Not reacting to people or situations that provoke us is not an easy skill to develop. And skill it is. Just as you have to hit thousands of tennis balls to become a skilled tennis player or sit for long hours at a keyboard to become proficient at piano, you have to practice the art of detachment. We have to convince ourselves that not reacting doesn’t mean we don’t care. On the contrary, Casey shows us, we are freed to show genuine love and care only when we can detach from the kneejerk need to fix or solve or rescue. Even the idea that someone else can make us feel happy (or beautiful or angry or exasperated) is an illusion, says Casey. All our feelings come from within, and we get to choose how to respond to life. No one can give—or take—that from us. These facts are among the keys to our emotional well being.
This little book with its brief meditations, will help us practice letting go of the illusion that we can fix or control anyone or anything else, and focus on finding our own balance point. It gives us a lifeline when we find ourselves giving in to the temptation to rescue or enmesh.
Karen Casey is a writer and workshop facilitator for 12-step recovery. Her first book,Each Day a New Beginning, has sold more than 2 million copies. She has published 28 books since then including Change Your Mind and Your Life Will Follow, which was a finalist for the MS Society Books for a Better Life Awards. She has traveled throughout North America and Europe carrying her message of hope for others on the road to recovery. Visit her at www.womens-spirituality.com.
In Codependence and the Power of Detachment, bestselling author Karen Casey shares her story and the story of others who have suffered from codependency. Based on the insights and tools she’s discovered during her many years of sobriety to address codependency, Casey takes readers through the steps of detaching from a bad situation: admitting the attachment, surrendering the outcome, forgiving, and focusing attention on what works. She describes how to pay attention, be aware, and take care of ourselves, and let others--husbands, family, and coworkers--become accountable for themselves.
Codependence and the Power of Detachment shows that detachment is a power anyone can claim. It is the power of sanity, of peace, of finding one's own inner strength.
“Writing a book of essays about the course, suggesting how one can practice it for personal benefit, is so pleasurable. Every word I write is a constant reminder to me of how to cultivate greater peace in my own life. What could be better than that? Nothing comes to mind, frankly.” –from the introduction
52 Ways to Live the Course In Miracles takes readers on a journey through simple ideas and affirmations for meditation. Casey not only offers an explanation of the ideas, but also shares her own experiences with them—stumbles and all—offering proof of how helpful and practical they really are and showing that the goal isn’t perfection, but rather progress toward creating a life of love and peace.
In Getting Unstuck, bestselling recovery writer Karen Casey invites readers to work through the 12 principles in Change Your Mind and Your Life Will Follow and to dig deep into their own patterns of behavior, to determine where they’ve gotten stuck in their lives. Presented in a workbook format, readers write down and explore their answers to specific questions both to discern what’s causing them unhappiness or stress and to develop strategies for getting unstuck.
Getting Unstuck helps readers to:Learn where the boundaries should be drawn between themselves and othersStop holding others emotional hostageAvoid turning caring into controlLet loved ones find their own Higher PowerFind their own free and peaceful life
Getting Unstuck deepens and broadens readers’ understanding of the peace that comes from being responsible for themselves and letting others do the same.
Casey’s characteristic gentle prodding and profound insight help readers discover their own wisdom and strength.