Keep in mind the basic human needs such as eating, sleeping, getting and giving love, etc. Think about how you meet generally.
How long you stop to wait for other people to give you what you need? How often does this approach work? Rarely, right?
There is a better formula: love yourself every day. When you love yourself, your emotional vitality vibrates a "cleaner" way and at a higher frequency.
And as you want yourself more, you will begin to be able to share that love with others too.