Adults often have trouble understanding and addressing the sources of their children's fears. In Listening to Fear, Dr. Steven Marans shares the techniques for easing distress that he has developed for children of all ages in his work as the director of the National Center for Children Exposed to Violence at Yale University.
His advice is based on three steps parents must take before they can talk effectively with their children. First, adults must begin to work through their own fears. Second, parents need to set aside their ideas about what their children are feeling and learn from the children themselves. Third, Marans's experience has shown that children and adolescents communicate their unease in actions more than in words, so adults must learn to interpret this behavioral language.
Listening to Fear also offers specific, pragmatic tactics for actually speaking with kids, organized by age group and proven in Marans's research. These methods include ways to
- ask about the concerns and worries of your child's friends
- think through the messages behind your child's questions before answering
- reassure your child with facts, but not too many
Listening to Fear is an indispensable guide for parents and for children anxious about an ever-threatenting world.
Ann Gadzikowski is an early childhood educator and the author of several books. She is a frequent presenter at professional conferences on the topics of both early childhood education and gifted education.
Drawing on the most comprehensive measurable results ever made available to an author – his "I CAN" course, taught in more than five thousand schools with more than three million participants – and his own successes and failures as a parent, Zig Ziglar offers sensible guidelines on:Praise and encouragement: Children can hardly have too much of the right kinds. Look for the good in your children and you will find it. Drugs: The latest statistics and a winning approach to teaching kids to say no, starting with cigarettes. Time: Quality time is not enough. Kids need a lot of time with parents (and virtually none with TV). Discipline: The loving parent will not shirk it. Sex and romance: Be frank, be firm, be realistic.
And much more, in a book that is both refreshingly old-fashioned and startlingly new.
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Toddler Troubles covers a wide range of typical toddler behaviour and its associated dilemmas, from, eating, sleeping, potty-training and discipline, to more thought-provoking ideas like being a positive parent.
Parent and Clinical Psychologist Jo Douglas has been working with families for over 25 years and understands how hard bringing up toddlers can be. In this wonderful new book, she provides a wealth of tools to help you through the ups and downs of bringing up under-5's, including Frequently Asked Questions, charts, and interviews.
Toddler Troubles is the ideal companion for any parent as they negotiate the pleasures and perils of raising children.
"...not simply another 'opinionated' child care text, but one that is evidence-led wherever possible.... I heartily recommend it."
—Professor Martin Herbert, Clinical Psychologist