Bridget and Carlton are as close as any sister and brother. But their relationship is particularly special. Carlton has autism and is almost completely nonverbal. Heβs smart, funny, creative, and loving. He has immense challenges in speaking full sentences. Bridgetβs fierce loyalty to and compassion for her brother led to an unbreakable bond that has helped the siblings cope with divorce and homelessness. Carltonβs devotion to his family is loud and clear, even in his silence.
Carlton Hudgens was diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder at three years old. He didnβt speak or interact with the world around him, except with humming and flapping arms. The diagnosis provided a label, but not an answer. He was considered low-functioning, but all that meant was that there was a laundry list of tasks he couldnβt do, and little recognition of what he could.
Carltonβs sister, Bridget, just a year younger, became his protector, sharing their birthdays so that he could open the presents first, taking the blame for a broken toy to spare him from being punished on Christmas Day. She understood that she was living in Carltonβs world, not the other way around.
Because Carlton doesnβt speak in full sentences, Bridget has opted to tell his story. βMy brother is brilliant in every way,β Bridget says. βHe just doesnβt speak like we speak.β
When Carlton was five years old, he uttered his first words: βI love you, Mom!β Bridget was elated. That sentence meant that he could hear her, that he could speak, and that she had a chance to reach her ultimate goal of bonding with her brother.
Bridget was his protector, but Carlton became Bridgetβs savior.
When Bridget was eleven years old, she and Carlton went to the public pool. Carlton was a natural swimmer, but Bridget couldnβt swim at all. As the two played a game in the shallow end, they drifted closer to the deep end. Bridget panicked, swallowing water and crying for help. Carlton swam to her and pulled her to safety. No longer was he different, with special needs, or βthat kid with autism.β To Bridget, he was the big brother who had just saved her.
Later on, he became a savior to others. Autism didnβt stop him feeling compassion and love. It just made it harder for him to express those emotions.
Their parentsβ divorce and the subsequent remarriage of their mother created a more stable life for Carlton, but Bridget had a hard time accepting the good changes. She had put herself second for so long, it was difficult to allow an adult to take over the care of her brother.
By early adulthood, Bridget began to realize that the most fulfilling part of her life was forming a deeper connection with Carltonβan unbreakable bond that would shape brother and sister for the rest of their lives. It was Carltonβs influence that led to her passion for helping others with special needs.