Ukhathele ukuchitha isikhathi nozakwethu okugcina kuyiphutha, awukwazi ukuthola umuntu ohambisana naye ongachitha naye impilo yakho. Le mibuzo engama-36 izokushintsha lokho. Ngokusekelwe ocwaningweni lwesayensi olwenziwa yisazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Arthur Aron, ngaphezu kweminyaka eyishumi edlule futhi esasebenzela ubudlelwano namuhla.
Lolu cwaningo, oluyi- priori ngandlela-thile, lusekelwe ekugomeleni kokuthi ngokuba nengxoxo ejulile neqotho, abantu ababili bangakha ubuhlobo bomuntu siqu futhi bafinyelele ukuqonda abakufunayo. Ngisho ukuthi, ngena othandweni.
Ukuthanda omunye umuntu kuyinqubo engokomzimba neyamakhemikhali evame ukuthonywa izici eziningi. Ukuba sengcupheni okufanayo kukhuthaza ukusondelana, ukuzivumela ukusondela komunye umuntu kungaba nzima kakhulu, ngakho-ke lokhu kuvivinya kuphoqelela lesi sici.
Ucwaningo lunesisekelo sesayensi, esilungiselelwe ngaphezu kweminyaka eyishumi edlule yisazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Arthur Aron, phakathi kwabanye. Esigabeni sabo sokuhlola, bakhethe imibhangqwana eminingi yabantu bobulili obuhlukile, ababengazani nhlobo, ukuthi bahlale babhekane futhi baxoxe ngokuseduze, bephendula imibuzo engama-36 eyenzelwe ucwaningo. Umphumela waphetha ngokuthi omunye waleyo mibhangqwana ushade izinyanga ezingu-6 ngemva kwalowo mhlangano wokuqala.
Lolu cwaningo lusanda kuvela esandleni sikaMandy Len Catron, uprofesa wezincwadi e-Columbia University eVancouver, owachaza isipiliyoni sakhe esihle esihlokweni esishicilelwe ku-New York Times. Uyaqinisekisa ukuthi ezama inhlanhla ngalolu hlu lwemibuzo, wagcina esenobudlelwano nomngane wakhe omdala wasenyuvesi ammema ukuthi abambe iqhaza.
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Okt 20, 2025