Tend helps you get through the days after a breakup. Count your no-contact days, write down what you feel, and check a message before you send it to your ex. It looks like a paper diary, and everything stays on your phone.
Count your no-contact days
• Your day count grows on Home, and a small sprout grows with it.
• If you reach out, tap "I reached out to them" and start again. The days you had still count, and the sprout keeps its leaves.
• Milestones mark the days that matter.
Should I text my ex?
• Type the message you want to send. Tend reads it and suggests whether to send it, wait a day, or leave it, with the reasons.
• Tend never sends anything to your ex. You decide.
A private breakup journal
• Write, or use Voice to Text and speak. Tend never records audio.
• Ask for a short AI reflection on an entry when you want one.
• Log your mood with one tap and see the trend in Insights.
Gentle reminders
• One daily check-in at a time you pick, and a note when you reach a milestone. Tend never warns you about losing a streak.
• Home Screen and Lock Screen widgets show your day count.
Your diary stays with you
• You don't need an account. Your days, journal and moods are stored on your phone.
• Nothing is sent to the AI until you allow it, and you can turn AI features off in Profile.
• Export your data anytime, or erase everything from Profile.
What's free
Everything above is free, including 2 message checks and 2 AI reflections each week. Tend Plus adds:
• Unlimited message checks
• An AI reflection on every journal entry
• A Scrapbook PDF of your journey to print or keep
• Your full mood history
• A larger widget
Monthly and Annual plans start with a 14-day free trial. Lifetime is a one-time purchase.
If you're not okay
Tend is a self-help app, not therapy or medical care. If you're in crisis, Tend shows helplines you can call right away. The Find support screen is always free.
Tend is available in English and Vietnamese.
Track no contact, keep a breakup journal, and check a text before you send it.