Minute Mood is designed to be a tool to communicate, stay connected and track moods in any relationship.
"I wish we were closer."
"I wish I knew what she was thinking."
"He should know what I want. It doesn't do any good if I have to ask for it."
Researchers found marriages are strengthened through cognitive empathy, or perspective-taking — how accurately one partner understands the other partner’s emotions. Staying connected through attunement prevents the deterioration of a relationship when stressed.
Unfortunately, life gets in the way with its stressors, negative communication patterns, and lack of time and energy.
Minute Mood is designed to be a tool to stay connected. With a little time and energy, each partner can "read their partner's mind" during the day. It encourages a key element of communication: the ability to clarify your partner's thoughts and feelings about a given topic. The app discourages immediate response, as our brain processes information better over time. Later in the day, it provides the understanding needed as the basis to resolve conflict.
The app is designed to make you more aware of your partner and feel closer. Start by rating your mood. Then, in the "About Me" section clarify what you are feeling about your day or the relationship. Talk about what you feel, not what your partner is doing or not doing.
Then, in the "About You" section, be curious and clarify what you think your partner feels about their day or the relationship. Make sure you write from your partner's perspective and not yours. Consider what they may be frustrated with, worried about, or sad about.
This is not a place to criticize your partner or defend yourself. Over time it will have a negative effect on your relationship. When you read what your partner has said do not respond right away. Let it simmer for an hour, or a day.
The app is not meant to replace the following:
Talk and eye contact.
Touch and affection.
Time having fun.
Tokens that say I'm thinking of you.
Tasks that say I love you.
Marriages fed by daily routines are better than occasional date nights!