With todayís busy parents in mind, each concise chapter provides easy-to-implement action steps and examples of how to teach respect, responsibility, and resilience plus ways to immediately address tantrums and unacceptable behavior while avoiding future conflicts down the road. Dr. G provides easy ways to modify the advice for children at different developmental stages, ranging from toddlers through kids ready to finish middle school.
A hands-on, grab-me-for-a-few-minutes resource, Get the Behavior You Want...Without Being the Parent You Hate! will help parents who are struggling to get to bedtime without tears; parents who want to shop at Target without hearing constant whining and pleading; and parents who want someone to normalize their experience and say, "Yes, this happens. Here's what you can do." Upbeat, lively, and humorous, this book answers parentsí most frequent questions and eliminates the guilt and guesswork out of raising a great kid.
Whenever Amy McCready mentions the "entitlement epidemic" to a group of parents, she is inevitably met with eye rolls, nodding heads, and loaded comments about affected children. It seems everywhere one looks, there are preschoolers who only behave in the grocery store for a treat, narcissistic teenagers posting selfies across all forms of social media, and adult children living off their parents.
Parenting expert Amy McCready reveals in this book that the solution is to help kids develop healthy attitudes in life. By setting up limits with consequences and training them in responsible behavior and decision making, parents can rid their homes of the entitlement epidemic and raise confident, resilient, and successful children. Whether parents are starting from scratch with a young toddler or navigating the teen years, they will find in this book proven strategies to effectively quell entitled attitudes in their children.
ScreamFree Parenting is not just about lowering your voice. It’s about learning to calm your emotional reactions and learning to focus on your own behavior more than your kids’ behavior . . . for their benefit. Our biggest enemy as parents is not the TV, the Internet, or even drugs. Our biggest enemy is our own emotional reactivity. When we say we “lost it” with our kids, the “it” in that sentence is our own adulthood. And then we wonder why our kids have so little respect for us, why our kids seem to have all the power in the family.
It’s time to do it differently. And you can. You can start to create and enjoy the types of calm, mutually respectful, and loving relationships with your kids that you’ve always craved. You can begin to revolutionize your family, starting tonight.
Parenting is not about kids, it’s about parents.
If you’re not in control, then you cannot be in charge.
What every kid really needs are parents who are able to keep their cool no matter what.
Easier said than done? Not anymore, thanks to ScreamFree Parenting, the principle-based approach that’s inspiring parents everywhere to truly revolutionize their family dynamics. Moving beyond the child-centered, technique-based approaches that ultimately fail, the ScreamFree way compels you to:
focus on yourself
calm yourself down, and
grow yourself up
By staying calm and connected with your kids, you begin to operate less out of your deepest fears and more out of your highest principles, revolutionizing your relationships in the process.
ScreamFree Parenting is not just another parenting book. It’s the first parenting
book that maintains—from beginning to end—that parenting is NOT about kids . . . it’s about parents. As parents pay more attention to controlling their own behavior instead of their kids’ behavior, the result is stronger, more rewarding, and more fulfilling family relationships.
For those of you reading who are parents, know parents, or have had parents, the notion that the greatest thing you can do for your children is to learn to focus on yourself may sound strange, even heretical. It’s not. Here’s why: we are the only ones we can control. We cannot control our kids—we cannot control the behavior of any other human being. And yet, so many “experts” keep giving us more tools (“techniques”) to help us try to do just that. And, of course, the more we try to control, the more out of control our children become.
“Don’t make me come up there.” “Don’t make me pull this car over.” “How many times do I have to tell you?” Even our language suggests that our kids have control over us.
It’s no wonder that we end up screaming. Or shutting down. Or simply giving up. And the charts, refrigerator magnets, family meetings, and other techniques in most typical parenting books just don’t work. They end up making us feel more frustrated and more powerless in this whole parenting thing.
This practical, effective guide for parents of all ages with kids of all ages introduces proven principles for overcoming the anxieties and stresses of parenting and setting new patterns of connection and cooperation. Well-written in an engaging, conversational tone, the book is sensible, straightforward, and based on the experiences of hundreds of actual families. It will help all parents become calming authorities in their homes, bring peace to their families today, and give kids what they need to grow into caring, self-directed adults tomorrow.
-Why nagging, reminding, coaxing, or bribing don’t work in the long run
-How to break the cycle of arguing, threatening, and spanking
-The keys to starting a new-and-improved routine
-Specific language for ending a variety of standoffs
The skills Crowder teaches here can be applied to any parenting situation. Presented in a concise, clear format and complete with worksheets of exercises for both adults and kids, Eating, Sleeping, and Getting Up is a lifesaver that will help end the chaos forever.
From the Trade Paperback edition.
What can you say to a daughter who comes home day after day complaining of being threatened or hit or worse? What if your son is clearly the victim of vicious teasing but doesn’t even want to talk about it? What should you do when you suspect your child may, in fact, be the bully? Your Child: Bully or Victim? offers hands-on help for parents to stop bullying before it begins.
What to say to your children to get them through the bumps, bruises, and crises of childhood.
Falling off a bike, having a bad dream, getting stitches...sometimes a kiss isn't enough to make it all better. But what you say to your child in those first moments of pain or fear could make all the difference.
Using techniques the authors have taught to doctors, nurses, and first responders, Verbal First Aid(tm) explains how words can be used to promote healing from burns, bruises, nightmares, asthma attacks, and more. It provides scripts and tips on how to short-circuit traumatic memories, sometimes just by speaking a sentence or two.
This revolutionary book gives parents the responses they need to immediately stabilize their children's emotions. And these methods will build a foundation of confidence and inner strength that will help kids heal at the deepest level, and weather whatever hardships and difficulties they encounter throughout life.
Full of expert advice tempered by first-hand experience of modern parenthood, Cop On is the perfect book to help you navigate the uncharted territories of modern parenthood. From the best way to supervise your children’s internet usage to communication in the age of Web 2.0, Cop On will show you how to not only survive today’s challenges but to raise children who thrive on them.
Colman Noctor, an experienced child and adolescent psychologist and, more importantly, a parent himself, takes a realistic, grounded and sensible approach to the pressures of parenting in the modern world: from sky-high academic expectations to crowded extracurricular schedules to the rapid growth of social media and digital technology, each has taken its toll on family life, making it difficult to foster a nurturing and calm environment at home.
In Cop On, Colman Noctor, who has spent his professional life managing the ill-effects of anxiety in children and adolescents, identifies the key to negotiating these challenges as better communication and, more importantly, learning to see yourself through your child’s eyes.
His honest, direct and practical insights will help you:Identify and ease the sources of anxiety in your household routineLearn the real value of encouraging self-worth, problem solving, emotional intelligence and ‘cop on’ in your childrenDifferentiate between parenting wants and parenting needsUnderstand modern-day parenting phenomena like the GAA Tiger Mom, the M50 Parent, Trampoline Trauma and Grandparenting ParentingBy focusing on the quality of ‘cop on’, Noctor will help you raise your children with the grit and good judgment to cope with whatever challenges come their way, no matter what the future holds.