meet a man. This is exactly what 95% of men out there are missing when they are trying to pick up girls.
- The 14 essential rules you should always follow when dating. Follow these rules and your troubles with women are sure to disappear.
- A list of the hottest online dating websites that will help you get a date every day of the week!
- The complete guide to having a successful first date. Including where to go, how long to stay, what to talk about and how to behave.
- The 4 things you should never talk about or even mention on a first date (bring this stuff up and you’ll ruin everything!).
- Easy ways to tell if a woman is truly interested in you or just being nice.
- Easy ways to defeat your shyness and fear of approaching women that actually work!
- And Much, Much more!
I’ve read all the books, listened to all the tapes and studied all the dating courses. I’ve spent thousands of dollars and gotten rejected over a hundred times trying to figure out what really works when it comes to meeting beautiful women.
I’ve tried and tested all that I have learned, and now I know what really works and what women really find attractive! Sure, there are thousands of so called “sure” ways to try and attract women…but there are only a few that truly matter and work.
And that is exactly what you’ll get in the “How to seduce women” book.
So how much is the “How to seduce women” worth to you?
Remember, this guide will turn you from being shy and clueless around beautiful women to being a real pro. You will also learn what women really find attractive and how you can become the object of desire of all the beautiful women you want!
This guide is full of only the proven and tested techniques, advice and ways to become successful at dating. It contains no BS and nothing you don’t need, just straight to the point no fluff information on turning your dating life around.
How much is this worth to you?
Just click on the order button, and you'll be reading the “How to seduce women” minutes from now...
To Your Success,
PS: The sooner you get your hands on the “How to seduce women”, the sooner you will learn what women really find attractive and become the object of every woman’s desire!
PPS: The ladies are waiting!
With warmth and wisdom, authors Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus speak woman to woman: examining the teachings of Scripture, exposing the lies of the world, and offering real hope that every woman’s marriage relationship can become all it was intended to be in God’s design.
From the Hardcover edition.
"Submissive Training: 23 Things You Must Know About How To Be A Submissive" is designed to help you know what to expect when you go through training with a new Dom. Every couple is unique and every Dom may have different ways of teaching you the systems of service he prefers. However, these are the basics all trained subs and slaves learn and employ in daily life.
Rushing into a relationship or service contract with a Dom without training puts the future of your time together at risk. All of the arguments, resistance, misunderstandings and hurt feelings that go with a new submissive’s experiences can be eradicated by a period designated for learning, listening, trial and error.
Even if you have been with a previous Dom you will need to go through an abbreviated training time to ensure your patterns and understandings match one another. Training is a way to “get in the same rhythm” and find the perfect groove.
If you are a Dom, this guide is the perfect gift to give to your new sub. If you are a sub, this guide will teach you how to go through your submissive training. As you go through these things on the journey to become the woman you were made to be, you will be tested but you will also be proud, joyful and, perhaps for the first time in your life, you will be at peace.
The sexual addictions of pornography and masturbation are not just men’s issues. They’re women’s issues, too. Research shows that 25% of Christian women are addicted to pornography. But 70% of these women will never admit their struggle.
In Dirty Girls Come Clean, Crystal Renaud aims to change these statistics and help you gain freedom from sexual addiction.
Why This Book?
So often, ministries and tools for overcoming these sexual addictions are more accessible to men than they are to women. Even if these ministries and tools were accessible to women, they may not be as effective in giving freedom because women turn to pornography for different reasons than men do.
Women need a resource crafted specifically for them.
A Trusted Source
Crystal, founder of Dirty Girls Ministries and AACC certified counselor, comes clean first. Her story of addiction to pornography began when she was 10 years old and continued and intensified for eight years.
During this time of sexual addiction, Crystal deceived and withdrew. She came to know shame intimately, and she thought she was alone in her struggle.
After coming clean about her sexual addiction, Crystal also includes stories of other women who have come clean about theirs.
A Plan for Freedom
Crystal is determined to help women come clean and, by God’s grace and power, get free.
Addressing both the sexual addictions themselves as well as underlying issues that cause them, Crystal provides a plan for freedom using the acronym SCARS.S—Surrender: Trusting the HealerC—Confession: Out of the DarknessA—Accountability: Restoring Our Character R—Responsibility: Owning My Part of the Story S—Sharing: God Never Wastes an Experience
In addition to her plan for freedom from sexual addiction, Crystal provides other resources such as: personal inventories, the twelve steps of sexaholics anonymous, online accountability programs, other books, and links to recovery groups.
Join Crystal and many others who have claimed freedom from sexual addiction. Now is your time to come clean and be free.
“With the recent release of Crystal’s book Dirty Girls Come Clean women now have the tools they need to fight a battle that many assume only ensnares men.
I can only imagine what kind of hope and encouragement this book is going to offer women who have believed for years, decades, that they were the only ones struggling and there was no hope for them.”
-Book review by Marsha Fisher on porntopurity.com
An Excerpt from the First Chapter:
This book is for you, the woman who feels alone in addiction to pornography. I don’t believe in coincidences. This book is in your hands because God wants to speak some truth to you, and, for whatever reason, He’s chosen to use this book to do so.
The dark cloud of this addiction is far-reaching. Pornography addiction knows no path other than one of destruction, isolation, and suffocation. Pornography addiction knows no creed. Pornography addiction knows no gender.
We are all sexual beings. If not, you and I would not be living on this earth. So to believe that pornography can only be a man’s problem is not only false, but it is an ignorant lie that comes from the enemy.
The enemy, Satan, deceived Even in the garden of Eden by convincing her that if she ate the forbidden fruit, she would be like God. She in turn offered Adam the fruit, he took some, and as a result of their disobedience, they were expelled from the beautiful garden where they had enjoyed perfect fellowship with God. Satan’s goal was to destroy. And the enemy has been trying to destroy women ever since.
From the first bite of forbidden fruit to pornography addiction, the enemy will use whatever he can to deceive us and keep us ineffective for use in the kingdom of God.
May you find comfort in knowing that not only are you not alone in your struggle, but there is hope for breaking the stronghold of this addiction.
And that hope comes from Jesus.
I write this book from a Christian point of view because it is my personal belief that Jesus is the reason I stand free from pornography today. But as I said, pornography addiction knows no creed. Pornography affects everyone. So it is my hope that the steps provided throughout this book will be beneficial to all women, from all walks of life.
You were created for so much more than this life you’ve been living. Life is to be lived abundantly. It is time to come on out from behind the bushes.
Life is waiting.
You deserve a committed relationship, and it is within your control to have the one you want. First, though, you need to determine what you want in a partner, plot your course, and get out there and create velocity in your pursuit of a loving connection.
In this book you'll learn to:
Present the real you in the most flattering light. You have to stop being your own best kept secret.
Peek behind the male curtain. Dr. Phil tells you things about men that they don't necessarily want you to know. How good is your Guy-Q?
Master the right moves. Don't fade into the wallpaper; get noticed and get involved. If you are already coupled up then learn how to grow and nurture what you have built.
Bag 'em, tag 'em and take 'em home. Learn how to negotiate the relationship you desire and then close the deal.
Get out of your relationship rut. The daily grind, money problems, work, etc., can take their toll on your relationship. Dr. Phil shows you how to assess the state of your union and take your relationship to a deeper level.
There are no exceptions: There is somebody for everybody, and everybody deserves a relationship filled with love and excitement. Love Smart: Find the One You Want -- Fix the One You Got offers you the plan to find not just any relationship but the committed, loving, joy-filled relationship you've been waiting for.
Contact Dr. Phil at www.drphil.com
Complete with sex notes & difficulty/penetration levels to put you in the driver's seat with all the new tricks you're going to have up your sleeve, come date night!
This book is not written for women with a weak spirit. It isn’t going to tell you how to mitigate the pain you feel in the wake of a breakup, and it isn’t going to tell you that everything is going to be fine. And while it will tell you how to maximize your chances of getting your ex back, it isn’t going to pretend that there are any ‘tricks’ to make that outcome likely. However, it will do something much more important: it will give you a strong insight into your ex’s state of mind and male psychology in general. This will give you the foundation you need to navigate the breakup and – more importantly – propel yourself into honest and successful relationships with the men in your future.
PART I – UNDERSTANDING WHAT HAPPENED
Men Don’t Fall in Love the Same Way Women Do
The Analogy Between Sex and Commitment
Why This Always Happens to You
Changing Your Perspective
Why You Didn’t See It Coming
Men Don’t Have “Commitment Problems”
The Difference Between Liking You and Liking You Enough
Why Men “Fade Out”
You Weren’t Dating Him in the First Place
The Small Things Didn’t Matter Anyway
Why Your Ex (Who Dumped You) Is Still Contacting You
Your Ex and Guilt
Your Ex and Pride
Your Ex and Decisiveness
Interpreting His Emotions
What’s Going Through His Mind
PART II – HOW TO HANDLE THE BREAKUP
The Importance of Silence after a Breakup
No, You Can’t Be “Just Friends”
How to Know If You Should Cut Him Off
Why It’s Never Too Late
Why You Should Tell Him That You Are Cutting Him Off
What to Say
Managing Your Expectations
When You Should Fight to Save Your Relationship
Exceptions to the Rule
How to Know If You Should Dump Him First
When He Cheats
The Anatomy of Missing Him
PART III – FOLLOWING THROUGH WITH THE BREAKUP
Making Him Jealous Doesn’t Work
Seeing Him at Work
Being Connected with Your Ex on Social Media
Returning His Things and Getting Yours Back
What to Do When He Contacts You
When He Says He Wants Another Chance
Reason and Distraction
Stop Sleeping with Your Ex to Prove He Likes You
PART IV – MOVING ON AND REBUILDING
You Are Responsible for Your Own Romantic Happiness
Stop Letting Him Waste Your Time
Know Why You Want Him Back
Why Getting Him Back Won’t Help
Why Getting Dumped Is a Good Thing
The Importance of Emotional Honesty
Putting the Breakup in Perspective
When You Can Contact Him Again
Reframing the Future
A Final Word
From the Trade Paperback edition.
The Dating Manifesto is neither a cheesy formula for finding a spouse nor a feel-good book about how the person for you is “out there” if you only “believe.”Instead, it’s a challenge to wise up, own your junk, and chart a bold new course for your relationship future.
Michael J. Lockwood knows that when it comes to relationships, women really have the control. It's the man's game not to let them know it. This empowering book is a wake-up call for women. It challenges them to be responsible for their actions, raise their standards, stop compromising, and to use their power to find a man who cherishes commitment and appreciates a fine woman.
Readers will discover:
? The red flags that signal trouble
? Why men live for the 'thrill of the hunt'
? The techniques men use to get women into bed- and away from the altar
? The ten things to never do on a date
? How women regain their rightful position of power in a relationship
Providing clear, no-nonsense solutions for many difficult dating/relationship problems, this is an invaluable guide for any man who?s been stymied by the ?rules? of the dating game.
Intended for single or divorced men, it delivers specific, detailed advice on how and where to meet women, how to talk to them, how to ask a woman out, how to prepare for a date and keep the conversation flowing. It explains how to be a success romantically, revealing the five keys and five blocks to intimacy that can keep a relationship going or derail it completely. Readers will also learn how to know if she?s the one?and know when it?s over.
‘Pleasures are as necessary for the well-being of the body as food.' Kama Sutra
‘The Modern Kama Sutra’ opens up a new and exotic world of sexual pleasure that will change your sex life for ever.
Inspired by the ancient text of the Kama Sutra, this fully illustrated book offers over 40 easy-to-follow explicit positions (try positions such as 'Splitting the Bamboo', ' The Congress of the Cow', 'Yab Yum' and the 'Canopy of Stars'), step-by step instructions and practical tips and 200 stunning colour photographs that guarantee to enhance your erotic pleasure and improve your sexual technique.
‘The Modern Kama Sutra’ is for the modern couple, catering for both experienced lovers and for those wanting to experiment. You will learn how to heighten your awareness of your own and your partner’s bodies, and achieve an emotional intimacy and sexual intensity never before experienced.
• Why not try fast sex sequences for instant pleasure – use all kinds of locations, from the kitchen table and bathroom shower to the living room sofa and even the office floor!
• Learn how massage and intimate touching can enhance your sexual desire. Discover how to indulge the body and the senses with separate chapters on seduction, foreplay and oral sex.
Relationships are hard work, but how hard should they be? When do you know you are struggling too hard to make a relationship succeed?
Deal Breakers is about getting out of this “relationship purgatory”—where the present is unfulfilling and the future is the only thing you can hope for. But there is no magic future. If he won’t work on problems today, it’s unlikely they’ll ever be resolved. And passively hoping for change will only cost you years of depression or expensive therapy.
Dr. Bethany Marshall is here to remind women that relationships—like business relationships—are deals. In the business world, a deal breaker is the one nonnegotiable term that, if not agreed to, means the deal is off. But in the world of relationships, identifying your deal breaker can be much more promising, as it holds out the possibility of helping you to understand where the relationship has gone wrong, what needs to be done in order to make it better, and when to walk away because you’re doing more work than him to fix it.
A deal breaker is a boundary that smart people set for themselves because they know that falling in love can make them do stupid things. Through case studies, deal breaker scenarios, and suggested courses of action, Deal Breakers expertly guides frustrated women. By defining your deal breaker, you hold all the power to create the happiness you deserve.
Were you captivated by "Fifty Shades of Grey"?
Did its hot eroticism and passionate love story make you hungry for the same in your life?
Have you wondered how to capture the romance, the intense intimacy and enduring relationship of the BDSM lifestyle?
The answers to these important questions, answers that can change your life forever and for the better, can be found in " 50 Shades of Better Sex", the hot new guide by the renowned erotic author Melinda Holmes. She shares the secrets of BDSM lifestyle experts who advise everyday people how they can incorporate these exotic-yet-mainstream erotic practices into their love lives and evolve their relationships with love partners.
In a dramatic and sexy format, Melinda reveals to the reader the easy to follow practices that can lead to a better, more enduring love affair with a long term amour. Sexy, fun and unabashedly hot, this steamy guide blows all others off the book racks!
Millions of women long to freshen their relationship, to add a spark of excitement to the ‘same old same old.’ We all feel the need, and Melinda satisfies it for us in this guide for happiness-seekers.
This book will be a lifeline to a long-term, lasting relationship for countless women, a path to a satisfying love life, and help you to develop a bursting-with-happiness partnership with your man (or men!)
Melinda Holmes is the pseudonym of a best selling authoress with numerous awards and popular acclaim for the quality and popularity of her erotic fiction and non-fiction.
In this guide, this bestselling women’s fiction author teaches you to:Throw out the stale old relationship, and build a spicy new one – with the same man!Learn what you don’t say but tell your partner anyway – and how to ‘read’ each other’s bodyBuild yourself and your partner to exquisite pleasureTake away the senses to excite and complete one another’s enjoymentRecognize locations and ways to enjoy BDSM outside of the bedroomLead your man and yourself to longer and more frequent orgasms
And much, MUCH more – the exciting lessons in the levels and methods of an intimate BDSM partnership for you and your lover are dramatized in excitingly passionate and highly erotic scenarios of a once lonely housewife named Laura.
Join her in this exciting journey!
Get a FREE BONUS copy of the best-selling ebook: Spiritual Sex And Satisfaction
Here's What You'll Learn:The mindset of spiritual satisfaction of sexThe killer ways of boosting your power during sexHow to attain satisfaction and reduce dissatisfaction in sexTips and secrets to great sex spirituallyBenefits of spiritual sexAnd more
In "Dom's Guide to Submissive Training Vol. 2," I listed 25 things you must know about your new sub if you want to create a satisfying relationship with a devoted submissive. It's not enough to just ask “What do you like?” or “Would you like to be my sub?” You need to know things about your sub that are deeper, more practical and helpful.
Without the knowledge of these 25 things, you may be able to create momentarily excitement but it will surly turn into a frustrating short-term relationship headed for drama, disaster and end.
Following this guide allows your sub to communicate freely and provides a mechanism for her to reveal her true self – even if she doesn’t have the words to do so. There are a million things subs want their Doms to know. These questions will help your sub tell you.
Better sex is about one thing: better orgasm. This life-altering guide teaches men and women how to use the practice of Orgasmic Meditation-or OM-to slow down, connect emotionally, and achieve authentic female sexual satisfaction. The promise: In just fifteen minutes every woman can become orgasmic. And, with the right partner and the right technique, that orgasm could last and last!
For more than a decade, Nicole Daedone has been leading the "slow sex movement," which is devoted to the art and craft of the female orgasm. OM is the act of slowing down, tuning in, and experiencing a deeper spiritual and physical connection during sex. SLOW SEX reveals the philosophy and techniques of OM and includes a step-by-step, ten-day OM starter program, as well as OM secrets for achieving ultimate satisfaction. It also includes exercises to help enhance readers' "regular" sex lives, such as Slow Oral for Her, Slow Oral for Him, and Slow Intercourse.
This book is the argument for daily intimacy, and for paying attention as the foundation of pleasure, all with a focus on the female experience.
It does not matter if your sub has thirty years of experience in submission or just read 50 Shades of Grey and decided to try it herself. She will need to be trained for the best relationship to emerge.
"Dom's Guide to Submissive Training" was specifically written for doms/masters. It is designed to provide you with a step-by-step blueprint on how to train your new sub. It goes from preparation all the way down to the closing ceremony including advanced techniques & tips.
Training can be one of the most exciting, challenging and fun parts of the relationship. A well-trained sub will not only serve you in the capacity you deserve, but will have built up the two most important elements in any BDSM relationship – trust and consistency. Following the instructions in this guide will allow you to show yourself as a worthy master, who is in control, experienced and able to guide you both to the best possible life.
This book is written for Doms/Masters in training. It is written for you, the average guy or gal, who doesn’t already have a closet full of leather and whips, and who really has little idea about what BDSM is besides what they’ve heard about it.
What you are going to find out, is that the Dom/Master actually has the more complicated role. The master has the task of giving pleasure and discipline to the slave or sub. A great deal of what you do as a Dom will be for the benefit of a sub. You must derive pleasure from giving, have a great desire to please a partner, and not simply take what you want.
Still interested? Good. Now that we know you’re a REAL master in training, one that will respect the rules, respect the slave you have power over, and follow protocol, you can begin your Dom training. Only then can you truly earn the utmost respect and admiration from your sub.
In Volume 1 of this series we are going to discuss:
- How to think and act like a Dom
- What the slave expects from you
- What not to do and what instincts you do NOT want to follow
- Your motivation and your goals
- How to find out a sub’s taboo
- How to negotiate, find agreement and ensure that game play is always safe
- How to make a slave yearn for you and desire to be controlled by you
- And much more...
• Reveals how to enhance relationships by harmonizing male and female energies
• Includes easy-to-follow, illustrated acupressure massage routines
• Shows how to maintain sexual health with prostate massage and jade egg exercises
Taught to Chinese emperors, their wives, and their concubines for thousands of years, Taoist sexual techniques help lovers harmonize their cycles of pleasure and utilize the abundance of reproductive power that is otherwise wasted in non-procreative sex. Combining the study of sex with traditional Chinese medicine, these practices stimulate and sustain sexual desire through the meridians and pressure points and enhance relationships by harmonizing male (yang) and female (yin) energies.
Using easy-to-follow illustrations, Taoist Foreplay guides lovers through simple acupressure massage routines connecting all the points and channels that increase pleasure and spark arousal. It shows how to prolong peak moments, maintain sexual health through prostate massage and jade egg exercises, and sustain the intensity of first love through all the seasons of a maturing relationship. It also explains how to reveal and overcome incompatibility with the Taoist Zodiac. From foreplay to climax, these practices offer a way to keep the flame of sexual energy alive.
Learn how to navigate the twists and turns of female sexuality, with special guidance from thirteen guest sex educators including Nina Hartley, Sex Nerd Sandra, Jiz Lee, Tristan Taormino, Julia Serano, Reid Mihalko and more!
Girl Sex 101 will teach you...
*The bits and pieces that make up female sexual anatomy
*Simple ways to communicate in the heat of the moment
*How to build a Road Map of your partner s pleasure
*Essential moves for cunnilingus, strap-ons, hand sex and more!
*Positions to avoid fatigue and generate the power you need to rock your girl's world!
You'll gain confidence to please your girl, no matter what your hands-on experience. Buckle your seat belt and get ready to ride!
We’re also going to discuss how to train your sub accordingly and with a purpose. This is important and is an often-neglected part of the BDSM community. The highly sensationalized, “purely sexual” relationships you read about or see depicted in TV or movies is not the only type of relationship forged. Some relationships really are all about personal missions, self-improvement and getting in touch with suppressed inner feelings.
We will cover this as well as the most important part of BDSM dominance—having a plan. You will learn how to be an excellent Dom and it all starts with a few simple steps.
Note: If you have not read Volume 1 in this series (Dom's Guide To BDSM Vol. 1: 49 Must-Know Tips On How To Be The Perfect Dom/Master Your submissive Will Truly Respect & Admire), it is highly recommended that you do so before taking on this book.
Because fetish culture, like all cultures, grows and changes with the people who practice it, there are distinct roles and categories that developed to help women define their preferences and find like-minded people and playmates.
Women in BDSM relationships no longer have to start with the basic tenets of submission to wrap that skin around their differences. Now you can look into the whole spectrum of submissive behavior and find the place you feel most fulfilled and comfortable. From women who enjoy the occasional bondage session handcuffed to their headboard to the girls who want to be fed out of a bowl and locked in a crate at night – there is a place for everyone.
In this Submissive Training guide we will look at twelve subcultures of submission (including the New Misogyny), explaining the overall principles and practices of each one and illustrating the pros and cons inherent in each style of sexual diversity.
All people are different and you may not find one that covers everything you like, or don’t like – but chances are you’ll see something in one of these subcultures that makes you say, “That’s what I want.”
Find out how you can date better, attract more men and become a Man Magnet because this classic dating guide is now revised! Most women, generally speaking, don't have much trouble attracting men. The problem is the men they're attracting. Some women are bum magnets. And others are pest magnets. But there is a special breed of woman who attracts just about any guy she wants. She is a Man Magnet and she gets what she wants.
Man Magnet: How to Be the Best Woman You Can Be in Order to Get the Best Man (Revised Edition) will show you that you can be one, too. You can be that woman that guys go ga-ga for. All you have to do is utilize what you've got. This book can help you do just that. In addition to helping you enhance what you already have, it also shows you how to handle many of the pitfalls that single women face. How to talk to men, where to meet good men, how to approach your first date, game players, mama's boys, booty calls, what to wear, manchildren and whether or not it's okay to ask a man out are just a few of the topics this book explores.
If you've had problems with dating and men in the past-or you're just looking for ways to improve-Man Magnet: How to Be the Best Woman You Can Be in Order to Get the Best Man (Revised Edition) can help you get past them and get onto the better life you deserve! Ready to be unstoppable?
That’s what this book is going to teach you: How to be a better sub, and have a happy & healthy BDSM lifestyle.
Here are just some of the things you will discover in volume 1 of "Submissive's Guide To BDSM":
- Why you want to experience punishment...
- The science of pain & pleasure...
- Type of Doms to beware of...
- How to pick the right Dom just for you...
- How to protect yourself from wannabe Doms and predators...
- The right way to explore taboo fantasies in BDSM...
- Type of limits and when & how to use them...
- How to communicate with your Dom...
- Common mistakes new subs make...
- How to "train" your Master...
- How to "fire" your Dom if it's not working out...
- And much more...
The discipline to hold your tongue, retrieve your paddle, or wait around endlessly while knot after knot is being tied as part of a bondage ritual drains your energy. Submission stretches, taxes, pushes, and exposes your body and soul to the whim and desire of another. Submissive women need support, care and nurture to continue on this journey in a healthy fashion.
"Care and Nurture for the Submissive" offers tips, understandings, and pathways to tend the fragile and beautiful souls of submissive women. Self-care is not selfish; it is essential. Only when you are taking care of yourself as a healthy, whole being can you give that self to another with a full heart and free joy.