The death of a loved one is always painful and the grieving process complex and profound. Yet when the loss occurs under tragic circumstances, there is a whole other set of emotional variables that the people left behind must face. Questions abound, such as "Could I have stopped this?" Feelings of guilt, shame, and even anger combine with the overwhelming sadness of losing someone who was dearly loved. Drawing on her own experience of losing her son to suicide, as well as her conversations with hundreds of people who have grieved the tragic death of a friend or family member, revered singer-songwriter Judy Collins has culled together seven powerful steps toward healing. The Seven T's are:
TRUTH: Tell it. Regardless of how terrible the facts may be and how hard it is to talk about, don't hide the truth about how you lost the person you loved. TRUST: Allow it. Don't let the painful circumstances surrounding the death of your loved one prevent you from talking with friends about your loss.
THERAPY: Get it. Seek help-whether through traditional talk therapy, your art, meditation, or whatever method you choose-but get the help you need.
TREASURE: Hold on. Don't stop treasuring your loved one. Don't let the horrible events leading to his or her death wash away all of the things that were good and beautiful about that person's life.
THRIVE: Keep living with your eyes wide open. Don't give in to the temptation to use alcohol or any other addiction to blunt or blur your sadness.
TREAT: Be kind to yourself. Give yourself the gift of self-nourishment.
TRIUMPH: You must. Live a life of joy, abundance, and forgiveness.
From a woman famous for her wisdom and compassion, The Seven T's is destined to become a classic on the subject of grieving and loss.
These words begin the first section of Blue Peninsula, a narrative of a son's degenerative illness in thirty-three parts focused around poems that have provided companionship and sustenance to the author. When multiple diagnostic avenues delivered no explanation for the worsening disabilities of her older son, Ike, Madge McKeithen "became a poetry addict--collecting, consuming, ripping poems out of magazines, buying slender volumes that would fit in my pocket or pocketbook, stashing them in loose-leaf notebooks, on shelves, stacking them on the floor. In the midst of all this grief, I had fallen in love. With words. Poems, especially. And just in time."
McKeithen draws on a wonderfully wide ranging group of of poets and lyricists--including Emily Dickinson, the Rolling Stones, Paul Celan, Bruce Springsteen, Marie Howe, Walt Whitman, and many others--to illuminate, comfort, and help to express her sorrow. Some chapters are reflections on friendships and family relationships in the context of a chronic and worsening illness. Some consider making peace with what life has dealt, and others value intentionally reworking it.
Not written to suggest easy solace, this powerful work aims to keep company, as would any individual whose loved one is on a course in which the only way out is through.
With No Time to Say Goodbye, she brings suicide survival from the darkness into light, speaking frankly about the overwhelming feelings of confusion, guilt, shame, anger, and loneliness that are shared by all survivors. Fine draws on her own experience and on conversations with many other survivors--as well as on the knowledge of counselors and mental health professionals. She offers a strong helping hand and invaluable guidance to the vast numbers of family and friends who are left behind by the more than thirty thousand people who commit suicide each year, struggling to make sense of an act that seems to them senseless, and to pick up the pieces of their own shattered lives. And, perhaps most important, for the first time in any book, she allows survivors to see that they are not alone in their feelings of grief and despair.
From the Trade Paperback edition.
Are you having difficulty moving forward after a significant loss? Are you searching for meaning and purpose in your life? Have you lost your sense of self or identity as a result of a significant loss?
The powerful tools and techniques shared in this book will teach you how to:
triumph over tragedy
transform your pain
mend a broken heart
recover from trauma
When you lose the most important person in your life, it's hard to believe you can continue without them. It can take months or even years to deal with the grief and even then it never truly goes away; you only learn to manage it.
In You Can Survive This, author M.H. Lee draws upon the personal experience of losing a parent to give readers insight into the ups and downs of this type of loss, to let them know that they aren't alone, and that they can survive this no matter how impossible that may seem right now.Search Terms: recovery, love & loss, depression, loss of parent, loss of child, loss of spouse, bereavement,death, loss, grief, self-help
Losing a father can be absolutely wrenching. This insightful guide tells the story of the strong connections between daughters and dads throughout life, and the consequential grief and loss a daughter feels when her father dies.
Stories from 50 women offer glimpses into the many aspects of father/daughter relationships that are warm and nurturing, sometimes complicated and conflicted, and always solid and enduring. The Italian American women interviewed ultimately find great peace and meaning in the on-going relationship with their fathers, even after death.
Using these women’s stories, the readers are presented a multi-faceted discussion filled with amusement, complexity and intensity, struggle and resistance, and above all, remarkably powerful family bonds. The daughters’ reactions to the passing of their fathers display the strength of relationships built over many years, as well as the spiritual and emotional framework that shapes the lives of many Italian American women today.
Naturally one begins to wonder, “Is it too late to apologize?”, “How to forgive and forget in unhealthy relationships?” and, “How to forgive yourself - both for mistakes of the past and for ongoing mistakes in the present?”
One of the most powerful tools for spiritual healing of both past and present is repentance with sincere apology. Yet, among the many spiritual books available today, it is rare to find a scripture on forgiveness.
In the book “Pratikraman”, Gnani Purush (embodiment of Self knowledge) Dada Bhagwan describes the spiritual power of forgiveness prayer, and offers a precise formula for asking for forgiveness.
This extended version of Dadashri’s book “Pratikraman: Freedom Through Apology & Repentance” allows anyone seeking to practice spiritual forgiveness prayer to gain a profound understanding about how to repent, how to forgive someone, and how to begin forgiving yourself. This book is an invaluable resource for spirituality and health.
In April 2013 and thirty-nine years after their murders, a six day Coronial Inquest into their deaths had commenced. Over thirty witnesses, including three persons of interest, would be subpoenaed to give evidence. The Inquest would create immense publicity and shine a spotlight upon the dark underbelly of Toowoomba’s past.
The author is the brother of one of those murdered girls. He has documented his quest to discover the truth of what happened to his sister and her friend in his previous book, The Echo of Silent Screams. It set the wheels in motion for this last investigation. This is his ongoing personal story to pursue justice for his sister, Lorraine Wilson, and her friend, Wendy Evans.
The $250,000 reward is still current.