Erika V. Shearin Karres, EdD is an award-winning educator, speaker, and author. She taught in the public schools of North Carolina and on the college level as an assistant professor for thirty-five years. "Dr. Erika" received a BA in education, a MEd, and an EdD from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. She is the author of the first edition of Mean Chicks, Cliques, and Dirty Tricks; Violence Proof Your Kids Now; Crushes, Flirts, and Friends; Fab Friends and Best Buds; The Everything Parents' Guide to Raising Girls; and the memoir A German Tale: A Girl Surviving Hitler's Legacy. Her latest book is 121 Strategies for Bully Proofing Your School.
The Smart Discipline system:
Gets kids to do what you ask, the first time you ask
Stops fighting, bickering, and disrespectful language
Ends hassles over homework, chores, messy rooms, and bedtime
Instills positive self-image and builds confidence. . . and much more!
Do you feel like you’re at the end of your rope? Are you exhausted by your kids arguing over every little thing? Finally there’s a name for your feelings: “Parent Frustration Syndrome” (PFS). No kid is perfect, but parents often don’t realize just how much their own thoughts, rather than their children’s behavior, contribute to being emotionally overwhelmed and discouraged.
In Liking the Child You Love, Renowned psychologist Dr. Jeffrey Bernstein offers proven strategies for taming the 9 most common toxic thought patterns that stop us from parenting effectively:
• The “Always or Never” Trap
• Label Gluing
• Seething Sarcasm
• Smoldering Suspicions
• Detrimental Denial
• Emotional Overheating
• Blame Blasting
• “Should” Slamming
• Dooming Conclusions
As you identify and put a stop to PFS’s negative thought patterns, you’ll be amazed at how your kids’ defiant behavior quickly improves, without having to raise your voice or dole out harsh punishments. Soon you will have a closer, calmer, and more loving relationship with your kids—just by changing your own mindset.