Have you ever wondered what your partner's long-term relationship goals might be? Have you wondered if they have a good time in bed? Or have you just wondered what's going on in their heads? If you answered yes, then you need this list of questions for couples to help you get on the same page.
Whether you're asking each other fun questions on a date or getting into details about the future, it's extremely important for couples to have conversations both big and small, says Valeria West, MHC-LP, psychotherapist and owner of Intuitive Healing Psychotherapy Practice. "There can be powerful stories that come from even a few questions that seem silly or inconsequential," she tells Bustle. “When couples learn about their partner’s inner world in a meaningful and deep way, it allows them to feel more connected.
When you've been with your partner for a while, it's easy to assume that you know everything there is to know about them. After all, you've spent countless nights recounting your dreams, your fears, your childhood memories, your embarrassing moments, your favorite sandwich toppings, etc. Plus, you've made incredible memories and been side by side through all the ups and downs. You understand yourself.
These conversation starters will help you learn more about their interests and whatever is currently occupying their mental domain.
It's healthy to learn more about the narratives that shaped your partner's worldview and yes, that includes exes. Their ex-partners are an important part of their story and tell their relationship patterns. If you haven't had time to delve into their past, there's no time like the present.