I Should Have Honor: A Memoir of Hope and Pride in Pakistan

Khalida Brohi

Sep 2018 · Sold by Random House

About this ebook

A fearless memoir about tribal life in Pakistan—and the act of violence that inspired one ambitious young woman to pursue a life of activism and female empowerment

“Khalida Brohi understands the true nature of honor. She is fearless in her pursuit of justice and equality.”—Malala Yousafzai, winner of the Nobel Peace Prize

From a young age, Khalida Brohi was raised to believe in the sanctity of arranged marriage. Her mother was forced to marry a thirteen-year-old boy when she was only nine; Khalida herself was promised as a bride before she was even born. But her father refused to let her become a child bride. He was a man who believed in education, not just for himself but for his daughters, and Khalida grew up thinking she would become the first female doctor in her small village. Khalida thought her life was proceeding on an unusual track for a woman of her circumstances, but one whose path was orderly and straightforward.

Everything shifted for Khalida when she found out that her beloved cousin had been murdered by her uncle in a tradition known as “honor killing.” Her cousin’s crime? She had fallen in love with a man who was not her betrothed. This moment ignited the spark in Khalida Brohi that inspired a globe-spanning career as an activist, beginning at the age of sixteen. From a tiny cement-roofed room in Karachi where she was allowed ten minutes of computer use per day, Brohi started a Facebook campaign that went viral. From there, she created a foundation focused on empowering the lives of women in rural communities through education and employment opportunities, while crucially working to change the minds of their male partners, fathers, and brothers.

This book is the story of how Brohi, while only a girl herself, shone her light on the women and girls of Pakistan, despite the hurdles and threats she faced along the way. And ultimately, she learned that the only way to eradicate the parts of a culture she despised was to fully embrace the parts of it that she loved.

Praise for I Should Have Honor

“Khalida Brohi’s moving story is a testament to what is possible no matter the odds. In her courageous activism and now in I Should Have Honor, Khalida gives a voice to the women and girls who are denied their own by society. This book is a true act of honor.”—Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook and founder of LeanIn.Org and OptionB.Org

Ratings and reviews

A young woman, paints a very picturesque view of rural Pakistan, but is completely naive in making no link to her religion and the honour killing of women. It was sad to hear that she was delighted when her husband converted to Islam to be married to her. This woman is no activist for women's rights in our modern world. If you want to read or hear about a mighty female activist, then turn to Ayaan Hirsi Ali.

About the author

Khalida Brohi is an award-winning activist and entrepreneur. Her nonprofit, Sughar, unleashes leadership skills and economic power in tribal women in Pakistan. Brohi has been named one of Newsweek’s “25 Under-25 Young Women to Watch” and Forbes’s “30 Under 30” for social entrepreneurship, and she was a Director’s Fellow at the MIT Media Lab. She has received the Coretta Scott King A.N.G.E.L. Award from the King Center and the inaugural Buffett Award for Emerging Global Leaders from Northwestern University. Brohi has addressed numerous global forums, such as TEDGlobal, the Clinton Global Initiative, Women in the World, Davos, the World Affairs Council, Google’s Zeitgeist, and Facebook’s Women’s Leadership Day. In 2015 Brohi and her husband, David, co-founded The Chai Spot and later Otaq LLC, which promote the beautiful aspects of Brohi’s cultural heritage while uplifting women and children in Pakistan in order to create healthy lives and eradicate damaging customs. She has served on the board of directors of the International Youth Foundation and is currently executive director of the Sughar Foundation. She and her husband split their time between the United States and Pakistan.