-- How to prepare financially to stand on your own two feet;
-- What the court can, and cannot do for you;
-- 'Legwork' that can save you money on legal fees and help you get a better outcome;
-- How much child support and alimony you might be entitled to receive;
-- Custody disputes … 'fatal flaws' and how you can fix them.
-- How to show a judge that your spouse is lying about their assets and income;
-- What property you are entitled to receive … and should ask for;
-- Ways vindictive ex-spouses can hide money … and how to prove they are lying;
-- Real life dirty tricks, traps, and pitfalls highlighted so you can avoid them;
-- How to find a good attorney (if you can afford one), save money on legal fees, or combine “a la carte” legal advice with your own efforts if you can't afford to hire a full-service attorney;
-- Mediation and court-connected Alternative Dispute Resolution … benefits and pitfalls;
-- How to dig up information your spouse doesn't want you to know (discovery) like an attorney;
-- Common court forms and how to fill them out;
-- Separation Agreements dissected and clarified; including two blank fill-in-the form boilerplates which you can download and use in your own divorce;
-- Sample discovery requests and motions – we’ll dissect each motion and show what information you can use it to get;
-- Sample hearing scripts for common court hearings (including Restraining Order hearings, Temporary Order hearings, Custody Dispute hearings, Contempt hearings, and parts of a mock-Trial);
-- Restraining orders … how to get one … how to keep one;
Filled with helpful examples of common court forms and legal pleadings, this book will introduce you to everything you NEVER wanted to know about divorce … but need to come up to speed … FAST!!! This is the only self-help legal book written by a woman who was once in your shoes who later went back to school to become an attorney!
BONUS: links to download, edit and print blank Separation Agreement forms.
The 6th Edition has been completely updated with the latest case law, including ways to sensitively handle a Christian divorce, caveats regarding same-sex couple custody disputes post-Obergefell, and a completely rewritten Separation Agreement chapter with suggested clauses for unusual situations such as extraordinary school fees, private school or homeschooling.
Book 1 of the "Divorce Bootcamp Self-Help Legal series"
KIRKUS: “A solid, informative self-help divorce guide. This exhaustive…guide covers a range of topics related to contested and uncontested divorces, including how to gather documentation of assets, estimate child support and alimony, and even, if necessary, obtain restraining orders. She discusses many topics related to asset division and child custody, including marital debt and visitation rights. The book is aimed at the broadest possible audience, but also discusses variations in state laws.” (Review of the 5th Edition).
Legal Disclaimer: This book is not meant to constitute legal advice. The author is licensed to practice law in Massachusetts. Links have been provided to direct women to their local court resources in all 50 states, but the court forms, case histories and property division examples used are loosely based upon Massachusetts examples. This book is NOT a replacement for consultation with a licensed local attorney.
Anna T. Merrill practices family law, intellectual property law, and municipal 'green' zoning law on Cape Cod, Massachusetts. She is passionate about providing affordable, sensible legal services for 'real' people who the mainstream legal system has forgotten. She serves men and women equally, but volunteers her time to various agencies to help low- and moderate-income people access the legal system. She teaches a four-hour 'Divorce Bootcamp' seminar with on-your-feet exercises to people contemplating divorce.
In The High-Conflict Custody Battle, a team of legal and psychology experts present a practical guidebook for people like you who are engaged in a high-conflict custody battle. If you are dealing with an overtly hostile, inflammatory, deceitful, or manipulative ex-spouse, you will learn how to find and work with an attorney and prepare for a custody evaluation. The book also provides helpful tips you can use to defend yourself against false accusations, and gives a realistic portrayal of what to expect during a legal fight.
Going through a divorce is hard, but going through a custody battle can feel like war. Don’t go in unprepared. With this book as your guide, you will be able to navigate this difficult process and learn powerful skills that will help you maintain a healthy relationship with your kids, fight unfair accusations, and uphold your rights as a parent.
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Informed by compelling evidence, personal experience, and what abused women themselves say about their needs, Mills proposes no less than a fundamentally new system. Addressing the real dynamics of intimate abuse and incorporating proven methods of restorative justice, Mills's approach focuses on healing and transformation rather than shame or punishment. Already the subject of heated controversy, Insult to Injury offers a desperately needed and powerful means for using what we know to reduce violence in our homes.