ENDLESS LOVE, ROMANCE , AND INTIMACY
Kuhusu kitabu pepe hiki
as if it were an obscenity. We reluctantly admit to it.
Even saying the word makes us stumble and blush ...
Love is the most important thing in our lives, a passion for which we would fight or die, and yet we’re
reluctant to linger over its names. Without a supple
vocabulary, we can’t even talk or think about it
directly.
As the title ENDLESS LOVE, ROMANCE, AND intimacy
: indicates, we
want to live in a culture where love can flourish. We yearn
to end the lovelessness that is so pervasive in our society.
This book tells us how to return to love. ENDLESS LOVE, ROMANCE, AND intimacy
:
provides radical new ways to think about
the art of loving, offering a hopeful, joyous vision of love's
transformative power. it lets us know what we must do
to love again. Gathering love’s wisdom, it lets us know
what we must do to be touched by love’s grace.
THERE ARE NOT many public discussions of love in
our culture right now. At best, popular culture is the one
domain in which our longing for love is talked about.
Movies, music, magazines, and books are the place where
we turn to hear our yearnings for love expressed. Yet the
talk is not the life-affirming discourse of the sixties and
seventies, which urged us to believe “All you need is love.”
Nowadays the most popular messages are those that declare the meaningless of love, its irrelevance. A glaring ex
ample of this cultural shift was the tremendous popularity
of Tina Turner’s song with the title boldly declaring,
“What’s Love Got to Do with it.” I was saddened and
appalled when I interviewed a well-known female rapper
at least twenty years my junior who, when asked about
love, responded with biting sarcasm, “Love, what’s that—
have never had any love in my life.”
Youth culture today is cynical about love. And that cynicism has come from their pervasive feeling that love can-
not be found. Expressing this concern in When All You've
ever Wanted isn’t Enough, Harold Kushner writes: “lam
afraid that we may be raising a generation of young people who will grow up afraid to love, afraid to give them-
selves completely to another person, because they will
have seen how much it hurts to take the risk of loving and
have it not work out. | am afraid that they will grow up
looking for intimacy without risk, for pleasure without
significant emotional investment. They will be so fearful
of the pain of disappointment that they will forgo the possibilities of love and joy.” Young people are cynical about
love. Ultimately, cynicism is the great mask of the disappointed and betrayed heart.
When I travel around the nation giving lectures about
ending racism and sexism, audiences, especially young listeners, become agitated when I speak about the place of
love in any movement for social justice.
