Swinging is about trust, and trust is won through careful attention to rules, paying attention to boundaries, and not causing drama. It is important to understand that swinging is not about having sex with anyone you feel like having sex with. It is not about cheating on your spouse or partner. It is, as I said, primarily about trust.
Swinging brought back that feeling couples had when they were first with their spouse or partner, that excitement and anticipation they felt during the first date. One aspect of swinging that most people may find hard to believe is that seeing other people interested in and desiring your partner can actually make you desire them more.
There is, of course, nervousness during your first few swaps. The idea of swinging is an exciting one, but it can also be extremely nerve-wracking. Even if you have already discovered a club you and your partner want to be a part of, or a couple you and your partner are going to swing with, there is still a lot to learn about the swinging lifestyle.
In this guide, you’ll learn the importance of your reputation, of hygiene and ethics to those in the swinging world, how to host the other couple at your own venue, how to swing discreetly, how to play rough but safe, and you will also get a peek at some of the different fetishes you may or may not come across during your journey.
Here are some of the things you will discover in "Swinging For Couples Vol. 2:"
- Importance of reputation within the swinging world...
- Practicing good hygiene...
- Practicing good ethics within the swinging world... (both public and private)
- Hosting the other couple and being gracious guests...
- Swinging discreetly – how to swing without ruining your career and social reputation...
- WARNING: 3 things you should never do when it comes to swinging
- Play rough but play safe – how to take it to the edge without taking it too far.
- Exploring different fetishes within the world of swinging
- And much more...
First we will discuss some simple games you can play with another couple. These games are designed to help you get to know each other better while simultaneously getting everyone hot and bothered. If you are thinking about a swinging party with more than two couples, we have games for that as well! All the games are designed with fun in mind, but will escalate your evening to a sex filled adventure in no time flat. I have even included ice breakers that can be played before the sex games start. The ice breakers are also meant to point everyone in the direction of the bedroom, with “In touch” being the most pointed, especially the dark finale.
Maybe the thought of having sex with multiple partners turns you on but blanks out your mind. Cannot imagine how three or four or six people could all have sex together? I’ve compiled a list of sexual positions that range from three to many. Have fun experimenting and finding positions of your own.
For those of you who have been involved in the lifestyle and wish to start your own swingers club, or throw successful swingers parties, we will cover those topics as well. You will be happy to find that we have a list of themes as well as contests you can use for your party or event.
If hosting a party or starting a club sounds like too much work, we have included ways in which you can find people to play with. There is a detailed section, which contains the commonly used acronyms, etiquette, and the dos and don’ts of putting out ads for swingers or a third. We have even included a chapter about apps for swingers if you want to find others using your iPhone or Android phone or tablet.
Perhaps you want to get away from it all and still be able to play with others. If that is the case, check out the chapter on swingers’ vacations to learn more about what goes on during a swingers’ vacation and to find out how to book your own swingers’ vacation. You will learn what to bring with you and how to behave whilst vacationing.
Maybe the thought of having your very own playroom is appealing. Perhaps you are going to invite a large group of swingers to your home for an out of this world party and you want to make sure you have a playroom available. But what do you put in such a room? How is it set up? Should you have rules for the room? Should you have more than one? If that is what you are looking for, read the chapter on building a complete and comprehensive playroom for you and your guests’ enjoyment.
This guide will give you ideas and information on deeper and more fulfilling involvement and knowledge which will bring you and your partner closer together and can lead to a more fulfilling and exciting time with your new lifestyle friends. After reading this book you will be more than ready to go out and have fun. You will have so many games to play and theme ideas to pursue that you will find you're busier than ever before. Now go out, have fun, and play, play, play!
Both men and women love to hear what their partner wants to do for them, or what will be done to them before it's done. Hearing the words moaned, screamed, whispered, or growled heightens the sensations and can take the love making to a whole new level.
However, dirty talking is not as "easy" as people make it seem. It's not just a matter of using every swear word the sailors taught you. There is an art and even a science to shocking the senses. Effectively dirty talking is a careful balancing act of expressing desire, of smart communication between two different lovers, and letting yourself feel the emotion of the moment.
In this guide, you will learn exactly how to talk dirty and how to do it right. You will discover what dirty talking is, the science of it, as well as the art of putting your own creative spin on the age-old hobby of talking your lover off. It takes you, step by step, from getting in the mood, during foreplay, during love making, to afterglow. You will know what to say and how to say it in every situation. And more importantly, you will be comfortable and sound confident when you talk dirty.
In addition, you will get 157 dirty talk examples that are field tested and proven to work. You can use and analyze them in case you want to improve upon them. Both for-man and for-woman examples are included. The guide also shows you how these phrases can be adapted to different erotic role play scenarios and fantasies.
Master the art of dirty talking and you will always be ready for a hot, wild, & exciting night!
But wait! How about all that stuff I see in erotica books and Internet porn? Those guys make it look easy. So it should be just that easy, right?
And that’s why we have so many real world sex problems. Because we all sort of think, yeah orgasms should be like that. So why isn’t it working just like that?
Probably because studying erotica in place of education is sort of like getting your history lesson from, well, a Hentai cartoon.
- Real sex is not exaggerated.
- Real orgasms are not mechanical.
- Really good, awesome and out of this world sex takes practice, patience and strategizing rather than just wishing it to be.
It’s like the old expression goes – if you build it they will come. Or in this case, if you really work at it, she will come.
This book is not going to tell you how it “should” happen, or how you wish it could happen—but rather how realistically you’re going to either give a woman an orgasm, if you’re a man, or bring yourself to orgasm with a lover, if you’re a woman.
We’re going to analyze the anatomy, the emotional complexity and the “social obligation” of all things orgasm over the course of 87 tips and 12 chapters. You will know what to say to your lover to get her in the mood. You will discover foreplay techniques to put your woman on her toes and ready for the big-O. You will know the truth about female ejaculation, the G-spot, the U-spot, the A-spot, the P-spot and Deep Spot, and how to stimulate them to give her multiple full-body, over-the-top, mind-blowing orgasms in one night.
By the end of the book, you’re going to have your PhD in Orgasmology, or at least the equivalent of it. And the proof will be in those authentic moans of ecstasy, never more unrestrained, raw and amazing.
—Ken Wilber, author of Sex, Ecology, Spirituality; No Boundary; and Grace and Grit
"At last! A book that explains the heart and soul of a woman to men. As a woman, I've never felt so understood and validated. This book is a key to helping men and women take their relationships one step further. Finally, a clear and brilliant guide to unraveling the mystery of relationships."
—Marci Shimoff, co-author of the New York Times #1 bestseller Chicken Soup for the Woman's Soul
"The Way of the Superior Man lays out a challenge before all men to fulfill their true purpose and to be authentically masculine. It will guide you on your journey to a successful and spiritually complete way of life. I invite you to live in the moment, to love openly, and to step up to the plate with this book in your hand."
—Tony Robbins, author of Awaken the Giant Within and Unlimited Power
The Ultimate Spiritual Guide for Men
What is your true purpose in life? What do women really want? What makes a good lover? If you're a man reading this, you've undoubtedly asked yourself these questions—but you may not have had much luck answering them. Until now.
In The Way of the Superior Man, David Deida explores the most important issues in men's lives—from career and family to women and intimacy to love and spirituality and relationships—to offer a practical guidebook for living a masculine life of integrity, authenticity, and freedom. Join this bestselling author and internationally renowned expert on sexual spirituality for straightforward advice, empowering skills, body practices, and more to help you realize a life of fulfillment, immediately and without compromise.
"It is time to evolve beyond the macho jerk ideal, all spine and no heart," writes David Deida. "It is also time to evolve beyond the sensitive and caring wimp ideal, all heart and no spine." The Way of the Superior Man presents the ultimate challenge—and reward—for today's man: to discoverthe 'unity of heart and spine' through the full expression of consciousness and love in the infinite openness of the present moment.
Part One: A Man's Way
Part Two: Dealing With Women
Part Three: Working With Polarity and Energy
Part Four: What Women Really Want
Part Five: Your Dark Side
Part Six: Feminine Attractiveness
Part Seven: Body Practices
Part Eight: Men's and Women's Yoga of Intimacy
This book is a guide for a specific kind of newly evolving man. This man is unabashedly masculine-- he is purposeful, confident, and directed, living his chosen way of life with deep integrity and humor-- and he is sensitive, spontaneous, and spiritually alive, with a heart-commitment to discovering and living his deepest truth.
This newly evolving man is not a scared bully, posturing like some King Kong in charge of the universe. Nor is he a new age wimp, are spineless, smiley, and starry-eyed. He has embraced both his inner masculine and feminine, and he no longer holds onto either of them. He doesn't need to be right all the time, nor does he need to always be safe, cooperative, and sharing, like an androgynous Mr. Nice Guy. He simply lives from his deepest core, fearlessly living his gifts, feeling through the fleeting moment into the openness of existence, totally committed to magnifying love.
Dear G-Spot includes real letters from real people, both women and men, who have sought Zane's advice over the years -- the preacher's wife worrying about being judged, the virgin, the guy next door, the gay man next door, the woman with low self-esteem, and the other woman with a sex drive over the moon.
In her own uniquely can-did and humorous way, Zane answers all your questions -- even questions you never thought to ask -- about making whoopee.
From the television to the Internet, print media to videos, men are constantly faced with the assault of sensual images. It is impossible to avoid such temptations...but, thankfully, not impossible to rise above them.
Shattering the perception that men are unable to control their thought lives and roving eyes, Every Man's Battle shares the stories of dozens who have escaped the trap of sexual immorality and presents a practical, detailed plan for any man who desires sexual purity-perfect for men who have fallen in the past, those who want to remain strong today, and all who want to overcome temptation in the future.
Includes a special section for women, designed to help them understand and support the men they love.
From the Trade Paperback edition.
"As such, it requires sharing a lot of things I'm not proud of—and a few things I feel like I should regret a whole lot more than I actually do. Because, unfortunately, I am not the hero in this tale. I am the villain."
So begins Neil Strauss's long-awaited follow-up to The Game, the funny and slyly instructive work of immersive journalism that jump-started the international "seduction community" and made Strauss a household name—revered or notorious—among single men and women alike.
In The Truth, Strauss takes on his greatest challenge yet: Relationships. And in this wild and highly entertaining ride, he explores the questions that men and women are asking themselves every day:Is it natural to be faithful to one person for life? Do alternatives to monogamy lead to better relationships and greater happiness? What draws us to the partners we choose? Can we keep passion and romance from fading over time?
His quest for answers takes him from Viagra-laden free-love orgies to sex addiction clinics, from cutting-edge science labs to modern-day harems, and, most terrifying of all, to his own mother.
What he discovered changed everything he knew about love, sex, relationships, and, ultimately, himself.
Searingly honest and compulsively readable, The Truth just may have the same effect on you.
If The Game taught you how to meet members of the opposite sex, The Truth will teach you how to keep them.
For every man who always wondered why some guys have all the luck, Mystery, considered by many to be the world's greatest pickup artist, finally reveals his secrets for finding and forming relationships with some of the world's most beautiful women. Mystery gained mainstream attention for his role in Neil Strauss's New York Times bestselling exposé, The Game. Now he has written the definitive handbook on the art of the pickup.
He developed his unique method over years of observing social dynamics and interacting with women in clubs to learn how to overcome the guard shield that many women use to deflect come-ons from "average frustrated chumps."
The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed shares tips such as:
*Give more attention to her less attractive friend at first, so your target will get jealous and try to win your attention.
*Always approach a target within 3 seconds of noticing her. If a woman senses your hesitation, her perception of your value will be lower.
*Don't be picky. Approach as many groups of people in a bar as you can and entertain them with fun conversation. As you move about the room, positive perception of you will grow. Now it's easy to meet anyone you want.
*Smile. Guys who don't get laid, don't smile.
Dr. Steven Stosny’s How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It
reveals the stunning truth about marital happiness:
Love is not about better communication.
It's about connection.
You'll never get a closer relationship
with your man by talking to him like you
talk to one of your girlfriends.
Male emotions are like women's sexuality:
you can't be too direct too quickly.
There are four ways to connect with a man:touch, activity, sex, routines.
Men want closer marriages just as much as women do,but not if they has to act like a woman.
Talking makes women move closer;
it makes men move away.
The secret of the silent male is this:
his wife supplies the meaning in his life.
The stunning truth about love is that talking doesn’t help.
Have you ever had this conversation with your spouse?
Wife: “Honey, we need to talk about us.”
Husband: “Do we have to?”
Drs. Patricia Love and Steven Stosny have studied this all-too-familiar dynamic between men and women and have reached a truly shocking conclusion. Even with the best of intentions, talking about your relationship doesn’t bring you together, and it will eventually drive you apart.
The reason for this is that underneath most couples’ fights, there is a biological difference at work. A woman’s vulnerability to fear and anxiety makes her draw closer, while a man’s subtle sensitivity to shame makes him pull away in response. This is why so many married couples fall into the archetypal roles of nagging wife/stonewalling husband, and why improving a marriage can’t happen through words.
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It teaches couples how to get closer in ways that don’t require “trying to turn a man into a woman.” Rich in stories of couples who have turned their marriages around, and full of practical advice about the behaviors that make and break marriages, this essential guide will help couples find love beyond words.
Because relationship expert Weiner Davis is convinced that feeling sexy is a two-person job, she looks at the problem of -- and the solution to -- low sexual desire from a couple's perspective. Whether you're someone whose passion has faded or someone who's been hungering for touch, you'll learn life-altering lessons about bridging the desire gap and restoring intimacy and friendship to your marriage. And because Weiner Davis knows that one spouse is often more motivated than the other to work on a relationship, she offers creative ways to inspire your partner to change.
Separate chapters address the spouse who's hot, the one who's not, and then both together. If you're the spouse with a lagging libido, you're far from alone. And if you're a man, you'll be surprised to learn that staggering numbers of men, even men whose sexual machinery works just fine, "get headaches" too!
If you're the low-desire spouse, you'll learn about the physiological and psychological factors, including unresolved relationship issues, that may contribute to the chill in your bedroom. You'll learn the truth about sexual desire: that for millions of men or women it doesn't just happen; you have to make it happen. Finally, you'll find specific, pragmatic, and often provocative solutions to help you discover the siren or seducer within.
If you're the more highly sexed partner, you'll breathe a sigh of relief. At last someone understands your feelings about the void in your marriage. Discover why your pleas for touch have fallen upon deaf ears and why your approach to the lull in your sexual relationship could be a sexual turnoff. Most important, you'll find tools you can use to reach out in ways that will make your spouse more responsive. Finally, if your partner is willing, you will learn how to keep the flame of desire burning together.
Full of moving firsthand accounts from couples who have struggled with the erosion of sexual desire and rebuilt their passionate connection, The Sex-Starved Marriage will give you and your spouse the inspiration, encouragement, and answers you need to find your way out of a sex-starved marriage.
In Diary of a Submissive, Sophie Morgan candidly explains what exactly an independent, 21st century woman gets out of relinquishing her power and personal freedom in a submissive relationship with a dominant man for their mutual sexual pleasure.
In the wake of Fifty Shades of Grey, here is a memoir that offers the real story of what is means to be a submissive and follows Sophie’s story as she progresses from her early erotic experiences through to experimenting with her newfound awakened sexuality. From the endorphin rush of her first spanking right through to being collared, she explains in frank and explicit fashion her sexual explorations. But it isn’t until she meets James, a real life ‘Christian Grey,’ that her boundaries and sexual fetishism are really pushed. As her relationship with James travels into darker and darker places, the question becomes: Where will it end? Can Sophie reconcile her sexuality with the rest of her life, and is it possible for the perfect man to be perfectly cruel?
Daring, controversial, and sensual, Diary of a Submissive is filled with a captivating warmth and astounding honesty such that no one— man or woman—will be able to put Sophie's story down. Once you read the book you will understand why Sophie Morgan is a pseudonym.
The only way women can survive the intense struggle for sexual integrity is by guarding not just your body, but your mind and heart as well. Every Woman’s Battle can help you learn to do that. Using real-life stories and examples from her own struggle, Shannon Ethridge helps women like you–whether married, engaged, or planning to marry someday.
“Rich in dexterous innuendo, laugh-out-loud humor and illuminating fact. It’s compulsively readable.” —Los Angeles Times Book Review In ?Bonk, ?the best-selling author of Stiff turns her outrageous curiosity and insight on the most alluring scientific subject of all: sex. Can a person think herself to orgasm? Why doesn't Viagra help women-or, for that matter, pandas? Can a dead man get an erection? Is vaginal orgasm a myth? Mary Roach shows us how and why sexual arousal and orgasm-two of the most complex, delightful, and amazing scientific phenomena on earth-can be so hard to achieve and what science is doing to make the bedroom a more satisfying place.
• Chemistry—describes the sparks, clashes, and underlying motivations of the couple’s mutual attraction
• Compatibility—depicts the relationship needs of each sign and explains how the pair best meshes
• Carnality—details the sexual dynamics of the bond, right on down to the nitty-gritty
With a profound understanding of astrology and human psychology, original insights drawn from ancient, literary, and pop archetypes, and a frankly intelligent, frequently funny delivery, Cosmic Coupling illuminates the dynamics of one’s (and others’) existing relationships and guides any singles seeking Mr. and/or Ms. Right, while giving the phrase “starry-eyed lovers” a whole, spicy new meaning.
From the Trade Paperback edition.
Let Kaleb take you on a closely intimate and highly personalized sexual journey through ninety-two of his favorite gay sex positions. Whether you're new to the whole sex game or have hit a lot of home runs and are looking for a new challenge, Starting Positions has all bases covered.
The first volume of the Kaleb Sutra presents 14 erotic and sexually-charged short stories, written and illustrated to stimulate and push your limits in the bedroom, and beyond with 92 sports themed reasons to make any day of the week date night!
Excerpt Chapter 1 Baseball-
“Each time i slam into you, your breathe gets caught in your throat as if you’ve just been hit by a fastball…”
Starting Positions is far from the normal drab and boring descriptions of normal position books, the erotic stories compel you to jump in and start creating your own stories. Put the action back into your date night!! With useful hints and tips “sex notes” provided for each position, to allow each playmate – whether you’re in charge of that round, or just riding the wave – to get experience and enjoy each position – the way the Kaleb Sutra practiced, perfected and intended!
The only way women can survive the intense struggle for sexual integrity is by guarding not just your body, but your mind and heart as well. Every Woman’s Battle can help you learn to do that. Using real-life stories and examples from her own struggle, Shannon Ethridge helps women like you–whether married, engaged, or planning to marry someday.
Delivering the first frank and thorough investigation of life “on the down low” (the DL), J. L. King exposes a closeted culture of sex between black men who lead “straight” lives. King explores his own past as a DL man, and the path that led him to let go of the lies and bring forth a message that can promote emotional healing and open discussions about relationships, sex, sexuality, and health in the black community.
Providing a long-overdue wake-up call, J. L. King bravely puts the spotlight on a topic that has until now remained dangerously taboo. Drawn from hundreds of interviews, statistics, and the author’s firsthand knowledge of DL behavior, On the Down Low reveals the warning signs African American women need to know. King also discusses the potential health consequences of having unprotected sex, as African American women represent an alarming 64 percent of new HIV infections. Volatile yet vital, On the Down Low is sure to be one of the most talked-about books of the year.
“A survey by the Centers for Disease Control in Atlanta found that nearly a quarter of black HIV-positive men who had sex with men consider themselves heterosexual.”
Sophie Morgan is a submissive. An ordinary, successful young woman who in private surrenders her body and mind to a dominant man. Some of these relationships have been loving, others casual, one just cruel. But what happens when she meets the dominant man of her dreams? When they move in together? When life, love and play collide?
In Adam, Sophie has found a man to respect and cherish her, as well as a lover who'll take her to the very limits of pain and pleasure. But how do you decide whose cooking dinner when later one of you will be whipping the other? Can you be curled up together watching TV one night and the next indulging in a serious punishment session?
In this follow-up to the number-one bestseller, The Diary of a Submissive, Sophie tells us what she did next, how she struggled to combine an ordinary relationship with her sexual needs. It's a controversial, honest and erotic story of trying to find her kinkily romantic happy-ever-after. No Ordinary Love Story is Sophie Morgan's real-life Fifty Shades of Grey.
Sophie Morgan is the author number-one best-selling The Diary of a Submissive, and is a journalist in her thirties.
It’s nothing to be ashamed of. When it comes to performing oral sex, most people fall somewhere between fumbling and clueless. But now, in Blow Him Away you’ll find practical, easy-to-master techniques that will give you the confidence and skills you need to become an expert in the delicate art of fellatio.
Inside you’ll find:
• Exercises to whip your tongue, lips, and jaw into shape so you can perform with exquisite control.
• An anatomy class you need to pass.
• Sensual kisses to get you both ready for the main event.
• No-nonsense instructions for how to perform sensational oral sex, blow-by-blow.
• Advice on how to keep your mind from spoiling your head.
• Advanced techniques to wake up the neighbors.
• Positions that will make his knees melt.
Read Blow Him Away alone or with the companion edition, The Lowdown on Going Down, for knee-buckling oral sex—every time.
From the Trade Paperback edition.
One of the world’s most respected voices on erotic intelligence, Esther Perel offers a bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex. Mating in Captivity invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.
Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Perel examines the complexities of sustaining desire. Through case studies and lively discussion, Perel demonstrates how more exciting, playful, and even poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships. Wise, witty, and as revelatory as it is straightforward, Mating in Captivity is a sensational book that will transform the way you live and love.
Whether you are a new couple, or have been married for 50 years, it can be difficult to maintain the level of fun and arousal in the bedroom that you would like. Too often, we approach sex as a serious matter, forgetting that it can be a wonderfully creative experience. We let the routine of our daily lives intrude upon the intimate time that we spend with our partner.
If we aren’t careful, sex can turn into a boring routine.
Fortunately, there is no need to engage in S&M or head to a swingers club so you can spice up your love life. By incorporating erotic role play into your sex lives, you can heighten and enhance your connection with your partner, whether physically, emotionally or mentally or all three!
If you have ever tried erotic role playing yourself, you know it's hard to come up with interesting ideas, and even harder to get your partner to play along. This is where "131 Sex Games & Erotic Role Plays for Couples" can really help.
The erotic role plays contained in this book will allow you to explore each other’s fantasies, fetishes and desires. They have been placed in thematic sections, so you can go immediately to a particular section, or just browse each section as you get to it.
So go ahead & try them out. Allow yourself to be whoever you want. You will enrich your sex life and take your relationship with your partner to a whole new level.
Complete with sex notes & difficulty/penetration levels to put you in the driver's seat with all the new tricks you're going to have up your sleeve, come date night!
Ian Kerner offers a radical new philosophy for pleasuring women in She Comes First—an essential guidebook to oral sex from the author of Be Honest—You’re Not That Into Him Either. The New York Times praises Kerner’s “cool sense of humor and an obsessive desire to inform,” as he “encourages men through an act that many find mystifying.” An indispensable aid to a healthier, more fulfilling sex life for her and him, She Comes First offers techniques and philosophy that have already earned raves from the likes of bestselling author and Loveline co-host Dr. Drew Pinsky as well as Playgirl magazine, which cheers, “Hallelujah!”
In the underbelly of Las Vegas, a cesspool of warring biker gangs and seedy strip clubs, gawky, brace-faced Jenna Massoli was transformed into the bombshell Jenna Jameson. Today, Jenna is the biggest star in the history of adult movies, consistently ranked as one of the most beautiful women alive. But behind the glamour and the meteoric rise to fame was a path paved with tragedy and heartbreak. As a teenager—drawn into a dark and chaotic world where rape, abuse, and murder were commonplace—Jenna began her rapid downward spiral of addiction and degradation . . . while at the same time becoming the porn world's biggest crossover success story.
As the book begins, Mystery and his crew have withdrawn to their swank Miami mansion to plot their next move. When a new student comes to stay at the house, Mystery draws him deep into the pickup-artist lifestyle and shows him an intimate portrait of the master of seduction. Mystery lays out a complete system of game, and unveils his latest (and fully field-tested) strategies and techniques. The Pickup Artist includes
• a list of all the triggers that create—and destroy—attraction
• a new way to approach strangers and start a conversation: microcalibrated openers
• Mystery’s most powerful humor technique, the Absurd—so you’ll never run out of things to say again
• a full chapter on physical escalation (touching, kissing, “making a move”)
• the solution to inner-game issues, for when you’re not confident enough
• and much, much more
Whether he’s holding court with eager disciples in South Beach, hanging out with his crew of fellow super-seducers in Las Vegas, or partying it up in the Hollywood Hills, Mystery is never far from where the action is—and never fails to get a piece of it. Now it’s your turn. Read The Pickup Artist and get into the game.
From the Hardcover edition.
Witty, smart, and frankly provocative, Nina Hartley knows sex. As a sex performer, sexual adventurer, and sex educator, she's done the fieldwork and has taken extensive notes. Now, she's ready to share her research. Let's just say that she's had all the sex-the good, the bad, and the indifferent-so you won't necessarily have to!
Nina Hartley's Guide to Total Sex is for sexual pioneers and enthusiastic novices. Unabashedly erotic, the book covers a lot of territory, allowing readers to sample the whole smorgasbord or just nibble at what they see as the choicest bits. To start things off, Nina includes explicitly detailed chapters on foreplay, oral sex, masturbation, toys, and games. Sexual adventurers (and voyeurs) will find chapters on swinging, three-ways, anal sex, erotic domination, sensual submission, and much more.
Nina is a strong advocate of safe sex, physically and emotionally, and she helps readers establish personal ground rules. But as a sexual liberationist and a feminist, her core belief is that, between consenting adults, all sexual behaviors are a matter of personal choice. Whether you're trying to reignite the passion with a longtime spouse, or explore new terrain with a new lover, Nina offers a variety of ideas to achieve exhilarating, deeply satisfying, intimate, and profoundly liberating sex.
"Submissive Training: 23 Things You Must Know About How To Be A Submissive" is designed to help you know what to expect when you go through training with a new Dom. Every couple is unique and every Dom may have different ways of teaching you the systems of service he prefers. However, these are the basics all trained subs and slaves learn and employ in daily life.
Rushing into a relationship or service contract with a Dom without training puts the future of your time together at risk. All of the arguments, resistance, misunderstandings and hurt feelings that go with a new submissive’s experiences can be eradicated by a period designated for learning, listening, trial and error.
Even if you have been with a previous Dom you will need to go through an abbreviated training time to ensure your patterns and understandings match one another. Training is a way to “get in the same rhythm” and find the perfect groove.
If you are a Dom, this guide is the perfect gift to give to your new sub. If you are a sub, this guide will teach you how to go through your submissive training. As you go through these things on the journey to become the woman you were made to be, you will be tested but you will also be proud, joyful and, perhaps for the first time in your life, you will be at peace.
Hung tops stick it in like a glute inject and the bottoms don’t even flinch. What’s their secret? And what can you learn from them so you can have ecstatic butt sex without any pain? Some of the answers will shock you.
Learn porn star secrets to bottoming without pain and start making love with volcanic pleasure. Written by gay sex advice columnist Woody Miller and a team of urologists and colon-rectal specialists, this book combines porn industry secrets with innovative techniques from the latest gay male sex research.
How We Got The Porn Industry’s Secrets To Bottoming Without Pain.
We sent a team of researchers to interview a truckload of gay male erotica industry folk—cameramen, scouts, producers, directors and performers. The result is a fascinating, behind-the-scenes, no-holds-barred look into the industry and the secrets they use to get performers to bottom without pain or messy scenes. The main sections:
1: What You Can Learn From Porn Star Bottoms.
A fascinating view of bottoming in the porn industry—how gay erotica performers prepare for a shoot, how they can take huge tops without any pain (even if it’s their first time) and how they stay loose despite day-long shoots. If you ever had a question about how the porn industry works, this is the place to find answers—from how much money porn stars make to what percent are heterosexual (shocking!) to their favorite brand of douches.
2: Free Your Mind, Your Butt Will Follow.
How To Bottom Like A Porn Star: The Ultimate Guide To Gay Sex is part porn exposé, part how-to from the latest gay sex research. In this chapter, we’ll look at how “Anticipatory pain” and a perceived loss of masculinity can put your butt in a headlock. We’ll show you how to resolve the emotional blocks that stop you from trying or enjoying anal sex with other gay men.
3: Why It Feels Like You’re Being Impaled By A Fence Post.
From our urologist and colon-rectal experts who specialize in gay male sex: It isn’t just your sphincter causing all that pain; it’s your “S-curve” as well as involuntary puborectal contractions. Learn your anatomical structure so you can make the tips in this book work better.
4: How Porn Star Bottoms Relax Their Sphincters.
Not all do it, or need to, but the gay men in the sex industry that do swear by it. Find out whether you should use their controversial method.
5: The Porn Star Method Of Eliminating Pain.
Find out the shocking things gay male erotica stars do to eliminate pain. Some cannot be recommended, but others can and we’ve combined them with a technique that blends systematic desensitization, pattern breathing, progressive muscle relaxation and sexual imagery to completely eliminate pain and heighten pleasure.
6: How Porn Star Bottoms Handle The Ick Factor.
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Enemas and douches are a bad idea (despite the porn industry’s reliance on them). Find out why and what product doctors recommend that will get you as clean as a douche without any of the harmful side effects.
8: How To Bottom Without Pain For The First Time.
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9: A Guided Tour Of A Pain-Free Bottoming Session Between Adam And Steve.
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From the Trade Paperback edition.
Would you dare do it in a museum? In the office? Have you tried beads? Or spanking? How many Kama Sutra positions do you know?
Dispense with your reservations—you now have in your hands a unique sex manual! Pointed, imaginative, fun, and above all else easy to use, this is a sexual recipe book that you can consult whenever the urge arises.
201 Sex Games is full of new sexual positions, hot games, bold ideas, steamy scenarios, costumes, kinky experiments, and everything else you need to give yourself (and your partner) the most intense and unforgettable sexual experiences. Written for both men and women, in its pages you will find three categories: foreplay, action, and surprise. You can combine games, jump pages, mix experiences, even improvise and improve, if you so desire. The only limit is your imagination and your drive to change and improve the direction of your relationships.
Allow yourself to be surprised and open the pages of this book that includes:
Erotic games for him and her
Scenarios, costumes, and sexual role play to never again be bored
The newest sex toys on the market
The most intense, unknown, and different sexual experiences to surprise your lover over and over again . . .
Clear, comprehensive, witty, and refreshingly realistic, The New Male Sexuality is destined to be a classic.
No one knows sex better than all time favorite, awardwinning porn star Mr. Marcus, so who else to turn to when you want to turn up the heat in your bedroom? Humorous, arousing and candid, Mr. Marcus offers a practical approach to achieving a great sex life, by showing you how to feel more confident about yourself, how to achieve greater intimacy with your partner, how to get creative in the bedroom, but also how to keep it creative—in and out of the bedroom. Each chapter contains insider anecdotes from Mr. Marcus' own experiences (on and off screen) to further illuminate his lessons. Some of the chapters you'll find inside are:
• Someone for Everyone
• What Men Want
• What Women Want
• The Joy of Oral Sex
• The Freak Factor
• and much more!
Practical, playful and erotic, The Porn Star's Guide to Great Sex is real advice for real people as Mr. Marcus shows you how to achieve greater sexual satisfaction and how to tap into your own potential for the great sex life that you deserve.
In "Dom's Guide to Submissive Training Vol. 2," I listed 25 things you must know about your new sub if you want to create a satisfying relationship with a devoted submissive. It's not enough to just ask “What do you like?” or “Would you like to be my sub?” You need to know things about your sub that are deeper, more practical and helpful.
Without the knowledge of these 25 things, you may be able to create momentarily excitement but it will surly turn into a frustrating short-term relationship headed for drama, disaster and end.
Following this guide allows your sub to communicate freely and provides a mechanism for her to reveal her true self – even if she doesn’t have the words to do so. There are a million things subs want their Doms to know. These questions will help your sub tell you.
If you're in your thirties or forties, your body is changing, and so are your moods, sleep, health, and weight. Tired of being at the mercy of your hormones? Armed with the knowledge in this book, you don't have to be. Perimenopause can be enjoyable if you know what to do. I'm Too Young for This! details how you can get your body and mind back on track, safely and without drugs, including:
- How our bodies transition hormonally—from puberty through perimenopause.
- The common complaints of perimenopause—and hidden factors that may keep you symptomatic.
- What are the minor and major hormones, and the important role they play in feeling good and staying vibrant and healthy.
- What to eat—including Perimenopausal Power Foods—as well as other lifestyle shifts that are critical to your successful transition.
- Cutting-edge research that proves the safety and efficacy of bioidentical hormone replacement (BHRT).
- The Symptom Solver: a state-of-the-art guide to immediate relief for your hormonal complaints. Plus, how to find the right doctor as well as get your most frequently asked questions answered by expert hormone specialists.
Your life is about to change for the better. You can feel great, be vibrant, healthy, thin, and sexy! This book shows you how.
An essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works—based on groundbreaking research and brain science—that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy.
Researchers have spent the last decade trying to develop a “pink pill” for women to function like Viagra does for men. So where is it? Well, for reasons this book makes crystal clear, that pill will never be the answer—but as a result of the research that’s gone into it, scientists in the last few years have learned more about how women’s sexuality works than we ever thought possible, and Come as You Are explains it all.
The first lesson in this essential, transformative book by Dr. Emily Nagoski is that every woman has her own unique sexuality, like a fingerprint, and that women vary more than men in our anatomy, our sexual response mechanisms, and the way our bodies respond to the sexual world. So we never need to judge ourselves based on others’ experiences. Because women vary, and that’s normal.
Second lesson: sex happens in a context. And all the complications of everyday life influence the context surrounding a woman’s arousal, desire, and orgasm.
Cutting-edge research across multiple disciplines tells us that the most important factor for women in creating and sustaining a fulfilling sex life, is not what you do in bed or how you do it, but how you feel about it. Which means that stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it. Once you understand these factors, and how to influence them, you can create for yourself better sex and more profound pleasure than you ever thought possible.
And Emily Nagoski can prove it.
Christopher Yuan, the son of Chinese immigrants, discovered at an early age that he was different. He was attracted to other boys. As he grew into adulthood, his mother, Angela, hoped to control the situation. Instead, she found that her son and her life were spiraling out of control—and her own personal demons were determined to defeat her.
Years of heartbreak, confusion, and prayer followed before the Yuans found a place of complete surrender, which is God’s desire for all families. Their amazing story, told from the perspectives of both mother and son, offers hope for anyone affected by homosexuality.
God calls all who are lost to come home to him. Casting a compelling vision for holy sexuality, Out of a Far Country speaks to prodigals, parents of prodigals, and those wanting to minister to the gay community.
“But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and felt compassion, and ran and embraced him and kissed him.” - Luke 15:20
Includes a discussion guide for personal reflection and group use.
From the Trade Paperback edition.
It does not matter if your sub has thirty years of experience in submission or just read 50 Shades of Grey and decided to try it herself. She will need to be trained for the best relationship to emerge.
"Dom's Guide to Submissive Training" was specifically written for doms/masters. It is designed to provide you with a step-by-step blueprint on how to train your new sub. It goes from preparation all the way down to the closing ceremony including advanced techniques & tips.
Training can be one of the most exciting, challenging and fun parts of the relationship. A well-trained sub will not only serve you in the capacity you deserve, but will have built up the two most important elements in any BDSM relationship – trust and consistency. Following the instructions in this guide will allow you to show yourself as a worthy master, who is in control, experienced and able to guide you both to the best possible life.
This book is written for Doms/Masters in training. It is written for you, the average guy or gal, who doesn’t already have a closet full of leather and whips, and who really has little idea about what BDSM is besides what they’ve heard about it.
What you are going to find out, is that the Dom/Master actually has the more complicated role. The master has the task of giving pleasure and discipline to the slave or sub. A great deal of what you do as a Dom will be for the benefit of a sub. You must derive pleasure from giving, have a great desire to please a partner, and not simply take what you want.
Still interested? Good. Now that we know you’re a REAL master in training, one that will respect the rules, respect the slave you have power over, and follow protocol, you can begin your Dom training. Only then can you truly earn the utmost respect and admiration from your sub.
In Volume 1 of this series we are going to discuss:
- How to think and act like a Dom
- What the slave expects from you
- What not to do and what instincts you do NOT want to follow
- Your motivation and your goals
- How to find out a sub’s taboo
- How to negotiate, find agreement and ensure that game play is always safe
- How to make a slave yearn for you and desire to be controlled by you
- And much more...
‘Pleasures are as necessary for the well-being of the body as food.' Kama Sutra
‘The Modern Kama Sutra’ opens up a new and exotic world of sexual pleasure that will change your sex life for ever.
Inspired by the ancient text of the Kama Sutra, this fully illustrated book offers over 40 easy-to-follow explicit positions (try positions such as 'Splitting the Bamboo', ' The Congress of the Cow', 'Yab Yum' and the 'Canopy of Stars'), step-by step instructions and practical tips and 200 stunning colour photographs that guarantee to enhance your erotic pleasure and improve your sexual technique.
‘The Modern Kama Sutra’ is for the modern couple, catering for both experienced lovers and for those wanting to experiment. You will learn how to heighten your awareness of your own and your partner’s bodies, and achieve an emotional intimacy and sexual intensity never before experienced.
• Why not try fast sex sequences for instant pleasure – use all kinds of locations, from the kitchen table and bathroom shower to the living room sofa and even the office floor!
• Learn how massage and intimate touching can enhance your sexual desire. Discover how to indulge the body and the senses with separate chapters on seduction, foreplay and oral sex.
We’re also going to discuss how to train your sub accordingly and with a purpose. This is important and is an often-neglected part of the BDSM community. The highly sensationalized, “purely sexual” relationships you read about or see depicted in TV or movies is not the only type of relationship forged. Some relationships really are all about personal missions, self-improvement and getting in touch with suppressed inner feelings.
We will cover this as well as the most important part of BDSM dominance—having a plan. You will learn how to be an excellent Dom and it all starts with a few simple steps.
Note: If you have not read Volume 1 in this series (Dom's Guide To BDSM Vol. 1: 49 Must-Know Tips On How To Be The Perfect Dom/Master Your submissive Will Truly Respect & Admire), it is highly recommended that you do so before taking on this book.
Learn how to navigate the twists and turns of female sexuality, with special guidance from thirteen guest sex educators including Nina Hartley, Sex Nerd Sandra, Jiz Lee, Tristan Taormino, Julia Serano, Reid Mihalko and more!
Girl Sex 101 will teach you...
*The bits and pieces that make up female sexual anatomy
*Simple ways to communicate in the heat of the moment
*How to build a Road Map of your partner s pleasure
*Essential moves for cunnilingus, strap-ons, hand sex and more!
*Positions to avoid fatigue and generate the power you need to rock your girl's world!
You'll gain confidence to please your girl, no matter what your hands-on experience. Buckle your seat belt and get ready to ride!
Because fetish culture, like all cultures, grows and changes with the people who practice it, there are distinct roles and categories that developed to help women define their preferences and find like-minded people and playmates.
Women in BDSM relationships no longer have to start with the basic tenets of submission to wrap that skin around their differences. Now you can look into the whole spectrum of submissive behavior and find the place you feel most fulfilled and comfortable. From women who enjoy the occasional bondage session handcuffed to their headboard to the girls who want to be fed out of a bowl and locked in a crate at night – there is a place for everyone.
In this Submissive Training guide we will look at twelve subcultures of submission (including the New Misogyny), explaining the overall principles and practices of each one and illustrating the pros and cons inherent in each style of sexual diversity.
All people are different and you may not find one that covers everything you like, or don’t like – but chances are you’ll see something in one of these subcultures that makes you say, “That’s what I want.”
That’s what this book is going to teach you: How to be a better sub, and have a happy & healthy BDSM lifestyle.
Here are just some of the things you will discover in volume 1 of "Submissive's Guide To BDSM":
- Why you want to experience punishment...
- The science of pain & pleasure...
- Type of Doms to beware of...
- How to pick the right Dom just for you...
- How to protect yourself from wannabe Doms and predators...
- The right way to explore taboo fantasies in BDSM...
- Type of limits and when & how to use them...
- How to communicate with your Dom...
- Common mistakes new subs make...
- How to "train" your Master...
- How to "fire" your Dom if it's not working out...
- And much more...
For many women intercourse isn’t enough to get them from “oh” to “oh-YES!”. Getting a woman to orgasm has more to do with movement of your lips than what you do with your hips. This ultimate oral sex guide teaches you all of the mouth moves you need to go down on a woman skillfully.
Oral Sex She’ll Never Forget gives 50 unique cunnilingus experiences from start to finish. You’ll learn how to combine positions, mouth moves, hand strokes, sex toys, seduction and setting to create the most exciting oral sex experience for her. Surprise your lover with something new and exciting.
Whether she’s in the mood for something playful or a little naughty sexy photography and detailed illustrations that show you exactly how to hit her hot spots and have her beg for more.
Cunnilingus isn’t just about mouth to genital contact. It’s an experience that should engage all the senses and thrill her body from head to toe. Oral Sex She’ll Never Forget teaches you mindblowing mouth moves as well as unique positions, little known female erotic zones, and hot foreplay to get her in the mood.
Oral Sex She’ll Never Forget offers detailed scenarios for every type of cunnilingus experience from romantic to kinky and basic to advanced. Whether you’re looking for new techniques or sure-fire ways to give her an orgasm (or two…or three) this bedside guide is all you need to give her incredible oral sex.
The discipline to hold your tongue, retrieve your paddle, or wait around endlessly while knot after knot is being tied as part of a bondage ritual drains your energy. Submission stretches, taxes, pushes, and exposes your body and soul to the whim and desire of another. Submissive women need support, care and nurture to continue on this journey in a healthy fashion.
"Care and Nurture for the Submissive" offers tips, understandings, and pathways to tend the fragile and beautiful souls of submissive women. Self-care is not selfish; it is essential. Only when you are taking care of yourself as a healthy, whole being can you give that self to another with a full heart and free joy.