Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist

Ramani Durvasula, Ph.D.

Nov 2015 · Post Hill Press

About this ebook

Narcissism is a modern epidemic, and it’s spreading rapidly. But how do you know if you are in a relationship with one—and, what can you do about it? We live in a world of romance and rescue, where many believe love will conquer all, and that the more we endure unacceptable behavior, the more likely that we can “fix” our relationships. It doesn’t always work that way—despite what the fairy tales tell us. There are a few hard facts about pathological narcissism that most people don’t know and most psychologists will never tell you. Should I Stay or Should I Go? uses checklists, clinical wisdom, and real stories from real people to prepare you for the real terrain of pathological narcissism. It raises the red flags to watch for and provides a realistic roadmap for difficult situations to help you reclaim yourself, find healing, and live an authentic and empowered life. Whether you stay. Or go.

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This book helped me find happiness within my relationship. Its helped me forgive myself for not knowing better & find joy even when my partner isn't joyous. It's one of the few books that is realistic all while giving hope. I began my journey before reading this but I didn't truly feel that I was on the right path until after reading this book.

My sister loves this book. It has helped her to realize that her husband's characteristics point towards narcissism. And it's helping her in seeing where narcissism comes from. I knew she was going through a lot & I had seen some of Dr. Durasula's videos on YouTube. This book won't be for everyone, but people who believe they may have a narcissist in their lives will appreciate this book.

About the author

Dr. Ramani Durvasula is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice in Santa Monica, CA and Professor of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, where she was named Outstanding Professor in 2012. Dr. Durvasula has been featured in television series on Oxygen, Bravo, Lifetime Movie Network, National Geographic, History Channel, Discovery Science, and Investigation Discovery, and is a featured TV and radio commentator on many national networks, including NBC’s Today Show, CNN, HLN, and Fox. Her expert commentary has been cited in a wide range of publications, including The New York Times, Chicago Tribune, Los Angeles Times, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Men’s Health, and The Guardian, as well as a regular column in Muses & Visionaries Magazine and she has published numerous peer-reviewed journal articles, book chapters, and scientific conference papers. Personality disorders are a central focus of Dr. Durvasula’s research and clinical practice, and she works with men and women on managing these issues as partners, employees, and parents. Dr. Durvasula brings a unique expertise and voice as a professor, clinician, researcher, author, and media commentator.