Based on the acclaimed sermon series by New York Times bestselling author Timothy Keller, this book shows everyone—Christians, skeptics, singles, longtime married couples, and those about to be engaged—the vision of what marriage should be according to the Bible.
Modern culture would have you believe that everyone has a soul mate; that romance is the most important part of a successful marriage; that your spouse is there to help you realize your potential; that marriage does not mean forever, but merely for now; and that starting over after a divorce is the best solution to seemingly intractable marriage issues. But these modern-day assumptions are wrong. Timothy Keller, with insights from Kathy, his wife of thirty-seven years, shows marriage to be a glorious relationship that is also misunderstood and mysterious. The Meaning of Marriage offers instruction on how to have a successful marriage, and is essential reading for anyone who wants to know God and love more deeply in this life.
Look out for Timothy Keller's latest book, God's Wisdom for Navigating Life, available from Viking in Fall 2017.
Why does my life have to be so painful?
What’s wrong with me?
It’s not going to get better.
It could all be over soon, and then I won’t hurt anymore.
Kristen Anderson thought she had the picture-perfect life until strokes of gray dimmed her outlook: three friends and her grandmother died within two years. Still reeling from these losses, she was raped by a friend she thought she could trust. She soon spiraled into a seemingly bottomless depression.
One January night, the seventeen-year-old decided she no longer wanted to deal with the emotional pain that smothered her. She lay down on a set of cold railroad tracks and waited for a freight train to send her to heaven…and peace.
But Kristen's story doesn’t end there.
In Life, In Spite of Me this remarkably joyful young woman shares the miracle of her survival, the agonizing aftermath of her failed suicide attempt, and the hope that has completely transformed her life, giving her a powerful purpose for living.
Her gripping story of finding joy against all odds provides a vivid and unforgettable reminder that life is a gift to be treasured.
Includes notes of encouragement Kristen wishes she had received when she was struggling most.
From the Hardcover edition.
Few challenges in life are as difficult as regaining a wife’s trust—and few are as ultimately worthwhile. Trust can be rebuilt in your marriage! With patient, loving, self-sacrificing effort, it’s possible that one day your wife will risk her heart with you again. And she may even have more respect and love for you than before.
In Worthy of Her Trust, Jason Martinkus relates how he repaired his own marriage after revelations of sexual addiction. Along with Stephen Arterburn, Jason offers exercises and tools rooted in counseling principles to help your marriage begin again. This comprehensive guide discusses:
· How to be truly and effectively transparent
· Combating the “he must not love me” myth and other untruths
· What to do about the Internet, office temptations, and travel
· Encouragement for wives who wonder if trust can ever be restored
· The “five-minute phone call” and other daily trust-building strategies
· What meaningful forgiveness and restitution look like
· The Amends Matrix—a concrete exercise to admit past wrongs and cast a vision for a faithful future
Including insights from Jason’s wife, Shelley, Worthy of Her Trust guides you through the process of rebuilding your relationship so it is stronger than ever.
Mark R. McMinn, Ph.D., is professor of psychology at Wheaton College Graduate School in Wheaton, Illinois, where he directs and teaches in the Doctor of Psychology program. A diplomate in Clinical Psychology of the American Board of Professional Psychology, McMinn has thirteen years of postdoctoral experience in counseling, psychotherapy, and psychological testing. McMinn is the author of Making the Best of Stress: How Life's Hassles Can Form the Fruit of the Spirit; The Jekyll/Hyde Syndrome: Controlling Inner Conflict through Authentic Living; Cognitive Therapy Techniques in Christian Counseling; and Christians in the Crossfire (written with James D. Foster). He and his wife, Lisa, have three daughters.
The book comprises thirty-three bite-size chapters---since it presumes readers are spending much of their time caring for (or bailing out) the alcoholic they love. Specific cases are described in particular, such as parents who live with teenaged alcoholics; children who have to care for elderly alcoholics; and what to do with that sometimes dry/sometimes even sober alcoholic who always seems to ultimately fall off the wagon
Making the book unique are the many stories of former patients, clients, and members of AA in their own words (anonymously, of course). These testimonies, which do not always end in a pot of gold, make not only for compelling (and sometimes heart-rending) reading, but also add a patina of authenticity to the book: if these people can learn to help the alcoholic they love, then perhaps you can too
Ultimately this is a book of acceptance, forgiveness, and love---all of which must begin with oneself. A bibliography completes the work
As Sharon Hersh writes, “We all suffer from the same condition.” In The Last Addiction, she explores why we are prone to addiction–to make one thing in our lives more central than it should be–and how we can break free of our compulsions.
This is not a book of “self-help” answers or “how-to” steps. It is a book about falling down and getting up again, about realizing that we need more than ourselves to be saved. The truth is, we’re not as bad as we think we are–and we are worse than we ever dreamed. When we live between those two realities, we are ready to let go of the last idol: the belief that we can save ourselves.
The Last Addiction invites you to see your own story more clearly as you better understand your longing for intimacy. It invites you to love boldly and receive love in return. It invites you to the freedom of redemption.
From the Trade Paperback edition.
This second edition of Strategic Pastoral Counseling has been thoroughly revised and includes two new chapters. Benner includes helpful case studies, a new appendix on contemporary ethical issues, and updated chapter bibliographies. His study will continue to serve clergy and students well as a valued practical handbook on pastoral care and counseling.
Jesus told his first clergy, “If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven; if you retain the sins of any, they are retained.” In Lord, Have Mercy, Scott Hahn explores the sacrament of reconciliation and shows why it is the key to spiritual growth, particularly in these times of intense anxiety and uncertainty.
Drawing on the history of ancient Israel, the Gospels, the writings of the early Church, and the lives of the saints, Hahn reveals the living, scriptural heart of the Church’s teachings on penance, forgiveness, and reconciliation. It is a story that begins with the sin of Adam and Eve, continues in the biographies of Moses, King David, and the Apostle Peter, and reverberates in the lives of believers today. Hahn presents the Catholic and biblical perspective on sin and mercy, elucidating in clear, easily understood language the true import of Jesus’ simple, yet profound promise–“I am the door; if anyone enters by Me, he will be saved (John 10:9).
Like Hahn’s earlier books, Lord, Have Mercy offers thoughtful, authoritative insights into controversial issues and disputed doctrines in a manner that will enlighten lay readers yet is thorough enough for scholars to appreciate. More than just a Bible study, it is a guide for the perplexed, providing practical advice and inspiration that will help readers come to a deeper knowledge of themselves and of Jesus through the sacrament of penance.
From the Hardcover edition.
In Peacemaking Women, Tara Klena Barthel and Judy Dabler offer a meaningful, lasting message to lead women out of conflict to a state of peace where they can live as representatives of Christ to one another and well as unbelievers. With advice that is firmly rooted in Scripture, the authors bring sound, practical help for women who want to know what the Bible says about conflict resolution and how to achieve peace in their relationships with God, self, and others.
What happens when a boy grows physically into an adult male but misses some of the experiences and relationships that help form complete manhood? Alan Medinger writes for such men and for those who care about them.
Within the context of his own release from homosexuality and his growth into “confident and comfortable” manhood, Medinger offers hope to others. For homosexually oriented men, such growth is an essential but often overlooked step in the process of healing. This ground-breaking study could well change many lives.
From the Trade Paperback edition.
With the evermore apparent failure of modern psychotherapies and a discomfort with pharmacological strategies, many churches are reaffirming the sufficiency and power of the Scriptures to change lives.
To aid churches in ministering to broken and hurting people, the authors of Counsel from the Cross present a counseling model based on Scripture, powered by the work of the Wonderful Counselor, Jesus Christ. Through careful exegesis and helpful case studies, they demonstrate the "why" and the "how" of consistently biblical, gospel-centered counseling.
The authors' combined backgrounds-one, a woman trained in biblical counseling and the other, a male professor of practical theology-bring balance to this work, making it relevant for those who counsel as part of pastoral ministry and for those involved in friendship mentoring or discipleship.
BUT WHAT IF GOD didn’t just “let it happen”? What if the things you call disappointments are really His appointments — events He is using to make you more like Christ? What if He is using your disappointments like flames to melt and burn away the undesirable elements in your life, leaving you pure and radiant — like refined silver?
YOU CAN BE DEFEATED by life’s unavoidable disappointments, or you can become stronger because of them. Kay Arthur paints a graphic picture of the dangerous downward spiral of disappointment that can lead to discouragement, depression, or even despair. But you can learn to break that cycle and embrace disappointment with a faith that recognizes the trials of life as tools that God uses to make you — as silver refined — a reflection of His goodness.
From the Trade Paperback edition.
The partial truth about us is hard to accept: We hurt those we love. We fail to step in when others need us most. We do wrong—and we need forgiveness. From others and from God, but also from ourselves.
But the full truth about us is liberating and freeing: while we are more deeply flawed than we can imagine, we also are far more valuable and cherished than we can comprehend. To reach the place of self-forgiveness, we must embrace this truth. The gift of God’s acceptance frees us from self-blame, guilt, and shame.
In this practical, inspiring book, Dr. Everett Worthington identifies six steps to forgiving yourself:
· Receive God’s forgiveness
· Repair relationships
· Rethink ruminations
· REACH emotional self-forgiveness
· Rebuild self-acceptance
· Resolve to live virtuously
Weaving the story of his brother’s suicide and his overwhelming feelings of regret together with psychological insight, scientific research, and biblical truth, Dr. Worthington opens a clear path to obtaining a full, meaningful life through Christ.
God answered Wrenn’s call for help and freed him from bondage. He now enjoys a life free of addiction, and in this inspirational account he shares ten steps that helped him beat addiction. Learn how to
• find the plan that God has for you; • recognize the people that God has sent to help you; • overcome the guilt and shame that comes with addiction; • make God your ally in your fight against addiction.
Wrenn is familiar with the pain, misery, and loneliness of addiction, and he shares a message of hope for addicts, recovering addicts, and the family members and pastors who want to help them. By following God’s Addiction Recovery Plan, you can trade your addiction for a life of abundance, victory, purpose, peace, and joy.
If you feel you will never get out of depression, Dr. Gregg Jantz has one word for you: hope. Gregg believes that since every person’s path into depression is unique, every path out will be unique as well. And healing is possible.
Turning Your Down into Up will help you:
• Determine whether you are depressed
• Understand why you can’t “just snap out of it”
• Decide whether medication might be a good option for you
• See the link between depression and overdependence on social media
• Understand how family dynamics affect you
• Be encouraged that you can find healing
This practical book includes a three-month personal recovery plan that focuses on spiritual renewal, emotional wellness, environmental balance, physical health, relational healing, and tech detox. Along with unique insights into treating the whole person, Turning Your Down into Up includes questions for reflection and journaling prompts. Here you will find real answers…Real freedom…Real hope.
“Turning Your Down Into Up is a comprehensive, whole-person approach to curing depression…with new answers and hope for the healing journey.”
—Dr. Catherine Hart Weber, author of Flourish: Discover The Daily Joy of Abundant, Vibrant Living
And the effects on our romantic, family, and professional relationships are undeniable.
In The Wisdom of Listening, award-winning author, teacher, and trainer Dr. Mark Brady and contributors that include Ram Dass and A.H. Almaas, help us to develop the "listening warrior" inside us all. Inspiring and easy to follow, the lessons here can transform the ways that we interact with others, whether in a large meeting or in a face-to-face encounter.
Listening is almost a lost art: some of us may have forgotten how to do it; some of us may have never quite learned. The Wisdom of Listening gives readers the skills to overcome our culture's tendency towards distraction and reaction, and to be more fully in the world.
This book is a practical guide for women coping with infidelity. For women finding themselves in an adulterous relationship - the reason why you should let go!
It is proof that God is the God of the impossible. If you have by any chance given up on your marriage, just remember that God has the last say.
If satan destroys a family, he destroys the church.
Don’t allow him to! God is waiting on you to call on Him.
Our prayer limits God! The battle is not ours anyway; it is the Lord’s. What God has joined together, let no man separate.
Jesus promised in John 10:10 that He had come to give abundant life. This abundant life cannot be realized when there are patterns of habitual sin controlling the heart. The Bible calls these patterns idols, and the problem is actually a worship disorder. We were created to worship only God, so when we begin to worship at another altar, we allow demonic bondage into our hearts. How can people overcome these addictions that grip so tightly? The author presents a clear biblical presentation, along with his personal life experiences, to help you cast down those idols once and for all. You can live a victorious Christian life!
Quick Scripture Reference for Counseling Couples is just what struggling couples--and those who counsel them--need. In a convenient spiral binding, this helpful resource makes the power, encouragement, and hope of Scripture accessible to pastors and counselors as they guide couples, both through premarital counseling sessions and when they hit those inevitable rough patches in marriage.
Speaking Truth in Love is a blueprint for communication that strengthens community in Christ. The principles outlined in this pivotal work are specific to counseling, yet extend to marriage, family, friendship, business, and the church. Have you ever wondered how to be a more effective counselor? Have you ever looked for a better way to talk to difficult people? Have you ever wanted to express faith and love more naturally in your relationships?Practical in its approach yet comprehensive in its scope, Speaking Truth in Love is sure to become required reading for anyone interested in pursuing a career as a counselor or anyone else who longs for ways to redeem relationships.
Above all, she emphasizes that there is a light that cuts through death's dark shadow. That light is Jesus Christ, and He offers hope and comfort to all who are facing life's final journey.
Dr. William Backus the respected clinical psychologist and author of Telling Yourself the Truth, returns with a groundbreaking book examining how sin is the basis of many common emotional and psychological disorders. Revealing the untold story of why we act how we act, the book is sure to join of the ranks of Christian counseling classics.
What Your Counselor Never Told You is a detailed look at the causes of various character traits and the reasons behind the actions we take. It is both a tool to help you overcome sin in your life, and a handbook for self-examination to lead a purer life. The book explains how the sin our lives affects our daily actions and even our character traits.
Ideal for self-use or by trained, counselors, What Your Counselor Never Told You takes the position that spiritual health goes hand-in-hand with mental and emotional health. It puts readers on the right road to recovery.
This book is aimed at all those who are imprisoned in the modern world - not just prison inmates but all those battling with personal, emotional and psychological difficulties.
“A Bitter Disease Called Unforgiveness” calls to you to check for bitterness in your heart, toward anyone about anything, and let it go. Bitterness will take a toll on you as though parasites are eating away every organ in your body, at a slow pace.
When author JoAnne Smith Hooks battled cancer thirty years ago, she lay in a hospice unit waiting to die, and finally came to a conclusion that the disease stemmed only from bitterness. Molested at the age of thirteen and turning to alcoholism by sixteen years of age, JoAnne knew her pain was the root of her illness, and if she didn’t kill that root, it would definitely kill her. So she let it go and forgave.
She seeks to encourage you to do the same, strip yourself of all the bitter roots and let go of the pain. If you don’t the “unforgiveness” will steal your joy, destroy your peace, and override your love.
Winner--Best Self-Help Book, ForeWord Magazine's Book of the Year Awards
*Understand how anger flares up in your brain and body--and how you can lower the heat.
*Identify the fleeting yet powerful thoughts that fuel destructive anger.
*Replace aggression with appropriate assertiveness.
*Effectively communicate your thoughts, feelings, and needs.
*Defuse conflicts and find "win-win" solutions.
*See how the strategies are applied in a wealth of realistic scenarios.
While working through the book's simple checklists and fill-in-the-blank forms (you can download and print additional copies as needed), you'll be building real skills to apply in everyday life. When anger gets in the way of your personal goals, this book provides a blueprint for change.
See also Dr. Nay's Taking Charge of Anger, Second Edition, which helps you understand and manage destructive anger in all its forms, and Overcoming Anger in Your Relationship: How to Break the Cycle of Arguments, Put-Downs, and Stony Silences.
See also Dr. Nay's Taking Charge of Anger, Second Edition, which helps you understand and manage destructive anger in all its forms, and The Anger Management Workbook: Use the STOP Method to Replace Destructive Responses with Constructive Behavior, which builds core anger management skills using interactive exercises.
New to This Edition
*Incorporates a decade's worth of developments in MBCT clinical practice and training.
*Chapters on additional treatment components: the pre-course interview and optional full-day retreat.
*Chapters on self-compassion, the inquiry process, and the three-minute breathing space.
*Findings from multiple studies of MBCT's effectiveness and underlying mechanisms. Includes studies of adaptations for treating psychological and physical health problems other than depression.
*Audio files of the guided mindfulness practices, narrated by the authors, on two separate Web pages--one for professionals, together with the reproducibles, and one just for clients.
See also the authors' related titles for clients: The Mindful Way through Depression demonstrates these proven strategies in a self-help format, with in-depth stories and examples. The Mindful Way Workbook gives clients additional, explicit support for building their mindfulness practice, following the sequence of the MBCT program. Plus, for professionals: Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy with People at Risk of Suicide extends and refines MBCT for clients with suicidal depression.
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Do you have the peace that you want?
While completing more than forty thousand hours of psychotherapy over thirty years, with individuals, couples, and families, Dr. Krummel realized that the fears, roles, and themes in his life were not unique. He became aware that his psychological and spiritual journey was a common one.
Dr. Richard Krummel’s new book, Fear, Control, and Letting Go: How Psychological Principles and Spiritual Faith Can Help Us Recover from Our Fears offers life-changing tools for recovery and transformation. The book provides tremendous insight into how one can grow behaviorally, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually.
“While you are waiting for someone or something else to change, change yourself.”
“Give as you are able, according as the Lord has blessed you.”
Dr. Krummel donates $1.00 from the sale of each book to several charities.
This book is the product of many Pastors’ Meetings, Men’s Meetings and conferences in various places during a period of time. The Holy Man’s Manifesto is an attempt to help men of God from every walk of life accept who they are and take an engaging role of being leasers of their homes, churches and communities by using the tools in this book. Holiness is not a concept or a good idea from God but His ideal and only way of life. Every city is the reflection of the men who live in it. Holy men are accountable and responsible for the condition of their city. Our churches and communities do not need only men, but holy men who fear God and have, not just the gut, but the Spirit to represent Him well on every layer of our society, before the Light goes completely out in every major city. The time to be holy is now or never.
The striking clarity and practicality of this book will guide the compassionate reader who feels intuitively (and biblically) that homosexuality is wrong but fears being labeled ignorant or "homophobic." And homosexuals who want to change will find that specific prayer brings extraordinary results.
See also Dr. Nay's Anger Management Workbook: Use the STOP Method to Replace Destructive Responses with Constructive Behavior, which helps you build core anger management skills using interactive exercises, and Overcoming Anger in Your Relationship: How to Break the Cycle of Arguments, Put-Downs, and Stony Silences.
Betrayal of Trust focuses on a common scenario of abuse--sexual involvement between a male pastor and a female congregant--and offers practical solutions on how to respond to and prevent this betrayal of trust.
This book presents methods that will help churches respond sensitively to victims and implement policies and procedures to prevent abuse from taking place. For clergy who may be at risk for this behavior, it offers help in establishing appropriate boundaries.
This second edition includes a new chapter that offers help for the wandering pastor and a risk-determination questionnaire for pastors who may become abusers.