Conflict Communication: A New Paradigm in Conscious Communication

Rory Miller

Mar 2016 · YMAA Publication Center, Inc.

About this ebook

Your reactions to conflict are subconscious, scripted, and for the good of the group.

Conflict happens everywhere: at work, with friends and family, among strangers, and certainly in violence. Why did your boss ignore a suggestion that could save millions of dollars? Why do you have the same argument again and again with your spouse? When someone insults you, why do you get angry? Why do bad guys beat up the weak?

You have three brains. • Lizard brain (survival) • Monkey brain (emotion / social status) • Human brain (reason)

Each “brain” has a different priority and evolved to deal with different kinds of conflict. They work using different scripts and have a very clear seniority system.

Conflict Communication (ConCom) presents a functional taxonomy to see, understand, and manipulate the roots of life’s conflicts. You will have the background, the principles, and a collection of tricks to manage and ideally avoid dangerous conflicts.

No going back. After reading this book, you can never go back. Even if you reject everything in the program, even if you refuse to admit how often your monkey brain has controlled your life, escalations toward conflict will never again be invisible to you.

As the fortune cookie says, “Your life is about to change.”

Ratings and reviews

This book completely opens ones eyes to the structure of modern communication, and heels to understand what may be in the way of effective problem willing in groups. Massively useful, and shows immediate results regarding your efficiency in getting things done with others.

This book changed the way I deal with everything.

Great book, helps in all kinds of communication.

About the author

Rory Miller has been studying martial arts since 1981. He's a bestselling writer and a veteran corrections officer. Miller is the author of best-selling books Meditations on Violence and Facing Violence. He has won the USA Book Award, Eric Hoffer Book Award, ForeWord Reviews Book of the Year Award, USA Best Book Award, and Next Generation Indie Book Award, He's taught and designed courses on Use of Force Policy and Decision Making; Police Defensive Tactics; Confrontational Simulations; and as a sergeant, he led and trained his former agency's Corrections Tactical Team. In 2008 and 2009, he taught methods to operate a secure prison for the Iraqi Corrections Systems, Iraq. Rory Miller resides near Portland, Oregon.