Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last

John Gottman

Dec 2012 · Simon and Schuster

About this ebook

The New York Times–bestselling author and psychologist provides tested methods to evaluate—and strengthen—your long-term relationship.

This breakthrough book guides you through a series of self-tests designed to help you determine what kind of marriage you have, where your strengths and weaknesses are, and what specific actions you can take to help your marriage. You’ll also learn that

*more sex doesn’t necessarily improve a marriage

*frequent arguing will not lead to divorce

*financial problems do not always spell trouble in a relationship

*wives who make sour facial expressions when their husbands talk are likely to be separated within four years

*there is a reason husbands withdraw from arguments—and there’s a way around it

Psychologist John Gottman teaches you how to recognize attitudes that doom a marriage—contempt, criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling—and provides practical exercises, quizzes, tips, and techniques that will help you understand and make the most of your relationship. You can avoid patterns that lead to divorce—and Why Marriages Succeed or Fail will show you how.

“An upbeat, easy-to-follow manual based on research into the dynamics of married couples.” —Kirkus Reviews

About the author

John Gottman, PhD has written numerous academic articles and is the author or coauthor of forty books, including the bestselling The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. His breakthrough research on marriage and parenting that has earned him numerous major awards, including four National Institute of Mental Health Research Scientist Awards. Currently a professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Washington, Gottman lives on Orcas Island, Washington.