Unf*ck Your Anger: Using Science to Understand Frustration, Rage, and Forgiveness

Faith G. Harper

Jan 2020 · Blackstone Publishing · Narrated by Erin Bennett

About this audiobook

If you’ve ever been so pissed off that you did things that you regretted, or ruined your own day and some other people’s too, this book is for you. Or if you feel angry every single day and it’s affecting your health and sleep and love of life. Or if you have very good reasons to be mad as hell, and you aren’t going to take it anymore. Or if you’ve repressed your anger all your life and now it’s all coming out at once. Microcosm Publishing bestseller Dr. Faith explains here what the hell is going on in your brain and how to retrain yourself to deal with enraging situations more productively and without torpedoing your relationships.

Unf*ck Your Anger gives you a heady dose of neuroscience and cultural explanation of what anger is and what it does to you, and then gives you a handy four-step checklist to help you deal with maddening situations after (or before) the fact, guidance on getting over things, and a chapter on forgiveness. Your brain actually knows what it’s doing, and anger can be a good thing sometimes—just not if it’s ruining your life.

Ratings and reviews

A good and helpful book, but I felt it didn't end on a good note for me. The "types of forgiveness" section was too short and didn't touch on what kind of things can't be forgiven, thereby leaving me to irritated to focus on it. Or what happens if something is done that you can't bring yourself to forgive. She mentions her husband's grandmother survived Nazi Germany but never spoke about if the grandmother was willing to forgive or not. I'd have liked to hear about the difference between traumatic anger, like a sexual assault as a child, versus quick anger, like getting chewed out by your boss for something stupid.

About the author

Faith G. Harper is a bad-ass, funny lady with a PhD. She is a licensed professional counselor, board supervisor, certified sexologist, and applied clinical nutritionist with a private practice and a consulting and training business in San Antonio, Texas. She has been an adjunct professor and a TEDx presenter and proudly identifies as a woman of color and uppity, intersectional feminist. She is the author of several highly popular “five-minute therapy” zines on subjects such as anxiety, depression, and grief.

Erin Bennett is an award-winning, Los Angeles-based voice actress whose passion for storytelling informs her love of narrating audiobooks. An AudioFile Earphones winner, she has recorded 130 titles for Penguin Random House, Hachette, Harper, Blackstone, Recorded Books, Tantor, Deyan, Dreamscape, and Audible, among others. Her genres vary widely, from literary fiction to mysteries to science fiction to memoir, as well as nonfiction, multicast recordings, and romance. Her recent on-camera work includes Grandfathered on FOX and Children's Hospital on Adult Swim, and her voice-over work spans animation, radio plays for the BBC, video games, and commercials for radio and television.