Dariia Shevchenko
I regret buying this book. The author's approach to dividing children of emotionally immature parents into internalizers and externalizers and addressing behavior of internalizers as the only one that deserves "real attention" is awful. I, as partially an externalizer myself feel again that I am not accepted. I only felt more excluded then I was after reading this. The more I read, the more unlovable and wrong I feel, as if my way of coping is something I should be ashamed of, as if I'm wrong and bad in my core. That's sad. I don't know why she arranged the book this way, and I paid for this.
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Charlie Hoffkins
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I hated this book isn't really an honest heading for this read... I simply don't agree with the content in total. When are adult children going to stop blaming their parents for their own failures of financial and emotional short comings...??? The sooner we start being more compassionate to the fact we are all human beings with baggage, the better we'll be truly compassionate instead of spinning the blame game to gain reason!
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M. K.
It's a very good and helpful book, but take into consideration that it mainly deals with neurotypical behaviors and communication styles. Unfortunately it fails to take into account that some behaviors by neurodivergent people could be mistaken for being emotionally immature. For example answering a person's story with an experience of themselves is a way neurodivergent people often relate to others, without trying to be self-centering, its meant to be more of a 'I see you, I've been there, I understand how you're feeling.' Neurodivergent people are already marginalized enough, the stigma of 'emotionally immature' shouldnt be added to that.