About this ebook
The workbook guides readers through reflecting on what's true in their lives, what could be possible, and what they ultimately want. Then, it supports readers in determining their thresholds for leaving, exploring where they might live, how they might leave, and to identify strategies to strengthen their digital and physical security. Ultimately, the book helps readers know that whatever the outcome — if they stay or if they go — they made an informed decision about their future.
What’s in the workbook?
Risk evaluation frameworks to help you assess different risks and opportunities within the current conditions.
Tools to help you identify and hold complexity without getting stuck.
Reflection prompts to help name priorities, acknowledge your feelings, and imagine possibilities.
Prompts to help you identify and name personal / familial thresholds for leaving.
Checklists and worksheets to help you keep track of your research and intentions.
Resources and supportive prompts to help you plan the best next-steps for this next season of life, no matter what answer you come to at the end of the workbook.
Warm & colorful designs.
Writing that combines storytelling with calm, grounded, get-it-done instructions.
About the Authors:
Grover and Nova Wehman-Brown created the Should I Stay or Should I Go Workbook to share tools they used when faced with their own complex choices about leaving the US or staying put under the pressure of rising authoritarianism, rising costs of living in the United States, gun violence, and an eroding safety net. After many years of interrupted conversations whispered from the front seat of the family car and late nights researching what could be possible, they now live in the Netherlands with their school-aged children.
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About the author
Grover Wehman-Brown (they/them) is a writer, narrative strategy professional, and parent. They are the creator of Masculine Birth Ritual, a podcast about masculine-of-center queer and trans people birthing and parenting young children, and Grover Reads the News, a podcast and Substack news summary created before the November 2024 election as a resource for caring people to face the news together. They write a newsletter at You've Got Mail (only Butch and platonic) on Substack and their writing has been published in venues including Autostraddle, Writers Resist, the Huffington Post, StreetSpirit, Ghost Heart Literary Journal, the Journal of Space and Culture, and the Journal of GLBTQ Worldmaking.
Dr. Wehman-Brown holds a BFA in Writing from the Pratt Institute and an MA and PhD in Communications from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill.
Nova Wehman-Brown (she/her) is a queer femme writer, strategist, community builder, and parent who has spent nearly three decades helping people and organizations make better, more human-centered decisions. As a longtime UX (User Experience) and product design leader in both the private and public technology sectors, she has dedicated her career to making complex systems more equitable and accessible for everyone.
Born and raised in the creative chaos of the San Francisco Bay Area, Nova grew up believing that care and community are acts of resistance. She lived outside the US in France and pre-Putin Russia for many years. Her work—whether in community-centered technology, design strategy, or arts-based mutual aid—centers around helping people navigate uncertainty with empathy and clarity.
