Dr. Dan Bochner has been practicing family, couples, adult and child psychotherapy for over 20 years, and is the author of the seminal book The Therapist's Use of Self in Family Therapy (Aronson, 2000). Dr. Bochner has been married for 17 years, and is the father of two boys, aged 16 and 13. “...this book is where the rubber meets the road for the field of psychotherapy.” —Daniel B. Nagelberg, Ph.D. “this manual will help you see your part in the larger machine of life, and in helping yourself, you can make your relationships, and the entire “great life machine,” work just that much better.” —George “Woods” Miller, Psy.D. “I especially appreciate Dr. Bochner’s...“relational systems theory” [which he explains] at a level readily understood by anyone interested in psychology or psychotherapy.” —Arthur D. Colman, M.D. “This is an excellent book, which is full of wisdom...” —Robert C. Rollings, M.D. “Few can inspire insight like Dr. Bochner...” —Keith M. Seibert, M.D.