Love Decoded Introductory App

Stefan Deutsch

About this app

The Art and Science behind the Power of Love. Learn to love yourself and others UNCONDITIONALLY!
This is a FREE, 45-minute Introductory App to the Love Decoded Mental Health App course, which is all science-based, and incredibly simple to use to get real results, not just promises. 5 minutes a day.
35-years of clinical work – plus, an 18-month-long clinical trial, approved by an Independent Review Board of doctors, along with the research of such giants as: Joan Luby and hippocampus development; Barbara Fredrickson and vagal nerve system development; Eva Selhub, MD and immune system development, in addition to Harville Hendrix, Helen LaKelly-Hunt, Tiffany Field, Jean Watson, etc. all point in the same direction and that is, that Love is not some kind of romantic notion, not an adrenaline-dopamine rush sexual attraction brings forth, that we have confused it with, but the oxytocin, vasopressin, endorphin cocktail that mother’s love generates.
Unconditionally, does not mean put up with people’s bad behavior. On the contrary, when we do that, we’re not being loving to them or ourselves. It means that we tell another, that although they might not have meant to hurt our feeling, they did!, and it is not acceptable. That “the two of us will take a few days, or a few weeks and then you will tell me whether this relationship is important enough for you to stop doing what you did or said.”
But before we get to the communication, we start with exploring our relationship with ourselves. What is it we like about ourselves? What do other people like about us? Most people struggle a bit when asked to come up with even 5 or 10 qualities they like about themselves. The reason is that no one has ever asked us what we like about ourselves. That is considered a kind of self-centered, egotistical exercise that we are supposed to avoid. Yet when we are not clear about our relationship with ourselves it is very easy to hurt our feelings – because we haven’t created a strong, emotional foundation for ourselves.
It also makes us a lot more defensive, and that always leads us into arguments.
Another very important step in our own human development is becoming familiar with our own SELF-TALK. There is a constant ‘inner monologue’ going on that we’re not ever aware if – never mind listen to closely. It is as important as listening to others – so we know when the are being negative with us or positive with us. If people behave negatively, we need to stop it. But if we behave negatively, talk to ourselves negatively, who is going to stop?! Only we can, but only if we are paying attention.
Learning How to envision our goals, whether it is as simple as the outcome of an argument, or buying a house, we need to take the same care, the same thoughtfulness. We were never taught that. How to frame a message so it lands on receptive ears, how to listen so that the upset person feels heard, are all skills that we can learn. All of it takes time – which is why anyone that promises you quick results is a FACELESS LIAR.
Our neuropathways take time to realign and change our habits of reacting. We have to be patient with ourselves. People generally confuse with hearing something or knowing something with being able to do something. We’re very impatient with ourselves. Imagine reading a great book on Tennis or Piano playing and expecting to play great tennis and play the piano flawlessly. Everything in life, especially something as important as our relationship with ourselves and other, is worth putting the time in. To bad our parents and the school system don’t pay attention to this aspect of human development. Even psychotherapist can do a better job teaching us these concepts and tools.
Enjoy the Introductory App – and then commit yourself to yourself – use the 21 weeks to have a fantastic marriage-kids-parents-friends-neighbors-colleagues-physical health in other words LIFE!
To read the 21 Steps, use this link - https://www.love-decoded.com/selfloveappcourse