The Therapist’s Use of Self: Being the Catalyst for Change in Couple and Family Therapy

Matthew D. Selekman

Dec 2023 · Taylor & Francis

About this ebook

This book encourages and trains students and practicing marriage and family therapists to bring themselves into the therapy room, offering guidelines and strategies for being more present and personal with their clients.

Mental health professionals are often taught and trained that therapy is serious business, to be cautious and conservative with therapeutic decision-making, and to stick to empirically supported and specific tools in sessions. What gets lost in this positivistic, formulaic, and scientific way of working are therapists’ own unique voices, their creativity, flexibility, and the sense of playfulness that make the change process fun and upbeat. The Therapist’s Use of Self equips therapists with the skills they need to deepen their alliances with clients, to liberate themselves from an overreliance on models, and to bring their whole selves to the therapeutic encounter. Chapters cover pioneers in the field before exploring ways to bring ideas from outside the therapy room, including from music, art, literature, and film. The book includes a key chapter on teletherapy, and each chapter presents major therapeutic tools and strategies, case examples, the resulting outcomes, and key takeaways.

Students of psychology, social work, nursing, and marriage and family programs, as well as mental health professionals will benefit from this book with a plethora of therapeutic tools, guidelines, and strategies for catalyzing change with even the most challenging couples and families.

About the author

Matthew D. Selekman, MSW, LCSW, is a couple and family therapist in private practice and the director of Partners for Collaborative Solutions, an international family therapy training and consulting firm in Evanston, Illinois, USA. He is an approved supervisor and clinical fellow with the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy.