She hurries towards me, eyebrows furrowing in disbelief. “You’re going out like that?” she hisses.
“Like what?” I reply, quickly giving myself a once-over in the corridor mirror.
She stills; “Aren’t you going to cover your hair? It’s not done. Let me get you a scarf.” She begins to look around frantically.
Confused, I run a hand over the soft bouncy curls of my Afro. With that just-washed fragrance that I love, my hair looks lovely to me. “My hair is done; it comes out of my head done, in ready-styled, tight curls”, I explain.
“You can’t go out like that”, she insists, her eyes widening in sheer horror. “What will people think?”
Coiled hair, coarse hair, kinky hair, often mislabelled “bad hair”, many sisters have grown up being told that the very hair that comes out of our head simply isn’t good enough. As a result, many have openly confessed to a struggle to embrace the very look of their natural woolly hair throughout most of their lives, and knowingly or not, have denied themselves one of the most basic and fundamental of human freedoms. Thankfully, as the truth becomes more and more apparent that the beautifully powerful and exceptionally versatile natural woolly hair is indeed the original, and needs to be displayed, not hidden, hopefully dialogues like the one above will quickly become a thing of the past.
Issues in life revolve around lies and truth, and this natural woolly hair issue is no exception. In BEFORE WE BECOME EXTINCT – How Do I Get the Confidence to Wear My Natural Woolly Hair? sisters T.C. and D.U. Okonkwo will explore this issue in order to answer this often-unspoken question. They will share profound insights into the link between love, lies, fear and rejection, since these underpin the struggle many sisters have with embracing this unique and exceptional aspect of their beauty.
If you struggle to confidently display your natural woolly hair - perhaps you used to wear it but now feel the pressure to hide it - or if indeed the very idea of displaying your woolly hair makes you feel anxious and fretful, this book is for you. It encourages you to dig deep and consider for yourself the answers to many of the questions posed, and to use these answers as fuel for empowerment, to ultimately free yourself from this woolly hair issue, and more importantly…stay free.
After both cutting their hair down to a TWA (Teeny Weeny Afro) over five years ago, the Okonkwos have since experienced first-hand the challenges that black women face when embracing their natural woolly hair. They have also found that the one thing that remains consistent is the question from other black women: “How do you get the confidence to wear your woolly hair?” During their hair journey, the Okonkwos have come to realise just how big of an issue woolly hair still is within the black community, and can see that this is the reason why their sisters’ health is being compromised on so many levels. So, with compelling and thought-provoking truths, irrefutable insights and practical advice, Before We Become Extinct: How Do I Get the Confidence to Wear My Natural Woolly Hair? has been birthed. It empowers black women to embrace this most unique aspect of their beauty, and with this book the Okonkwos are quickly becoming known as valued contributors to the woolly hair discussion, characterized by their unflinching dedication to freedom through truth.
One plane crash.
One extraordinary faith.
One million lies.
When a group of professionals embark on a networking ski trip to Salzburg but their plane crashes into treacherous Austrian back country, nothing has prepared them for what they’ll face as they fight for humanity’s basic instinct: survival.
Left to raise her three younger siblings at just seventeen, Nina Bishop is accustomed to solving problems. Now that she and two friends run their own law firm, she gets paid for solving other people’s problems. And as a businesswoman, she can always smell a great opportunity. So when their biggest client, Parker Drayton, organizes a networking ski trip to Salzburg, Austria, she is the first to board the plane. There’s only one drawback: Parker is bringing along his two notoriously difficult, grown-up sons, Justin and Hugh.
Even before take-off the tension between Parker and his sons is palpable. But when Hugh causes them to crash, plunging them all into unforgiving back country, the networking trip goes from tension-filled journey to living nightmare...
Spiral is the first book in the compelling Salzburg Saga Trilogy.
If you suffer from unwanted, intrusive, frightening, or even disturbing thoughts, you might worry about what these thoughts mean about you. Thoughts can seem like messages—are they trying to tell you something? But the truth is that they are just thoughts, and don’t necessarily mean anything. Sane and good people have them. If you are someone who is plagued by thoughts you don’t want—thoughts that scare you, or thoughts you can’t tell anyone about—this book may change your life.
In this compassionate guide, you’ll discover the different kinds of disturbing thoughts, myths that surround your thoughts, and how your brain has a tendency to get “stuck” in a cycle of unwanted rumination. You’ll also learn why common techniques to get rid of these thoughts can backfire. And finally, you’ll learn powerful cognitive behavioral skills to help you cope with and move beyond your thoughts, so you can focus on living the life you want. Your thoughts will still occur, but you will be better able to cope with them—without dread, guilt, or shame.
If you have unwanted thoughts, you should remember that you aren’t alone. In fact, there are millions of people just like you—good people who have awful thoughts, gentle people with violent thoughts, and sane people with “crazy” thoughts. This book will show you how to move past your thoughts so you can reclaim your life!
This book has been selected as an Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies Self-Help Book Recommendation—an honor bestowed on outstanding self-help books that are consistent with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) principles and that incorporate scientifically tested strategies for overcoming mental health difficulties. Used alone or in conjunction with therapy, our books offer powerful tools readers can use to jump-start changes in their lives.