Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder, Edition 2

Paul Mason · Randi Kreger

Jan 2010 · New Harbinger Publications

About this eBook

Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to? Are you the focus of intense, violent, and irrational rages? Do you feel you are "walking on eggshells" to avoid the next confrontation?

If the answer is "yes," someone you care about may have borderline personality disorder (BPD). Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped nearly half a million people with friends and family members suffering from BPD understand this destructive disorder, set boundaries, and help their loved ones stop relying on dangerous BPD behaviors. This fully revised edition has been updated with the very latest BPD research and includes coping and communication skills you can use to stabilize your relationship with the BPD sufferer in your life.

This compassionate guide will enable you to:

Make sense out of the chaos

Stand up for yourself and assert your needs

Defuse arguments and conflicts

Protect yourself and others from violent behavior

Ratings and reviews

If you are in a very emotional and extremely painful place in your relationship, it's easy to feel many of these feelings... Borderline might be if. But alcoholism, sex and love addiction, drug, gambling, etc... It would be similar. It would Be similar if in a domestically volatile relationship ... Violent or verbally abusive. I think it's important to seek a psychiatrist for assistance with this info and diagnosis. Focus on yourself and how you might be a codependent person in a very unhealthy relationship. No matter what... It takes two people to have a failing relationship even if it's mother/daughter or husband/wife. Codependent people have addictive qualities too and that's why they need to focus on themselves. Don't care for this grand sweeping characterization because it overgeneralizea.

This book was written by someone who was in a bad relationship with someone she assumed was borderline. Did research on how others' experiences were. and basically wrote a book demonizing BPD's. My husband read half of your book and suddenly started badmouthing me, telling me Im manipulative and he is now 'taking charge'. I am chronically ill and have Autism, and have difficulty even working up the courage to ask for help to pass the salt if I am in too much pain to do so, now suddely asking for help is manipulative. This book should be banned! You are a destroyer of marriages. You had one bad experience and now we all suffer for it. My husband later appologised and realized your words provoked undeserved anger and treatment. No context is given anywhere. only accussations and misinterpretations. You should be ashamed.

My sister gave this book to my other two sisters when I was diagnosed with BPD. Since then, they have treated me like what I go through is my own fault! Their concern is about themselves and not about making things better. Often their attitude/approach have aggravated my disorder. Therefore, I have chosen to completely disassociate myself from them rather than experience the pain that they thoughtlessly inflict. If you love someone with BPD, DO NOT use this book as your guide! People are not disposable!!

About the author

Paul T. Mason, MS, is vice president of clinical services at Wheaton Franciscan Healthcare in Racine, WI. Under his leadership, the mental health and addiction care service line has expanded the number of inpatient services and outpatient programs it provides for patients, family members, and loved ones affected by borderline personality disorder (BPD). His research on BPD has been published in the Journal of Clinical Psychology and his written work has appeared in the news and print media.

Randi Kreger has brought the concerns of family members who have a loved one with BPD to an international forefront through her website, www.bpdcentral.com, and the Welcome to Oz online support community. Through Eggshells Press, she offers family members a wide variety of more specialized booklets and other materials. She was also instrumental in the formation of the Personality Disorders Awareness Network (PDAN), a not-for-profit organization. Kreger is author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and The Essential Family Member Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder. She speaks and gives workshops about BPD internationally.