The Game of Desire: 5 Surprising Secrets to Dating with Dominance—and Getting What You Want

Shan Boodram

Jul 2019 · HarperCollins

About this ebook

“Forget what you think you know about dating—sexologist Shan Boodram is here to take you back to school.” - Apple Books Review

“Boodram’s brand of relationship advice...focuses on empowering single women with the tools they need to succeed in the digital dating era.” - Refinery29

Women: gain control and confidence in your love lives and find the relationship you want with this modern, life-changing guide from the certified sex educator, intimacy expert, and YouTube personality.

For younger generations, dating is a complicated mystery. Apps like Tinder and Bumble are supposed to foster connection, but instead serve as a reminder of how painfully single we are.

Certified sexologist and intimacy coach Shan Boodram—the most sought-after sex educator on the internet—is about to change all that. In this essential how-to guide, she addresses the realities of life today—when the rules of love and attraction are fluid—and teaches a group of young women how to become master daters in just sixty days.

It starts with you. Shan makes clear that love and self-discovery go hand in hand—your dating life is just as much about you as it is about other people. She challenges you to look inside yourself for what you want out of a partner, a relationship and, most important, yourself. Once you figure out what you want from dating, she shows you exactly how to get it. The Game of Desire empowers you to take the lead, learn your strengths, and identify and correct your weaknesses, all the while getting inspired watching a group of women learn how to succeed in today’s dating pool.

While many books tell women why they can’t get a date, Shan teaches you the skills and techniques necessary to take charge in today’s competitive and often confusing dating scene, providing the tools essential to attract—and retain—the partner(s) you want. From learning love languages to debunking dating myths, she helps women build knowledge and confidence.

Featuring conversational case studies, comprehensive facts about the psychology of sex and romance, and expert insight into sex culture, and written with her trademark humor and charm, The Game of Desire is a must for all of Shan’s fans and for every woman struggling to feel loved and desired.

Ratings and reviews

Wow. Shan did an amazing job with this book. I knew I would enjoy it, but her writing style is so wonderfully crafted. Blunt, funny, vulnerable and easy to disgest. Going through a process like this with 6 easy to love woman made it that much more creative, fun and addictive to read. Like the feeling of talking intimately with your friends about their love lives. Great advise in here, and I'm already starting to adapt it into my own life. You bet I feel sexy AF because of it. I super recommend this! 👍✨💕

This book gave me insight and a greater vocabulary to express my needs and wants. I'd recommend this book for anyone but especially to those on a journey of self-discovery who need help discovering what they're doing wrong. As an INFP I identified strongly with Priscilla and Stephanie. I first discovered Shannon on YouTube. Her website is amazing too. Thank you so much!

For an introverted, low self esteem lady like myself I appreciated the content in this book alongside the relatable writing style. Will reflect on this often !

About the author

Shannon Boodram is a Los Angeles-based sex educator, popular YouTube personality, and intimacy expert. Boodram has appeared on The View, MTV, E!, Fox News, CNN, The New York Times, Forbes, and TIME Magazine. She is a contributing writer for Freeform’s original series, The Bold Type and the host of Facebook original show Make Up Or Break Up. She lives in Los Angeles.