This Is How It Always Is: A Novel

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48 reviews

About this ebook

New York Times Bestseller
The Reese Witherspoon x Hello Sunshine Book Club Pick

“Every once in a while, I read a book that opens my eyes in a way I never expected.”
—Reese Witherspoon (Reese’s Book Club x Hello Sunshine book pick)

People Magazine’s Top 10 Books of 2017
Bustle’s 17 Books Every Woman Should Read From 2017
PopSugar’s Our Favorite Books of the Year (So Far)
Refinery29's Best Books of the Year So Far
BookBrowse’s The 20 Best Books of 2017

Pacific Northwest Book Awards Finalist
The Globe and Mail's Top 100 Books of 2017
Longlisted for 2019 International DUBLIN Literary Award

“It made me laugh, it made me cry, it made me think.” —Liane Moriarty, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Big Little Lies

This is how
a family keeps a secret...and how that secret ends up keeping them.

This is how a family lives happily ever after...until happily ever after becomes complicated.

This is how children change...and then change the world.

This is Claude. He’s five years old, the youngest of five brothers, and loves peanut butter sandwiches. He also loves wearing a dress, and dreams of being a princess.

When he grows up, Claude says, he wants to be a girl.

Rosie and Penn want Claude to be whoever Claude wants to be. They’re just not sure they’re ready to share that with the world. Soon the entire family is keeping Claude’s secret. Until one day it explodes.

Laurie Frankel's This Is How It Always Is is a novel about revelations, transformations, fairy tales, and family. And it’s about the ways this is how it always is: Change is always hard and miraculous and hard again, parenting is always a leap into the unknown with crossed fingers and full hearts, children grow but not always according to plan. And families with secrets don’t get to keep them forever.

Ratings and reviews

48 reviews
Ryan Guinn
February 28, 2021
This is one of the best novels I have read in years...a little slow at first but sharing the parents love for their son Claude and his journey and their unwavering support for him moved me in so many ways. A brilliant story about love, acceptance, and most of all loving your children and encouraging them to be exactly who the are meant to become ..........
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Hilda Guerin
February 1, 2019
This book opened a new field in parenting for me. It is not something I gave thought to in the past because I couldn't imagine such a situation.
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Siddhartha Sen
December 31, 2019
I loved the book and the beauty in the story. The book picks up pace somewhere in the first half and then it was very hard to put this book down. I will be reading the other books written by the author and would recommend this book be read by book clubs.
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About the author

Laurie Frankel is the author of the novels This Is How It Always Is, The Atlas of Love, and Goodbye for Now. She lives in Seattle with her family.

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