He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

Greg Behrendt · Liz Tuccillo

Oct 2004 · Sold by Simon and Schuster

About this eBook

He’s Just Not That Into You—based on a popular episode of Sex and the City—is tough love advice for otherwise smart women on how to tell when a guy just doesn’t like them enough, so they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationship. It’s the best relationship advice you’ll ever receive.

For ages, women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men.

He’s afraid to get hurt again.
Maybe he doesn’t want to ruin the friendship.
Maybe he’s intimidated by me.
He just got out of a relationship.

Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that—despite good intentions—you’re wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they’d like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages.

The truth may be, He’s just not that into you.

Unfortunately, guys are too terrified to ever directly tell a woman, “You're not the one.” But their actions absolutely show how they feel.

Reexamining familiar scenarios and classic mindsets that keep us in unsatisfying relationships, Behrendt and Tuccillo’s wise and wry understanding of the sexes spares women hours of waiting by the phone, obsessing over the details with sympathetic girlfriends, and hoping his mixed messages really mean, “I’m in love with you and want to be with you.”

He’s Just Not That Into You is provocative, hilarious, and, above all, intoxicatingly liberating. It deserves a place on every woman’s night table. It knows you’re a beautiful, smart, funny woman who deserves better. The next time you feel the need to start “figuring him out,” consider the glorious thought that maybe, He’s just not that into you. And then set yourself loose to go find the one who is.

Ratings and reviews

I'll first admit that I'm a guy dating a guy. Now that I've said that, I'll continue with my comments. I think were a lot of funny moments in the book. I didn't really think that the author's "poll" of a few male friends had much relevence and shouldn't be factored in when deciding whether to break up with a guy or not. Still, there were a lot of good points to be made. We all have the right to feel special and loved. This book can inspire some to find that.

This is an easy read over lunch or a rainy day. I'm married so I read it because all of my girlfriends talk about it. I didn't learn anything new... just common sense stuff. Its fun.

I'm possibly not the best person to judge this book, because I'm in a relationship & I'm a bit cynical about relationships & love. I liked the set up of the book, & it was easy to read (questions from woman, followed by answers from the author), then summarized at the end of the chapter. I overall thought that this book didn't teach me anything that wasn't common sense, but it was funny, & an easy read.

About the author

Comedian Greg Behrendt was a consultant for three consecutive seasons on Sex and the City. His acclaimed stand-up comedy has been seen on HBO, Comedy Central Presents..., The Tonight Show, Late Show with David Letterman, and Late Night with Conan O'Brien. He lives in Los Angeles with his wife and daughter.

Liz Tuccillo was an executive story editor of HBO's Emmy-winning Sex and the City and has also written for Off Broadway. She is currently living and dating in New York City.