It seems like just a common, no-harm-done excuse. It can even seem like the truth. But according to Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, it's really a dangerous, self-destructive trap that keeps you from the life you want to live.
Yet there is a way to turn the trap into a launching pad – and it's simpler than you think. Using eight principles, powerful true stories and their years of experience as professional psychologists, this best-selling author duo of Boundaries and other popular books will teach you the one skill you need to make empowering choices and start getting what you want out of your relationships, your career, your life.
Even if you've gotten a raw deal from other people, your DNA or life's circumstances, there is always something you can do to make things better. With the transformational insights in this book, Cloud and Townsend will help you get your focus off what you cannot control and break free from the blame game that sabotages success . . . so that you really can start living the life you choose.
The person who pushes your buttons is likely someone who matters to you – a spouse, a parent, a boss, a fellow church member. Almost always this difficult person is connected to you by blood, love, faith, or money, so you can't just end the relationship without causing pain and upheaval in your life.
Our friends and today's culture will often advise us to abandon such relationships quickly – to end this unpleasant chapter and get on with our lives. Psychologist and author Dr. John Townsend disagrees, "Your button-pusher is not someone you would easily and casually leave. You are intertwined at many levels. It is worth the trouble to take a look at the ways the relationship you had, and want, can be revived and reborn."
In this easy-to-read book he offersExpert insights to help you understand your own button-pusher Wise assistance in determining the nature of the problem Compassionate help in identifying your failed attempts to fix things A hope-filled vision for what can be and how to make it come true Rich resources to help you navigate the necessary changes
Authors Henry Cloud and John Townsend take the principles from their bestselling book, Boundaries, and apply them to a variety of the most common difficult situations and relationships in order to:
• Show how healthy confrontation can improve relationships
• Present the essentials of a good boundary-setting conversation
• Provide tips on preparing for the conversation
• Show how to tell people what you want, stop bad behavior, and deal with counterattack
• Give actual examples of conversations to have with your spouse, your date, your kids, your coworker, your parents, and more!
Full of practical tips and how-tos, this book will help you make your relationships better, deepen your intimacy with people you care for, and cultivate more love, understanding, and respect between you and others.
When you say or hear the words "I love you" it can change your life forever. Love is one of God's most important gifts to anyone, yet there are many misunderstandings about how to make love work in our families, friendships, marriages and dating relationships. In Loving People, best-selling author Dr. John Townsend shows you that love can actually be learned, and gives you the steps and tools to become skilled in love.
Using his trademark stories and illustrations to flesh out the important principles, Dr. Townsend covers:receiving love connecting love healing love confronting love romantic love surrendering love
Through his teaching, readers will discover - and start enjoying - the words, actions, and experiences of authentic love.