Braving the Wilderness: The quest for true belonging and the courage to stand alone

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A timely and important new book that challenges everything we think we know about cultivating true belonging in our communities, organizations, and culture, from the #1 bestselling author of Rising Strong, Daring Greatly, and The Gifts of Imperfection.

‘True belonging doesn't require us to change who we are. It requires us to be who we are.’ Social scientist Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW has sparked a global conversation about the experiences that bring meaning to our lives – experiences of courage, vulnerability, love, belonging, shame and empathy. In Braving the Wilderness, Brown redefines what it means to truly belong in an age of increased polarisation. With her trademark mix of research, storytelling and honesty, Brown will again change the cultural conversation while mapping out a clear path to true belonging.

Brown argues that what we're experiencing today is a spiritual crisis of disconnection, and introduces four practices of true belonging that challenge everything we believe about ourselves and each other. She writes, ‘True belonging requires us to believe in and belong to ourselves so fully that we can find sacredness both in both being a part of something, and in standing alone when necessary. But in a culture that's rife with perfectionism and pleasing, and with the erosion of civility, it's easy to stay quiet, hide in our ideological bunkers, or fit in rather than show up as our true selves and brave the wilderness of uncertainty and criticism. But true belonging is not something we negotiate or accomplish with others; it's a daily practice that demands integrity and authenticity. It's a personal commitment that we carry in our hearts.’ Brown offers us the clarity and courage we need to find our way back to ourselves and to each other. And that path cuts right through the wilderness. Brown writes, ‘The wilderness is an untamed, unpredictable place of solitude and searching. It is a place as dangerous as it is breathtaking, a place as sought after as it is feared. But it turns out to be the place of true belonging, and it's the bravest and most sacred place you will ever stand.’

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About the author

Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW is a research professor at the University of Houston where she holds the Huffington Foundation-Brené Brown Endowed Chair at The Graduate College of Social Work. She has spent the last two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame and empathy, and is the author of four #1 New York Times bestsellers: Braving the Wilderness, The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly and Rising Strong. Brené's TED talk, ‘The Power of Vulnerability’, is one of the top five most viewed TED talks in the world with 35 million views. Brené lives in Houston, Texas, with her husband, Steve, and their children, Ellen and Charlie.
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Publisher
Random House
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Published on
Sep 12, 2017
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Pages
208
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ISBN
9781473555495
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Language
English
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Genres
Psychology / Emotions
Psychology / Social Psychology
Self-Help / Personal Growth / General
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#1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • A timely and important new book that challenges everything we think we know about cultivating true belonging in our communities, organizations, and culture, from the #1 bestselling author of Rising Strong, Daring Greatly, and The Gifts of Imperfection

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“True belonging doesn’t require us to change who we are. It requires us to be who we are.” Social scientist Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW, has sparked a global conversation about the experiences that bring meaning to our lives—experiences of courage, vulnerability, love, belonging, shame, and empathy. In Braving the Wilderness, Brown redefines what it means to truly belong in an age of increased polarization. With her trademark mix of research, storytelling, and honesty, Brown will again change the cultural conversation while mapping a clear path to true belonging.

Brown argues that we’re experiencing a spiritual crisis of disconnection, and introduces four practices of true belonging that challenge everything we believe about ourselves and each other. She writes, “True belonging requires us to believe in and belong to ourselves so fully that we can find sacredness both in being a part of something and in standing alone when necessary. But in a culture that’s rife with perfectionism and pleasing, and with the erosion of civility, it’s easy to stay quiet, hide in our ideological bunkers, or fit in rather than show up as our true selves and brave the wilderness of uncertainty and criticism. But true belonging is not something we negotiate or accomplish with others; it’s a daily practice that demands integrity and authenticity. It’s a personal commitment that we carry in our hearts.” Brown offers us the clarity and courage we need to find our way back to ourselves and to each other. And that path cuts right through the wilderness. Brown writes, “The wilderness is an untamed, unpredictable place of solitude and searching. It is a place as dangerous as it is breathtaking, a place as sought after as it is feared. But it turns out to be the place of true belonging, and it’s the bravest and most sacred place you will ever stand.”
Το να είσαι ευάλωτος δεν είναι αδυναμία. Αντίθετα, στη ζωή μας βρισκόμαστε καθημερινά αντιμέτωποι με την αβεβαιότητα, το ρίσκο και τη συναισθηματική έκθεση, κάτι που βέβαια δεν το επιλέγουμε αλλά είναι αναπόφευκτο. Η μόνη μας επιλογή είναι να αποφασίσουμε πόσο θα ασχοληθούμε με αυτό. Όταν περνάμε τη ζωή μας περιμένοντας να γίνουμε τέλειοι ή αλεξίσφαιροι, τελικά καταλήγουμε να θυσιάζουμε σχέσεις και ευκαιρίες, συχνά ανεπανόρθωτα. Πρέπει να μπαίνουμε με θάρρος στην αρένα, όποια κι αν είναι αυτή (μια καινούργια σχέση, μια σημαντική συνάντηση, μια δημιουργική διαδικασία ή μια δύσκολη συζήτηση με την οικογένειά μας) και με προθυμία να ασχολούμαστε μ’ αυτή την καινούργια εμπειρία. Το να είσαι ευάλωτος σημαίνει να τολμάς. Στο βιβλίο αυτό δίνονται απαντήσεις στα ακόλουθα ερωτήματα: • Τι είναι αυτό που μας κάνει να φοβόμαστε να αφήσουμε εκτεθειμένη την ευαίσθητη πλευρά μας; • Τι τίμημα πληρώνουμε, όταν κλεινόμαστε στον εαυτό μας και εγκαταλείπουμε τον αγώνα; • Πώς μπορούμε να αποδεχτούμε το γεγονός ότι είμαστε τρωτοί, ώστε να αλλάξουμε τον τρόπο με τον οποίο ζούμε, αγαπάμε, είμαστε γονείς;
Bogens tema beskrives i indledningen med dette Roosevelt citat:

”Det er ikke kritikeren, der gør en forskel; ikke manden, der påpeger, hvor den stærke mand snubler, eller hvor den, der gør gode gerninger, kunne have gjort dem bedre. Anerkendelsen tilhører manden, som faktisk er i arenaen, hvis ansigt skæmmes af støv, sved og blod; han, som kæmper tappert, som fejler, som kommer til kort igen og igen, for der findes ikke bestræbelser uden fejl og mangler; men han er den, som faktisk kæmper for at udføre gerningen, den, der kender til stor entusiasme, stor hengivelse, som bruger sig selv på en værdig sag, som i bedste tilfælde oplever den store bedrifts triumf og som i værste tilfælde, hvis han fejler, i det mindste fejler, mens han vover meget. . . .”

Alle mennesker har problemer med sårbarhed og det ligger i tiden, at det er noget, det er bedst at undgå, men, som det fremgår af citatet, så lever man ikke fuldt og helt, før man kaster sig ud i det.

Brown opstiller10 retningslinjer for et autentisk liv. F.eks.:
At give slip på, hvad andre tænker.
Opdyrke taknemmelighed
At give slip på knaphed/mangel,

Hun gennemgår og afliver forskellige myter om sårbarhed:
”Sårbarhed er svaghed”.
”Vi kan klare os alene.”
”Tillid kommer før sårbarhed”

Hun beskriver sammenhængen med skam og anviser metoder til at begrænse dens indflydelse. Angsten for latterliggørelse er den mest udbredte bremse på kreativitet. Skam stortrives gennem hemmeligholdelse og modvirkes af empati. Skam er forskelligt for mænd og kvinder og forstærkes af stereotype kønsrollemønstre.

Hun gennemgår derudover de mange måder, hvorpå vi forsøger at værne os mod sårbarhed. Hun anviser nye veje til at rehumanisere uddannelse og arbejdesliv. Og vier et afsnit til forældrerollen.

Bogen blev en bestseller i USA og er siden udgivelsen i september 2012 forblevet blandt de bedst sælgende bøger på Amazon.
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