It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

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A groundbreaking approach to transforming traumatic legacies passed down in families over generations, by an acclaimed expert in the field
 
Depression. Anxiety. Chronic Pain. Phobias. Obsessive thoughts. The evidence is compelling: the roots of these difficulties may not reside in our immediate life experience or in chemical imbalances in our brains—but in the lives of our parents, grandparents, and even great-grandparents. The latest scientific research, now making headlines, supports what many have long intuited—that traumatic experience can be passed down through generations. It Didn’t Start with You builds on the work of leading experts in post-traumatic stress, including Mount Sinai School of Medicine neuroscientist Rachel Yehuda and psychiatrist Bessel van der Kolk, author of The Body Keeps the Score. Even if the person who suffered the original trauma has died, or the story has been forgotten or silenced, memory and feelings can live on. These emotional legacies are often hidden, encoded in everything from gene expression to everyday language, and they play a far greater role in our emotional and physical health than has ever before been understood.
 
As a pioneer in the field of inherited family trauma, Mark Wolynn has worked with individuals and groups on a therapeutic level for over twenty years. It Didn’t Start with You offers a pragmatic and prescriptive guide to his method, the Core Language Approach. Diagnostic self-inventories provide a way to uncover the fears and anxieties conveyed through everyday words, behaviors, and physical symptoms. Techniques for developing a genogram or extended family tree create a map of experiences going back through the generations. And visualization, active imagination, and direct dialogue create pathways to reconnection, integration, and reclaiming life and health. It Didn’t Start With You is a transformative approach to resolving longstanding difficulties that in many cases, traditional therapy, drugs, or other interventions have not had the capacity to touch.


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Mark Wolynn is a leading expert on inherited family trauma. As the director of The Family Constellation Institute in San Francisco, he has trained thousands of clinicians and treated thousands more patients struggling with depression, anxiety, panic disorder, obsessive thoughts, self-injury, chronic pain, and illness. A sought-after lecturer, he leads workshops at hospitals, clinics, conferences, and teaching centers around the world. He has taught at the University of Pittsburgh, the Western Psychiatric Institute, Kripalu, The Omega Institute, The New York Open Center, and The California Institute of Integral Studies. His articles have appeared in Elephant Journal and Psych Central, and his poetry has been published in The New Yorker.


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Penguin
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Published on
Apr 26, 2016
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Pages
256
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ISBN
9781101980378
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Language
English
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Psychology / Mental Health
Psychology / Psychotherapy / Couples & Family
Self-Help / Personal Growth / General
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Donna Jackson Nakazawa
A “courageous, compassionate, and rigorous every-person’s guide” (Christina Bethell, PhD, Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health) that shows the link between Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and adult illnesses such as heart disease, autoimmune disease, and cancer—Childhood Disrupted also explains how to cope and heal from these emotional traumas.

Your biography becomes your biology. The emotional trauma we suffer as children not only shapes our emotional lives as adults, but it also affects our physical health, longevity, and overall wellbeing. Scientists now know on a bio-chemical level exactly how parents’ chronic fights, divorce, death in the family, being bullied or hazed, and growing up with a hypercritical, alcoholic, or mentally ill parent can leave permanent, physical “fingerprints” on our brains.

When children encounter sudden or chronic adversity, stress hormones cause powerful changes in the body, altering the body’s chemistry. The developing immune system and brain react to this chemical barrage by permanently resetting children’s stress response to “high,” which in turn can have a devastating impact on their mental and physical health as they grow up.

Donna Jackson Nakazawa shares stories from people who have recognized and overcome their adverse experiences, shows why some children are more immune to stress than others, and explains why women are at particular risk. “Groundbreaking” (Tara Brach, PhD, author of Radical Acceptance) in its research, inspiring in its clarity, Childhood Disrupted explains how you can reset your biology—and help your loved ones find ways to heal. “A truly important gift of understanding—illuminates the heartbreaking costs of childhood trauma and like good medicine offers the promising science of healing and prevention” (Jack Kornfield, author of A Path With Heart).
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Husbands and wives rarely have the same love language. The key to a long lasting marriage is learning to speak a spouse’s primary love language. If a person wants their spouse to feel the expression of love they are trying to communicate, it must be expressed in that spouse’s primary love language.

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The word love is the most important and confusing word in the English language as it is often used to describe feelings not only for people, but for objects and pets as well. It is also often used to justify inappropriate behaviors or character flaws. This causes some confusion as to what loving behavior truly is.

To feel loved is a primary human need. Children need to feel love and affection or they tend to become socially or emotionally challenged. Much of the misbehavior of children can be attributed to an empty ‘love tank’. Even when physical needs are met, a person’s love tank still needs to be filled. The emotional need for love continues into adulthood and marriage. Before examining love languages, it is important to understand the euphoria that is experienced when a person falls in love.

Mark Wolynn
 Depresszió. Szorongás. Krónikus fájdalom. Fóbiák. Rögeszmés gondolatok. Vajon lehetséges, hogy e nehézségek gyökereit nem az életünk során átélt élményeinkben vagy az agyunk kémiai egyensúlyának felborulásában kell keresnünk, hanem a szüleink, a nagyszüleink, sőt, akár a dédszüleink történetében? A bizonyítékok elsöprő erejűek. Az elmúlt néhány év során végzett tudományos kutatások alátámasztják azt, amit már régóta sejtettünk: a traumás élmények örökölhetők. Lehet, hogy az, aki az eredeti traumát elszenvedte, már meghalt, vagy a történet feledésbe merült, az emlékek és az érzések azonban tovább élhetnek. Bele vannak kódolva a génjeinkbe, és felbukkannak a mindennapi nyelvhasználatunkban. Az örökölt családi traumák területének úttörőjeként Mark Wolynn több mint húsz éve végez terápiás munkát egyénekkel és csoportokkal. Örökölt családminták című könyvéből megismerhetjük módszerét, az alapnyelvezet feltárásán alapuló megközelítést. A diagnosztikai célú leltárkészítés révén feltárhatjuk a mindennapos szóhasználatunkban, a viselkedésmintáinkban és a fizikai tüneteinkben alakot öltő félelmeket és szorongásokat. A kötetben bemutatott technikákkal feltérképezhetők a generációkra visszakövethető élmények, a vizualizáció és a közvetlen dialógus eszközei pedig segítenek kiépíteni az utat, melyen haladva helyrehozhatjuk az életünket és az egészségünket. Kideríthetjük, hogy a traumás örökségek hatása sokkal fontosabb szerepet játszik az érzelmi és fizikai egészségünkben, mint eddig gondoltuk. A szerző módszere lehetőséget nyújt olyan régóta fennálló nehézségek leküzdésére is, amelyek sok esetben ellenállnak a hagyományos terápiás és gyógyszeres kezeléseknek. Mark Wolynn az amerikai The Family Constellation Institute alapítója és igazgatója. Számos pszichiátriai képzési központban, klinikán, kórházban és intézetben tanított. Cikkei az Elephant Journal és a Psych Central című szaklapokban, költeményei pedig a The New Yorkerben jelentek meg. Jelenleg a San Francisco-öböl közelében él. 
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