There is undeniably a macho side to most men--a great majority come to adulthood conditioned to be tough. They jockey for dominance even when it in unnecessary, often hide the softer parts of their humanity, and have difficulty expressing their innermost feelings. They can too easily be sexual without live or concern, slip quite readily into anger and violence, and struggle to relate with sensitivity to their spouses, children, or friends. However, there is also a softer side and--as they grow up--many men acquire some highly positive assets. These include self-reliance, the ability to withstand hardship and pain, and the tendency to the calm in the face of challenge or danger. Most men know how to express love by doing things for others and take their role as breadwinners seriously. Plus, they tend to be successful as problem-solvers and leaders. According to Thomas Hart, the challenge for men is to overcome the limitations of the macho side of manhood and learn to draw upon the full range of their emotional capabilities. Only by doing this can they truly become whole men. In this practical book, Hart draws upon his several decades of experience as therapist and spiritual guide to men to lay out in practical terms the transition that men need to make in order to realize this hope. Written for men, WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE A MAN? shows readers how to develop into the fullness of male humanity. In practical terms, it shows readers how to heal the wounds of boyhood, recover the world of feeling, humanize aggression and sexuality, find their true selves, develop their spirituality, and grow in intimacy with those they love.
"Forgive him? You've got to be kidding!" "Not her! Never. She's got to realize what she did to me." Why is it that the closest people to us often cause the deepest, most wrenching pain? Family can either provide restful refuge or prompt you to find it elsewhere. A quick channel-surf through daytime television illustrates that! From the petty irritation to the grievous wrong, forgiving is one of the hardest tasks families face. The gospel calls us to love and forgive others. Ironically, the closer the people are, the harder it is to forgive them. After all, you count on these people to love and accept you unconditionally. But family behavior is far from flawless: spouses quarrel, siblings pout, grandparents criticize, cousins judge. When the last nerve frays, look out: A house of love quickly turns into a house of pain. "Family experiences are a mixture of beauty and tragedy," writes Fischer. "When we grasp this truth, we understand why forgiveness is such an essential part of family life and Jesus' message. The gospel reminds us that redemption happens right here in the give-and-take of ordinary family life." Each chapter of Forgiving Your Family contains real-life stories, practical strategies, and encouragement to help you move toward forgiveness. Better communication (while critical) isn't enough, according to Fischer: Forgiveness takes faith and prayer. Combining psychological, practical, and theological insight, Fischer will lead you to discover * the true meaning of forgiveness (rather than the myths) * why you need to forgive * ways to deal with anger and avoid revenge * how to protect yourself while easing into forgiveness * the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation * how to let go of hurts and live Whether you need to forgive someone in your family or you counsel families as a part of your work, Forgiving Your Family is an indispensable tool.
Using sources such as religion, literature, science, psychology, and personal experience, this theologian examines the possible answers to three questions fundamental to belief in life after death: "What survives death? Do relationships continue beyond death? How does life now relate to life then." Original.
The aim of this book is to help couples cultivate the attitudes and skills needed for a happy marriage. In it Kathleen Fischer and Thomas Hart draw on their own married experience and that of the countless couples they have worked with in counseling and marriage enrichment events over many years. Incorporated here too are the best insights of religious and psychological writers on marriage.
With her characteristic honesty, gentleness and insight, Kathleen Fischer explores the spiritual dimensions of women's middle and later years as she weaves together stories, experiences and research from a variety of traditions and cultures. She begins with a discussion of how societal images of older women constrict their sense of worth and their possibilities. The author then suggests ways in which older women can embrace new visions of themselves. She proceeds to explore the place of transitions, the inner life, contemplation, the body, mourning, remembering, caregiving and intergenerational connections as each relates to women's spirituality in later life. At each chapter's end, Dr. Fischer offers rituals, prayers and meditations that mark the passages of the second half of life.
Increasingly pastoral counselors-along with psychotherapists and social workers-feel the need to integrate spirituality into their therapy. Thomas Hart's pioneering and lucid book, here reissued and updated, equips them to do so. The problems that people bring to counseling always have a spiritual dimension, and this hidden spring can also figure in their healing. Hart, a therapist and theologian, shows how much richer therapy is when it calls attention to spirituality in addressing human struggles. He argues that psychology and sprituality unite in a common goal of healing, with growth, and fulfilment; while spirituality offers a larger, more ultimate framework of value, meaning, and power. Especially for those whose training tended toward the straightforwardly psychological, Hidden Spring offers a manual for a richer, more meaningful counseling. Initial chapters discuss the presence of God in ordinary life, the relationship of the two disciplines, and the contours of healthy spirituality. Six concrete and illuminating case studies demonstrate how to integrate the two in practice.