Filled with concrete exercises developed by Hugh Prather during his years of counseling, teaching, and administering, How to Live in the World and Still Be Happy shows us how to examine our own lives so that we can learn to change the attitudes and actions that hold us back from experiencing and achieving lasting happiness.
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In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.
For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.
Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.
There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.
In this little book on mental cleansing, Prather uses personal stories as well as step-by-step exercises to help readers understand the rewards and the process of letting go. For example, in the section on letting go of guilt and hurtful actions, Prather suggests that for at least one day readers "rise from sleep and make your purpose only this: 'I will go through this day harmlessly. I will hurt no one in my thoughts or in my actions, including myself.'" Prather also includes instructions on how to let go of mental pollutants, misery, prediction and control, and spiritual specialness.
Standing on My Head moves with quirky profundity from moment to moment, from dictum to doubts, from aphorism and mantra, to mundane recollections of tennis games to offbeat encounters with friends. It takes us into a room where we can, if we listen closely, and maybe tip ourselves upside down once in a while, begin to perceive something different in ourselves and in others. “I have to act the way I am before I can become something else.”
Hugh Prather began this book more than thirty years ago. It was first published as I Touch the Earth, the Earth Touches Me, in 1972. This edition, revisited and radically revised for a new century, marries the wisdom of youth to the wisdom of experience.
Hugh Prather, in his writing and his life, opts for the latter. And in these Morning Notes, he invites us to live as if we think our world and the people in it are worth caring about, worth taking time for, worth changing.
Love, forgiveness, self-healing, change--yes! Self-loathing, judgment, anger, prevaricating--no! The former help us realize our Oneness within ourselves, with other human beings, and with God. The latter prevent this realization. These 365 simple meditations take us a long way toward our spiritual home. Individually and as a whole they speak to the spiritual task of the 21st century--to wake up to our own responsibility for what happens to us.
"Starting over saves time. To love is to begin again. Clearly, our human family is in distress. Yet because of this, it is also more open to change. Today I join with countless others in a renewed determination to be a better person. For this to happen, I must make up my mind, because behavior that flows from conflicted thought cannot be controlled. Engaging in trench warfare with my personality does not work. . . .To truly start over I must unify my mind with a single purpose. And love is the only true purpose and the only unity."
Shining Through is an easy-does-it, 30-day course in finding peace and happiness. Prather encourages readers to take a few minutes every day to read his "Essays of Encouragement" and reflect on and practice the accompanying 30 "Affirmations and Guides." "In this book I attempt to present a few ways that our mind can begin to hear the song of our heart and experience a growing faith in a truth that exists beyond our tragedies and fears. ...It is vital to find an approach that permits us to experience a reality greater and more reliable than the confusing and surprisingly short journey of our body. I will suggest ways this can be done," Prather writes.
Among those ways are suggestions for reflection and practice:
I will make no effort to step ahead of God.Let me at least try.Today I will not project.I will not rehearse uncertainties to come.Gentleness of thought is my way Home.My body is a means of communicating love.
Readers will turn to Shining Through again and again to find a deeper hope, a quiet power, and an abiding light.